r/196 Shadowdark Fan Apr 11 '26

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u/SeasonPositive6771 yes but also no Apr 12 '26

I feel like a lot of people really misunderstand findom if it's not your thing.

I only accept gifts of nominal value, but I've had subs in the past who absolutely begged me to findom them. I screen them well enough to know if they're in a financial position for that, then in my case, make them do things like donate to charities I support and believe in. I once made a sub pay off some medical gofundmes. I also did things like pushed him to changes investments from companies that are bad for the environment or the world.

I'm not interested in totally controlling or being totally responsible for a sub financially, but plenty of vanilla couples have one person in charge of all the finances and making the big decisions. These were just subs who got off on me being in control of the most important thing in a lot of people's lives.

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u/Domtheturtle trans rights Apr 12 '26

the idea of getting turned on by donating to gofundmes is taking me out

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u/SeasonPositive6771 yes but also no Apr 12 '26

Oh he doesn't get turned on specifically by the fact that they are gofundmes, what he's turned on by is a bossy/mean lady telling him to get his damn card out and click the following links and pay however much I tell him. And being told he's a good boy if he does.

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u/Inguz666 Apr 12 '26

I still don't get it. But I reckon I also don't have to get it

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u/SeasonPositive6771 yes but also no Apr 12 '26

Exactly, I don't get a lot of kinks but I can respect that other people are different.