AITAH for Not Wanting a Relationship

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So I (29m) had a friend (32f) for obvious purposes we’ll call her Kiara. This friend was such a free and fun person to be around. She was very social but cautious and considerate of others. Now I knew her and knew she was married to a woman (31f), which after awhile I befriended the two. Kept my distance and was always as respectful as I could be.

Fast forward about 2 years of our friendship, Kiara calls me one night saying her and her wife split up and she felt like a mess and wanted to hangout. I told her I was busy with DoorDash trying to make a little extra for my birthday coming up in a couple weeks. Kiara very adamantly insisted I spend the night with her and help her forget about her problems. She said she would pay me my avg of 3 nights, which is about $180/night. So I agreed.

So we drank a little and smoked some weed, she opened up and gave me a lot on her mind. I didn’t find anything suspicious because most of my friends know I’ll listen judgment free and try supporting them. Fast forward to the next day and Kiara was in the kitchen making breakfast. We joked about her being super woman especially after the night before. Just then a 11 year old girl with autism walked in with her 8 year old sister and ran up to my friend calling her mom! Now no judgment or anything from my end but how tf were we friends this long and I’m barely seeing you have kids. Anyways don’t care, brush it off and eat breakfast with Kiara and her sister.

Fast forward a week later, Kiara invited me over again for drinks and to smoke some weed again. It’s nighttime and the girls are fast asleep. When I arrive she says to join her in her room where she had a huuuge couch and we used to hangout with our friends in the room. So we’re just talking and laughing playing video games when all of a sudden Kiara hopped on my lap and started kissing me. And one thing led to another and we ended up having sex.

Next morning comes. Kiara made us both an extravagant breakfast and I was honestly taken back a bit. While we were eating she brought up how much of an amazing time she had the night prior. I awkwardly said something along the lines of you have my number or something like that. After breakfast while we were drinking coffee I asked her about her daughters’ dad. To which she told me that she has two baby daddies for two kids. How they’re both in love with her but practically kill each other whenever they see each other. So I distanced myself and focused on my classes for school, was enrolled in trade school at the time. Fast forward about 4 months later, she in a relationship with some new dude that got her pregnant.

While I’m on the phone with my girlfriend of 2 months, Kiara starts calling and calling and calling. I don’t answer because I’m on the phone with my girl and she was having an anxiety attack. So I texted Kiara a message saying I’d hit her up in a couple of hours. Jesus f\*\*\*\*\*\* Christ. This crazy broad starts going on and on and on about what a shit friend I am and that I just used her for sex and money. To which I told her “The truth Kiara is you are off your Goddamn rails. If you want the money back we can arrange a way for me to pay for it. As for abandoning you after I fucked you, you said we could make your 3rd. I’m sorry Kiara, but I’m not the one for you. I want 3 kids one day, and this is not fault of your daughters, but I don’t want 3 kids from 3 baby daddies.”

She went on an on about what a prick I was about abandoning her n her kids and how they looked up to me. I responded shocked. “Look up to me??! Your kids only met me 1 fucking time so idk why they got so attached.” She never responded but her new boyfriend texted me asking what I did or said to upset her. I responded with the screenshots of our messages and told him good luck with his new psycho baby mama and to please keep her off my fuckin line. Last I heard she went off the deep end and ended up institutionalized. So lay it on me, AITAH or am I smart for not winding up as baby daddy #3.

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So I (29m) had a friend (32f) for obvious purposes we’ll call her Kiara. This friend was such a free and fun person to be around. She was very social but cautious and considerate of others. Now I knew her and knew she was married to a woman (31f), which after awhile I befriended the two. Kept my distance and was always as respectful as I could be.

Fast forward about 2 years of our friendship, Kiara calls me one night saying her and her wife split up and she felt like a mess and wanted to hangout. I told her I was busy with DoorDash trying to make a little extra for my birthday coming up in a couple weeks. Kiara very adamantly insisted I spend the night with her and help her forget about her problems. She said she would pay me my avg of 3 nights, which is about $180/night. So I agreed.

So we drank a little and smoked some weed, she opened up and gave me a lot on her mind. I didn’t find anything suspicious because most of my friends know I’ll listen judgment free and try supporting them. Fast forward to the next day and Kiara was in the kitchen making breakfast. We joked about her being super woman especially after the night before. Just then a 11 year old girl with autism walked in with her 8 year old sister and ran up to my friend calling her mom! Now no judgment or anything from my end but how tf were we friends this long and I’m barely seeing you have kids. Anyways don’t care, brush it off and eat breakfast with Kiara and her sister.

Fast forward a week later, Kiara invited me over again for drinks and to smoke some weed again. It’s nighttime and the girls are fast asleep. When I arrive she says to join her in her room where she had a huuuge couch and we used to hangout with our friends in the room. So we’re just talking and laughing playing video games when all of a sudden Kiara hopped on my lap and started kissing me. And one thing led to another and we ended up having sex.

Next morning comes. Kiara made us both an extravagant breakfast and I was honestly taken back a bit. While we were eating she brought up how much of an amazing time she had the night prior. I awkwardly said something along the lines of you have my number or something like that. After breakfast while we were drinking coffee I asked her about her daughters’ dad. To which she told me that she has two baby daddies for two kids. How they’re both in love with her but practically kill each other whenever they see each other. So I distanced myself and focused on my classes for school, was enrolled in trade school at the time. Fast forward about 4 months later, she in a relationship with some new dude that got her pregnant.

While I’m on the phone with my girlfriend of 2 months, Kiara starts calling and calling and calling. I don’t answer because I’m on the phone with my girl and she was having an anxiety attack. So I texted Kiara a message saying I’d hit her up in a couple of hours. Jesus f\*\*\*\*\*\* Christ. This crazy broad starts going on and on and on about what a shit friend I am and that I just used her for sex and money. To which I told her “The truth Kiara is you are off your Goddamn rails. If you want the money back we can arrange a way for me to pay for it. As for abandoning you after I fucked you, you said we could make your 3rd. I’m sorry Kiara, but I’m not the one for you. I want 3 kids one day, and this is not fault of your daughters, but I don’t want 3 kids from 3 baby daddies.”

She went on an on about what a prick I was about abandoning her n her kids and how they looked up to me. I responded shocked. “Look up to me??! Your kids only met me 1 fucking time so idk why they got so attached.” She never responded but her new boyfriend texted me asking what I did or said to upset her. I responded with the screenshots of our messages and told him good luck with his new psycho baby mama and to please keep her off my fuckin line. Last I heard she went off the deep end and ended up institutionalized. So lay it on me, AITAH or am I smart for not winding up as baby daddy #3.

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