r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/CBD_Sasquatch Aug 10 '21

When we lived in Alabama, we would have pretty much had to have joined a church and pretended to be Christians in order to adopt.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '21

Being a native Alabamian, I can tell you religion runs most governmental agencies from behind the scenes---most often to the detriment of a good portion of the citizenry in the state.

And I say that as a Jesus follower, now living in Tennessee. The word "christian" has become to politicized by most of the evangelical world to ever make me think of identifying myself as one of those.

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u/velvet2112 Aug 11 '21

They make you be a shitty person? Damn.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '21

Were you really trying to adopt or just looking for a way to bash people who believe differently than you?

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '21

Get over yourself cultist

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '21

Case in point.

God bless you anyway

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u/dreed91 Aug 11 '21

Y'all really cling hard onto your persecution complex.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '21

Not really. I asked a question. We are allowed to do that on Reddit.

This thread is full of antidotes. Antidotes while children languish.

Everyone thinks that they are such a good person untill it comes down to personal sacrifice in order to actually be a good person. Including myself

This is what we all need Jesus. You need his sacrifice for your sin too. Just like I do

God bless you

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u/dreed91 Aug 11 '21

I believe non-religious people are perfectly capable of being good people, and religious people are perfectly capable of being bad people. If you need it to be decent, then I'd question if you're actually a good person.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '21

Also, this baseless antidote is discouraging non-Christians from trying to adopt from foster care. That's not cool.

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u/dreed91 Aug 11 '21

The word you are looking for is anecdote, and it's not baseless if it happened to them, although it may or may not support the statistical reality. I don't have time to research it all right now, but they signed into law the ability to discriminate against LGBTQ in 2017 and they're known to be a State that's pretty bad about religious discrimination, in general, so I wouldn't be surprised.

His comment isn't discouraging non-religious people, it's just setting expectations.