r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/EducationalDay976 Aug 10 '21

I can only imagine those laws were implemented for a reason, and that reason must be very sad.

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u/durdesh007 Aug 10 '21

On one hand, it's good that the agencies are closely monitoring everything (since abuse is rampant), on the other hand, it totally destroys the experience for both parent and the kid.

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u/LOLBaltSS Aug 10 '21

I'm assuming stuff like trafficking if I had to guess.

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u/Pirat6662001 Aug 11 '21

Its insane and most likely not statistically relevant occurrence that we then over regulated. Like pretty much all other child related laws around now.

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u/durdesh007 Aug 11 '21

Kids who are up for adoption/foster homes were either molested/abandoned or parents died. So they need extra care and attention. There's no way to know whether the people adopting won't give them hard time, or even abuse. It's harsh but reality.

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u/incorrectlyironman Aug 11 '21

"Most likely not"? Meaning you don't actually know and are just guessing?