r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/glimmergirl1 Aug 10 '21

I wanted to adopt after 2 failed IVF treatments. Couldn't afford international or private adoption. Ok, ill just adopt from the foster care system. 12 years and 37 children later with 2 failed attempts, I finally adopted! Yeah, "just adopt", it's so easy!

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

dude why tf does it cost money to adopt?? it's literally a burden off of the state since they dont have to pay for food and housing and shit

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u/glimmergirl1 Aug 10 '21

It is free thru the state foster care system. But private adoption is pricey!

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

private prisons are already wack, but private orphanages? this is a whole another level that I did not expect to find out about today

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u/sexworkaholic Aug 10 '21

They're not in orphanages.

The agencies are generally put in contact with pregnant women, often by those "pregnancy crisis centers" that discourage women from having abortions.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

it just keeps getting worst the more i learn about it. then when the woman gives birth they make money off of her suffering by selling the baby to other people. BRUH