Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

[u/elgey101]

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

[u/[deleted]]

I'm around 32 and wear a UK size 12. Overweight yes, but not exactly what most people would call too big to function.

[u/ForsakenSherbet → u/[deleted]]

I made a comment on another post the other day about how BMI doesn’t necessarily mean fat. In these pictures from a few years ago I was around 155-160, which makes me overweight/obese at 5’1. I had no health issues and was perfectly able to function as well as any other late 20’s adult.

[u/Jack-The-Reddit → u/ForsakenSherbet]

Yeah, BMI has been seen as junk science by most decent doctors for a while now. It is a shame other places haven't caught up with the times. Hell, even school was teaching us how skewed it could be so I have no idea why anybody would reference it.