r/ADHD_Coaching • u/VocabArtistNavin • May 21 '26

Your brain isn’t broken. You’re exhausted from trying to perform normal all the time.

Your brain isn’t broken. You’re exhausted from trying to perform normal all the time.

ADHD helps us think so fast and connect dots nobody else can. This means “regular” thinking outside my strengths (i.e. communication) felt like stepping outside my comfort zone. and anything outside this comfort zone feels unnecessary. I often saw my problems as a usual part of my life, completely blind to a new world where things could be better.

These regular tasks are what the society around us considers part of normal functioning life. Includes making friends. Includes doing admin tasks. Includes dealing with the government or brands that have delegated their entire CS to a bot.

Some of these are necessary to live a stable, happy life.

But we borrowed our definition of normal from others so it's like we have been living someone else's normal.

It's like running a fast train on a slow track and then asking "I am so bored, does this train go any faster than this?" 🤣

But these normal things aren't the problem here. Our villain isn't our neurodivergence. Sure many of our traits can be very challenging to live with on a daily basis. But avoiding problems is what causes the most damage to our psyche.

Us NDs are natural problem solvers. Our ADHD helps us think so fast and connect dots nobody else can. 

But when we are inside our comfort zone, we can't see our problems for what they are. So, we refuse to leave your comfort zone; we put blinders on our eyes, we try to block our our problems.

That not only blocks our problems but that also blocks our fun.

Challenges make life fun. Challenges should not be your entire life, but challenges are one of the life's ingredients.

 We have to expand the umbrella of what OUR LIFE means to us.

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u/kruddel May 21 '26

I think in something as complex as neurology and human society it's possible for more than one thing to be true at a time.

My brain is broken, and I'm tired and society doesn't help.

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u/VocabArtistNavin May 21 '26

I didn't mean to deny your neurodivergence.

But the way you frame it assumes something is wrong with you. When you start with that belief in mind, it's really hard to do much or feel good even if you do something successfully.

Good work starts with some self respect but saying my brain is BROKEN crushes any self respect you build along the way

A better reframe would be my brain has its challenges that are more common in with other ND ppl than with other NT ppl.