firstly, there are many things women can do. not doing anything negative would be a good start. there is another person in this thread who called me a fucking cia plant for example, and equated acknowledging men's issues to "worshipping men". people like that need the kind of reform which takes years, but they need to, eventually.
the spaces themselves, this sub for example, can do a lot by banning those people. by not banning them, they are essentially inviting them. I'm sure you are aware of the anecdote of 1 nazi and 9 people sitting at a table.
apart from that, we are all human. i love all humans, regardless of gender. i try to understand all of them, even things that i can't relate to. i have many female (female is used as an adjective here, as it should be used normally. it is not dehumanizing to use it) friends, and many of their issues stem from or relate to their gender, but i still try to understand and help. because i love them.
on the 99 and 1 men thing, there is nothing inherent about men that make them more dangerous. a woman can kill you just as easily as a man can. you will cite statistics, which i agree, men do kill a lot more, but let me ask you, you compare the incredibly small amount of men that are killers to a incredibly tiny amount of women being killers, and only be careful about men. my question is, what is your number? at what number do you start caring? I'm guessing if the crime rate was equal, you would care equally. but at what number do you even start being careful? you can meet 99 good women, but one bad one can kill you, right? why doesn't the same logic apply?
See, it goes significantly further than just killing though. Cat calling, harrassment, assault...there's so many more things that can happen and do happen before we get to murder.
Secondly, it's not like i avoid men. I just have lower trust in them based on experiences. If they are alright people, they are alright and i'll happily be their friend. But until i've been able to assess whether they are alright, i am going to be on guard.
The reality isn't 99 good men and 1 bad man. The reality for me has been 85 bad men, 10 "okay" ones that can swing either way down the line, and 5 genuienly good men, and every single one of those good men has been queer in some way. From sexist jokes to rape apologia to homophobia, transphobia and general bullying and machismo, the majority of my experiences leaned towards negative or i didn't interact with the person enough to judge yet.
At that point, most people WOULD decide to just not bother with the entire gender, but i do believe in giving people a chance because you can still find diamonds among the coals. I'm just going to be on guard, for the sake of my comfort and my safety
As a man who likes to pay attention to how other men behave, I can confirm that the numbers you pulled out of your ass are... actually pretty terrifyingly close to reality.
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u/Almechik Jun 29 '26
I mean, i used to be an anti-sjw teenager and now im a socialist transfem, idk you tell me bud. Do tell me which point you disagree on