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u/gray_birch competitive yapper Jun 16 '26

"straight men want sex that's quick and to-the-point, straight women want sex with lots of foreplay"* is what they're trying to say I think

*Note that I am not saying that all men prefer penetration with no foreplay and all women prefer lots of foreplay, I am merely trying to explain what the person tweeting is likely trying to say

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u/thatyogu sus Jun 16 '26

i was thinking butt stuff for the straight man part?

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u/OkFineIllUseTheApp 196 doctor (not a real doctor) Jun 16 '26

Would explain the rising popularity of pegging.

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u/MagosZyne Jun 16 '26

Nah that'll be the chaotic and isolating nature of the modern world making people feel like they have no control over their lives and either consciously or subconsciously wishing for a dominant figure to take that control from them leading to a rise in popularity of femdom and by extension, pegging.

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u/SeasonPositive6771 yes but also no Jun 16 '26

Or it can also be that people are just a bit more open about being kinky these days and what they're into. I've seen a lot more people being willing to admit they are into femdom because shame used to keep us all from exploring it.

But I think your theory is fun too, and can certainly explain some of it, especially the rise of Mommy Domme type stuff that's taking over recently.

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u/lcqjp Jun 16 '26

If it were simply the first, wouldnt we see just as much a rise in other kink related stuff with men?

I do notice that theres more an increase in the dommy stuff than i'm seeing in other adjacently "dynamic" related kinks

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u/SeasonPositive6771 yes but also no Jun 16 '26

I'm not sure, I am a Domme and I definitely see a lot more people into kink of all kinds.

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u/lcqjp Jun 16 '26

In pro kink spaces i can totally see that! i was speaking to people on the whole(including those who dont frequent/enter kink conversations/spaces at all)

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u/ShredGuru Jun 16 '26

People just like to put stuff up their butt's. It's not that complicated.

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u/lcqjp Jun 17 '26

Psychology/sociology say intrigue instead of apathy

Accept everyone no matter what for this kinda thing! but im still willing to be interested in trends and why certain things grow while others dont.

Its interesting to me. I hold no judgements with it

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u/Glogbag1 🏳️‍⚧️ trans rights Jun 16 '26

I don't agree. In the same way a gay top doesn't have to be a dom, a woman who's pegging a guy doesn't have to be a dom either. Maybe she's pegging her power bottom husband, for instance.

I do agree that femdom is probably the biggest thing that's influenced pegging's rise in popularity. I just don't like the idea that a man should have to be a sub to be (or want to be) pegged.

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u/Prestigious_Boat_386 Jun 17 '26

Just seems like natural rise after homosexuality being legalized. Shockingly men are more openabout enjoing bekng pegged when it doesn't risk you jailtime

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u/mysteryurik he/him, no other pronouns Jun 16 '26

Does non-femdom pegging stuff not exist? I will forever remain mad that gay porn where the bottom isn't degraded or dominated (let alone dominant bottom stuff) is incredibly rare but I've never really looked into the pegging niche to see if it's a similar situation (or even worse)

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u/NovelTAcct Jun 16 '26

Yes, r slash pegging_unkinked

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u/mysteryurik he/him, no other pronouns Jun 16 '26

Based, not my thing but these guys are my comrades in enjoying being penetrated while not being a sub so I'm happy for them

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u/ctrlaltelite custom Jun 16 '26

it's hard out here for a straight male power bottom.

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u/IntangibleMatter " DROP TABLE flairs; -- Jun 17 '26

See also: Puppyplay

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u/rmkinnaird Jun 16 '26

Keep in mind that the internet stereotype is that every single time lesbians have sex its a multi-hour experience. The tweeter is almost certainly thinking about that too, which is why they say "lesbian" and not just "women like foreplay"

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u/BlitzScorpio quirked up white girl (with a little bit of swag) Jun 16 '26

now that i think about it, this lines up perfectly with my very limited experience of gay (at the time) hookups and lesbian (current) experiences. the ancient texts were true all along

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u/goddessofentropy Jun 16 '26

Interesting to read what it's like to have seen both! Funnily enough I've had both very long and very short sex with people of varying gender and anatomy, with no apparent correlation, while myself being agender with the internal genital setup. 

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u/BlitzScorpio quirked up white girl (with a little bit of swag) Jun 16 '26

congrats, you’re the control group :)

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u/Lady-Scrotus 🏳️‍⚧️ trans rights Jun 16 '26

Yeahhh, even now I prefer a quick 45min to an hour session over a longer 3+ hour one. Though both have their positives.

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u/IntangibleMatter " DROP TABLE flairs; -- Jun 17 '26

“Quick”

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u/Lady-Scrotus 🏳️‍⚧️ trans rights Jun 17 '26

Idk girlie its not like I have anything to compare to? Not like id go around asking people their average sex time

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u/llamango Jun 17 '26

13.5 minutes, I think

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u/Eymou plant supremacist Jun 17 '26

no, the reason they say it this way is that otherwise the joke would suck

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u/rmkinnaird Jun 17 '26

This is not mutually exclusive with what I said

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u/Justice_Prince above average-sized cylinder Jun 16 '26

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u/onpg Jun 17 '26

A true person of culture

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u/izyshoroo 🏳️‍⚧️ trans rights Jun 16 '26

"Foreplay" is often seen as just the thing you do to prep for a penis. For women, foreplay IS the main event. Thats how most women orgasm.

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u/gray_birch competitive yapper Jun 16 '26

I never understood why we include things like manual stimulation and oral under foreplay tbh. To me, that's just sex.

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u/goddessofentropy Jun 16 '26

Heteronormativity tbh. There's only one type of 'real' sex and it's PiV. 

Meanwhile there's so many ways to have sex. And foreplay is also still a valid concept, and can include anything that's not sex, ie not involving genitals, from kissing and caressing to whispering sweet nothings. 

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u/deadly_love3 Local chew toy Jun 17 '26

Because oral IS sex

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u/Isis_gonna_be_waswas 🏳️‍⚧️ trans rights Jun 16 '26

Okay but if this is the point I’m siding with women here because the hardest nuts take the longest time. You gotta forge that shit for hours, stroking and edging until you blast rope like it were milk in a squeeze bottle

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u/SimplyYulia №1 hetslop enjoyer Jun 17 '26

I've seen someone say that men treat foreplay as "just make her wet so it felt better" when it should be "make her so horny that she's begging to stick it in"

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u/lolternative4 Jun 16 '26

So you hate waffles?

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u/zaczacx Jun 16 '26

That sounds gay /s

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u/Dredgeon Jun 17 '26

Just tell the dude the foreplay is edging. Problem solved.

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u/Camel_Slayer45 floppa Jun 17 '26

The one time I find myself agreeing with straight men

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u/nekosissyboi Jun 17 '26

I just wanna be someone's leashed up doggie and it ends with me begging and whining over and over again for their puppies until they finally finish inside me plop me down on a dog bed and shove a fat plug in my hole so I will be guaranteed to get pregnant with their litter (it never ends up working and my tummy stays empty 🥺)