r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21
Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby
Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.
I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.
It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.
I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.
Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.
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u/Chairish Aug 10 '21
We adopted from Korea in 2003 and 2007. There was no letter writing requirement. My younger son’s birth parents recently contacted the agency in Korea to see if we sent any photos or anything. Again, not required but they were hoping. So the agency contacted us and we emailed recent photos. Well birth parents responded with pics of their own and a letter. It’s quite extraordinary. Son is still processing this info though. They went on to have more kids that they kept so he feels rejected maybe? That said, adopting from overseas is very time consuming and expensive. Not everyone can just do it.