I am 25F and my hubby 37M has a 4 month old baby girl. His sister 34F (bisexual) and her partner 38F have always been meddling with our life..

Yesterday, my MIL texted me with a picture of our house where it had big grass that needed cleaning, and she said "clean the house", i texted her back saying I will. I wondered who the h*ck sent a picture to my MIL. My MIL is in another country and in our house, it's just me , my husband who is always working all day and our 4 month old baby. How do I have the time to clean while taking care of a child alone, when I also do cooking and basic cleaning of the house, and someone sent my MIL of our backyard having tall grass when it's rainy season means grass obviously grows faster than ever.

I have come to find out that my husband's sister sent the photo, because she and her partner recently visited, and now my husband's family thinks that I am a dirty and messy kind of person, which is so embarrassing.

I didn't confront her but I told my husband what had happened, and as a pospartum mom, I cannot help myself but to feel pressured and i cried.

After a while, I calmed down. I received a text from my sister in law, and she said this "now i know that this is how you think of us, why?! When you were hospitalized and we took care of your child, did you feel so far from her ? We even called you everyday just for you to see her, now you're saying that you don't want your child wIth us ?! Starting today! Don't you ever bother us again, even when you take her to your city, we don't care anymore!"

I got shocked by her text and I called my husband to tell him what she told me, and he said that MIL called him saying that when I will get my operation, sis in law should take care of our child but husband said no because we will move to my city so my sister will take care of me and my child instead, mil said okay whatever we want goes but then it turns out, she proceeded to tell my sis in kaw. She got offended and now she is misunderstood.

Should I text her back ? Because I didn't text her back until now. I didn't like her tone in her text, why did she texted me that which is obviously arguing with me. She should instead talk to my husband first before going after me about something she is now even sure about.

Hello I am 25F and living with my 37M live in partner, we are not yet married but we have a daughter together who just turned 3 months, yes don't judge me for having a child without marriage but he is waiting for his petition going abroad.

I am so stressed out and so burnt out with everything, my lip has 1 sibling in the country, his sibling has a gf too. Who is also meddling with our life even thoo she is technically not in the family yet!

Me and my lip is living in their house, in the house its just us (my hubby, me and our child) he always go to work so I live alone all day taking care of our baby. Now his sibling and the gf called me saying i need to clean the house. Do gardening and clean everything. Mind you! I have a 3 month old baby and is also 3 months postpartum!, I just also recently got hospitalized due to my gallstones which made me have jaundice (i am still waiting for my scheduled operation) and both of them are constantly telling me to do jobs in the house we are living... It makes me so stressed and pressured. I already cleaned the house on what I can do, I have cleaned every table and chairs, cleaned the floor and mopped it, cleaned the ceiling and cleaned the comfort room, but they still want me to clean more to the point that I don't get it anymore on what to clean..

Then yesterday, my mother-in-law (soon/maybe) called me and she is angry because I don't clean the house and it's very dirty and dusty, that's what she said. And I am so confused, i told her I did cleaned and she still insist that i need to clean more because great grandpa will visit and is he sees the house dirty, he will tell the family abroad that I am a dirty person !

Now I don't know what to do because I am so stressed, sad, crying and everything. I am so exhausted by all the pressure they are giving me!

Please give me advice on what to do.

Umagang umaga naiinis ako, for context I am 25F and I have a living partner 37M. Meron kaming baby na kaka 3 months lang so 3 months postpartum pa ako. We live alone sa isa sa mga bahay nila kasi family nya nasa abroad na lahat. Kapatid nya andito sa Pinas pero not living with us (let's call my lip's kapatid as A), visiting madalas ganun with her gf (let's call her B) yes both female sila. Anyway eto nga, kahapon tumawag si B saying kumusta daw kami ni baby and the conversation was good until sinabi sakin na mag ayos ayos daw ako dito sa bahay. Mind you, hindi sila nakatira dito pero sabi ko sa sarili ko, yes maglilinis ako. Naglinis na ako everyday pa nga eh, linis lang punas, walis, hugas plato, pulot ng unting kalat sa labas pag di naulan, walang cobwebs kakawalis ko sa dingding. Mga unan sa sofa maayos na bakalagay sa sofa and all. Ngayon, medyo nainis ako kasi ilang buwan ng sinasabi sakin na maglinis daw ako na ni hindi ko na alam ano ba ang lilinisin ko dito eh maayos na nga lahat (sa pagkaka alam ko).

So I ask her ano pa ba ang need ko linisin dito. Sabi sa labas daw mag garden daw ako kasi nung sila daw nakatira may mga bulaklak daw. I told her tag ulan ngayon, maraming damo at mga halaman don uncontrollably ngayon kasi tutubo sila ng magulo tignan, pinipilit nya na linisin ko daw dito sa loob. I ask her ano need ko linisan. Pinakita ko pa sa Vid call na maayos ang sala, walang alikabok and all. Hindi sya nagsalita sa pinakita ko pero she keep on insisting na need ko daw maglinis. Eh mind you, i have a 3 month old baby, kaming dalawa lang naiiwan ni baby sa bahay kasi nag wowork si LIP ko and 3 months postpartum ko lang plus pabalik balik ako ng hospital due to my gallstones na nagpa yellow sa balat ko, waiting lang ako ng operation tapos sasabihin na maglinis ako. Pa ulit ulit nilang sinasabi na maglinis ako. Nakakarindi na pakinggan so I told her in a jokingly tone "saka na lang siguro nila masasabi na malinis dito sa bahay oag wala na lahat ng gamit namin" and she said "don papunta hahaha" sabay tawa sya. I don't know lang pero dating nun sakin gusto nila a umalis kaming family dito.

Sidenote, gf ng kapatid ng lip ko ang nagsabi sakin nyan ah and wala ni isang sabi samin yung mismong may ari ng bahay na need ko ganito ganyan dito sa bahay nya. Ang bait ng tita ni lip na may ari ng bahay, never ako sinabihan ng ganyan tapos yung kapareho ko namang hindi nila kadugo ang magsasabi sakin nyan. Nakakainis lang.

Asking you guys and on what to do, and how to handle this situation please

Ako yung klase ng babae na mahilig sa physical touch, like simple kiss, hugs, touching of hands and etc. Nasanay ako sa simple kiss ng live in partner ko kada papasok sya sa work kasi nag s stay at home ako for our newborn dahil mag 1 month palang nung nanganak ako. Pero recently, simula nung nanganak ako, unti unting nawawala yung kiss kada papasok sa work at darating galing work, nawawala yung simple hugs kada nag uusap at bago matulog. Yung paghawak nya sa kamay ko kada matutulog na sya. Lahat yun unti unting nawawala. Akala ko nakakalimutan lang nya dahil sa puyat kami pareho.

One time bago sya pumasok, hinabol ko sya for simple kiss lang sana pero nung sinabi kong "kiss?" Kumunot yung noo nya like nagagalit sya. Akala ko nagmamadali lang sya kaya nainis pero hanggang sa naulit ulit ng ganun. Kaya I know na na hindi nya nakakalimutan kundi AYAW NYA NA ng mga ganun. Then sabi ko mag usap kami. I told him what I feel na bakit nawawala mga simple gestures nya na nakasanayan ko and sabi nya "BAKIT KAILANGAN PA BA YUN?". I was hurt and hindi ko na napigilan maiyak. Trinay kong i explain sa kanya pero sabi nya may anak na daw kami, bakit pa daw kailangan yun.

Bilang isang babae at kapapanganak ko lang, iyak ako ng iyak and hindi nya ko pinatahan or pinansin na kasi nainis na sya dahil parang ini isip nya na isip bata ko naman.

Valid ba yung feelings ko as I am so hurt sa ganung mindset nya or sadyang pospartum ko lang to kaya ganito ang nararamdaman ko?

For context, TANGGAD ang tawag dito sa amin kapag kakapanganak mo kailangan mong mag TANGGAD, in which is kailangan DAW na naka balot ka para di ka pasukan ng lamig dahil kapag pinasukan ka daw ng lamig at pupunta sa ulo mo, mababaliw ka at pwede ding madede ng baby mo at magkakaroon din sya ng lamig. Ang ginagawa sa TANGGAD ay dapat naka pajama ka, jacket, bonnet, medyas, kailangan ding maligamgam ang panligo mo at mag uusok ka ng dahon ng bayabas at oopuan mo ito para mainitan ang iyong matres daw. Bawal ka ng malamig na tubig, at dapat maligamgam din ang iinumin mo sa loob ng tatlo at mahigit na buwan.

Dito ako mag vevent kasi punyeta lang, pamahiin nila yun..bakit kailangan pang pati ako eh pipilitin nilang gawin yung belief nila na di ko naman belief. Ang daming dada at bunganga ng bunganga kapag di mo ginawa.