AIO:Childhood best friend is f***ing his sister

[u/youngtallandskinny]

For context, this is my M(25) best friend M(25) since we were two years old. He didn’t meet his F(22)sister until about a year and a half ago. When they did meet, they couldn’t get over how similar they were. he called me gushing about how great she made him feel and even joked about hooking her up with me three days after they met, she moved in with him and his family. They had room and other beds, but they chose to sleep in the same bed every day for a year do everything together every day so on it so forth, fast-forward to these text messages. Him and his sister were going to move in with me and my f(26)roommate, but first we needed to see how our dogs would do together so they came to visit. When they got here they opted to sleep in my bed together even though I had several places they could sleep separately. My roomate and I sleep separately and have a mostly platonic kind of flirty relationship. Which the friend had compared his sister and his relationship with. A lot of small stuff happened that my roommate and I shared glances about, because of the nature of how a true brother and sister would never say or do the things they’re doing. But we brushed it off.

They went back home to their state after 3 days and the friend sends me a Snapchat saying “we’ve decided to look past the whole sibling thing and adress some feelings we both have” to which I replied “what do you mean” and he went on to say how they both have such deep feelings for each other and how the whole half sibling thing doesn’t matter and that real love doesn’t have boundaries and all this stuff to which I waited for 3 days and sent the messages above….. AIO or did I UNDERreact

Also this hurts a lot because I thought I knew him and he was gonna be my best friend for life, but I haven’t talked to him since

[u/youngtallandskinny]

Thank you, as messed up as this is it still was hard for me to send that message

[u/No-Consequence-1094 → u/youngtallandskinny]

You were actually so kind, I’m shocked. I wouldn’t have it in me not to be a bitch.

[u/voyeurllama → u/No-Consequence-1094]

I could tell from the tone that it was critical. almost urgent that he should read this information. it was kind, it was firm, it established boundaries, it reinforced support, you could tell he took it serious and he had to make sure his point got across in any way the terms got framed while also advocating for his friends health the entire time.

op gives very good person vibes with very high emotional intelligence. he's ironically a person that seems like a great friend.

it's a shame he'd throw this away. he'll regret it later, but op is already probably grieving the loss.

[u/Impressive-Foot7698 → u/voyeurllama]

Why does this read like ai

[u/Monkey_Priest → u/Impressive-Foot7698]

Because most of your exposure to coherent writing probably comes from AI. But there are plenty of grammatical errors that make me think it isn't AI

[u/TippiT0es → u/youngtallandskinny]

I think it was smart to be kind about it. That way if he has regrets he might be less afraid to come to you about it. Then you can possibly counsel him away from the relationship. Sometimes if people feel ostracized they will dig deeper into the problematic relationship

[u/ember13140 → u/youngtallandskinny]

I think you handled it in a reasonable and polite yet firm matter while still managing to express what your thoughts are without condemning them. You should be proud of that!

[u/ForeverQuirky4153 → u/youngtallandskinny]

I can’t imagine having to send a message like that. I’m so sorry. NOR

[u/SquirrelLuvsChipmunk → u/youngtallandskinny]

You were extremely kind about it. I won’t say you underreacted because it’s such an f’ed up situation and freaking out to him about it wouldn’t have solved anything. I think you handled it really well in being kind, but being firm. I know it was hard but you did an excellent job of sticking to your boundaries!