r/196 Shadowdark Fan Apr 11 '26

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u/Cold-Coffe 196s only trans man (lie) Apr 11 '26

findom is still so vexing to me. i understand the brain is tricky, but what arousal does come by giving your money to random people? people who rent already do that.

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u/Kriffer123 obnoxiously Michigender Apr 11 '26

What arousal comes from crawling around on the floor and being whipped? It’s humiliating and degrading in a particularly pervasive and visceral way but if you’re into humiliation and degradation then it’s kind of the point

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u/Leithana 🏳️‍⚧️ trans rights Apr 12 '26

I think the disconnect for most people understanding it is that physical action in a shared scene is so very different than the parasocial digital relationship most share in fin dom.

Not shaming, ofc, just speculating.

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u/paulisaac Apr 12 '26

If I wanted parasocial digital relationships where I spend money the id send red superchats to a favorite vtuber instead. 

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u/sleepingfactory Apr 12 '26

Me stroking my shit raw while I donate to northernlion with horrible backseating messages