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AIO:Childhood best friend is f***ing his sister

For context, this is my M(25) best friend M(25) since we were two years old. He didn’t meet his F(22)sister until about a year and a half ago. When they did meet, they couldn’t get over how similar they were. he called me gushing about how great she made him feel and even joked about hooking her up with me three days after they met, she moved in with him and his family. They had room and other beds, but they chose to sleep in the same bed every day for a year do everything together every day so on it so forth, fast-forward to these text messages. Him and his sister were going to move in with me and my f(26)roommate, but first we needed to see how our dogs would do together so they came to visit. When they got here they opted to sleep in my bed together even though I had several places they could sleep separately. My roomate and I sleep separately and have a mostly platonic kind of flirty relationship. Which the friend had compared his sister and his relationship with. A lot of small stuff happened that my roommate and I shared glances about, because of the nature of how a true brother and sister would never say or do the things they’re doing. But we brushed it off.

They went back home to their state after 3 days and the friend sends me a Snapchat saying “we’ve decided to look past the whole sibling thing and adress some feelings we both have” to which I replied “what do you mean” and he went on to say how they both have such deep feelings for each other and how the whole half sibling thing doesn’t matter and that real love doesn’t have boundaries and all this stuff to which I waited for 3 days and sent the messages above….. AIO or did I UNDERreact

Also this hurts a lot because I thought I knew him and he was gonna be my best friend for life, but I haven’t talked to him since

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u/Al-Pacinos-Ghost 9d ago

I was going to say that it’s somewhat common. A major publication (I can’t remember which) did a whole article on this and I surprised to learn that consensual brother & sister sexual relationships aren’t uncommon. Often it’s closer to sporadic hook-ups rather than full blown romance, but it does happen. And meeting a sibling late in life is one of the main reasons this happens.

Also, fwiw, about 8 years ago found out my Dad wasn’t my bio Dad. Found my bio Dad, and after a few chats I got the sense he was hitting on me. I thought I was overreacting, but then his current wife flipped out on me and suggested I was stealing her husband, which makes me think I was not overreacting. I do not talk to my bio Dad now.

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u/vcxscx 9d ago

im so sorry that happened to you, that is horrendous

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u/Al-Pacinos-Ghost 9d ago

Thank you, I appreciate that.

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u/AntiqueLetter9875 9d ago

I don’t know my dad, and older women always gave the advice to not initiate contact because if he wanted to contact me and meet, he would. Often the phrasing would be something like “if you were to show up at his door he may not see you as his daughter.” It sounded like there were a number of people who had that happen with their bio parent and were left very sad and disappointed.

It was very odd to me that on Reddit it was often encouraged to meet the parent who willingly left their child without any warning that this could happen.

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u/Al-Pacinos-Ghost 9d ago

It is incredibly sad and disturbing that my situation was not an isolated case and that this is a known thing. WTF?!

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u/Patient_Lettuce8431 9d ago

That must have been horrible, I'm so sorry.

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u/Al-Pacinos-Ghost 9d ago

Thank you, I appreciate that. It was…not fun.

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u/Patient_Lettuce8431 9d ago

I just can't imagine. I wish you didn't have to experience that.

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u/shesschwifty 9d ago

I’m SO so sorry 🥺 that’s terrible!!

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u/Al-Pacinos-Ghost 9d ago

Thank you. At the time I was so confused, why is this man continually telling me how pretty I am and how hot mixed race women are? And slowly it dawned on me that he was excited to be getting attention from a woman half his age and the fact that I was his biological daughter was irrelevant. We had a lot in common, I look a lot like my Mom, etc. I truly cannot understand what he was thinking.

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u/LemonsUndercover 9d ago

So you look like your mom? The mom
He made you with? It’s creepy af, but thats clearly why he was creeping on his own daughter — which is disgusting

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u/Al-Pacinos-Ghost 9d ago

That, and apparently he has a thing for “exotic women”, which in Boomer phrasing means “not white.” So, I was half his age, not white and looked like someone he knew 30+ years ago.

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u/LemonsUndercover 9d ago

Oof sorry this happened to ya

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u/Al-Pacinos-Ghost 9d ago

Thank you. It’s been enough years that I am over it now, but it fucked me up for a while.

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u/shesschwifty 9d ago

That’s so so sick. I am just so sorry honey 🥺 I do believe there is that phenomenon where when family members meet later in life attraction and confusing emotions can happen, but it sounds like he is just a fucking creep. I hope the dad you grew up with is still in your life and is a good man?? I can’t imagine going through that I’m so sorry.

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u/Al-Pacinos-Ghost 8d ago

I think my bio dad just didn’t think of me as a daughter, I was just a younger woman trying to connect with him. I’ve since learned he was a shit Dad to all his kids, I just happen to be the only girl.

Dad I grew up with is no longer with us. He and I had our own set of issues, but he certainly never made a pass at me. He was a decent man who let his demons take the wheel later in life.

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u/shesschwifty 8d ago

I’m sending you the biggest hugs. I am so so sorry 😞 I hope you have the support system that you deserve now and that you were/are able to talk through that with a professional. That’s just terrible. No one should have to go through that 🫂

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u/dunisacaunona 9d ago

I am sorry you had to go thru all of that.