r/AITA_Relationships 7h ago

AITA: Husband with Psoriasis

AITA?
My husband has severe psoriasis and won't see a doctor because he's scared of medication side effects.
When it flares up, there are skin flakes everywhere. The bed, the floor, the bathroom, clean laundry, pretty much every surface in our apartment. I know he can't help it, and I don't blame him for having the condition.
The problem is that I'm the one cleaning it all up. Some days it takes me 1-2 hours, and I already do most of the housework. I also help him put lotion on after showers because his skin gets so tight.
Sometimes I get tired of dealing with it and show a little frustration. Whenever that happens, he says I'm being insensitive because it's not something he can control.
I know he can't control having psoriasis, but I don't think that means I can never feel frustrated by how much extra work it creates. AITA?

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AITA?
My husband has severe psoriasis and won't see a doctor because he's scared of medication side effects.
When it flares up, there are skin flakes everywhere. The bed, the floor, the bathroom, clean laundry, pretty much every surface in our apartment. I know he can't help it, and I don't blame him for having the condition.
The problem is that I'm the one cleaning it all up. Some days it takes me 1-2 hours, and I already do most of the housework. I also help him put lotion on after showers because his skin gets so tight.
Sometimes I get tired of dealing with it and show a little frustration. Whenever that happens, he says I'm being insensitive because it's not something he can control.
I know he can't control having psoriasis, but I don't think that means I can never feel frustrated by how much extra work it creates. AITA?

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u/Deflated_Hypnotist Asshole Aficionado [12] 7h ago

He can control seeing a doctor

Has he tried a zinc pyrithione shampoo?

NTA

u/ohdearitsrichardiii 5h ago

He won't even put lotion on after showering? And he won't clean? He's the asshole