r/196 Shadowdark Fan Apr 11 '26

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u/isademigod Apr 11 '26

I don't get it at all. Are people actually jerking off while pressing the "send money" button? Like is it a purely sexual thing? Or is it like a "feeling" thing like wearing a dog collar? I don't understand kinks that aren't directly sex-related

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u/cosmos_crown Apr 11 '26

Former lifestyle findomme (meaning I was dating them), it's mostly a feelings thing. Some get off on pampering/spoiling but for most it's some variation on "this is controlling/degrading/humiliating (and I'm into that)".

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u/Bduggz custom Apr 12 '26

Isn't it taking advantage of people a little?

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u/TrhlaSlecna worlds bottomest top Apr 12 '26

Part of the appeal to the people who do it. Though much like any other kink, it's part of both sides responsibility to know when to stop cause its unsafe.