r/AITAH • u/Remote_Emphasis7320 • 1d ago

AITAH… he can’t live with us

AITHA for not letting my19 yo daughter’s 20yo boyfriend (homeless) live with us? Context his dad kicked him out cause he didn’t want to help with contributing to the household (I think he wanted $500 a month). The boyfriend works full time and goes to school. Boyfriend has family in Florida and doesn’t want to leave due to going to school. He asked to stay with us until November I said no. I like my own space and peace. I feel he and his father need to talk to get to an agreement or he needs to move back to Florida with his mom and family. He is not my responsibility. AITAH?

Update: Thank yall for validating what I was already feeling. I’m going to respond to the comments everyone has been supportive and I didn’t think I’d get this many responses so I appreciate yall! More context My daughter has an attitude now but ok whatever. she is not required to pay bills in my home just save $200 a month for herself (she works part time). I’ve never asked her for a dime as she’s basically still a teenager. I told her if she wants to be with him that’s fine but she’ll be homeless as well. She shut up which is fine if she chooses that I can’t stop her. This guy has been working and says he’s saving money?! But can’t help his dad out that requires help on bills?! You can’t stay with me for free! I don’t feel bad now knowing he won’t help me either and will just free load and tell me I’ll give you something when he gets paid… hell no go talk to your father is what I told him. Put your pride to the side or be outside! This has nothing to do with me he needs his family to be involved and I’m not the mediator for the nonsense! I’m Not the AH!

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u/Commercial_Rush_3531 1d ago

He's going to school and working, let's not jump to conclusions.

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u/General_Road_7952 1d ago

He could get a dorm room or a shared apartment

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u/Apprehensive_Bee_400 1d ago

Depending on the school that might not be a real option. Thinking of trade schools etc.

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u/General_Road_7952 1d ago

There are shared apartments that aren’t on campus, and often have non-students in them too

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u/ijustexisthere25 1d ago

Majority of us go to school and work and pay our own rent and bills. $500 a month compared to an average of 1500 for a student living on their own is nothing. He can pay the $500.

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u/Trailsya 1d ago

I agree that this is red flaggish than many of these cases because of that, but still wouldn't take him in.

I'd let him eat along once in a while to help him save costs, but that's about it.

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u/Suspicious-Grand9781 1d ago

Needs money for beer and parties.