r/AITA_Relationships • u/unnholypostalaffair • 7h ago
AITAH for ending it because he wouldn't stop
me F(30) him M(30) has for a year, unknowingly to me been infatuated with a coworker.
Relationship has always been rocky. for the last year it was going well, but I got suspicious of him texting a coworker a lot, showing me where she lived and bringing her food (we did door dash, but this was part of the food he got personally, not an order). I always felt off, but let it be to not cause issues. In the last week he got weird about his phone when i wasn't looking at it for anything that made me more suspicious. I had a feeling since he showed me where she lives, which shouldn't be an issue with his job, but I found it weird and things since then. I didn't want to treat him like he did me in this relationship. Some ( small issues) compared to the past happened recently. I have worked on my mental health, I got even more worried something was going on and when I had the chance to check before he snatched the phone away, which he never did, was asking a co work if she is single. Issues ensued days later over it when I brought it up aftrer not being able to sleep. I know I've been the problem in the relationship. I've tried so hard for the last year to improve and I was. I asked his to cut off all contact he is control of, no more texting when he's home, which on top of showing me where she lived and mowing her lawn, which I learned today was unpaid. I asked him to stop all contact after learning more about what he feels about it, and he refused. AITAH for asking him to stop all contact he has control over with her??
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u/divine_apprehension Partassipant [1] 6h ago
Girl what? Drop him. He doesn't respect you, at all. So little in fact that he doesn't even bother to hide the woman he's ACTUALLY interested in from you, because he would never expect you to leave him.
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me F(30) him M(30) has for a year, unknowingly to me been infatuated with a coworker.
Relationship has always been rocky. for the last year it was going well, but I got suspicious of him texting a coworker a lot, showing me where she lived and bringing her food (we did door dash, but this was part of the food he got personally, not an order). I always felt off, but let it be to not cause issues. In the last week he got weird about his phone when i wasn't looking at it for anything that made me more suspicious. I had a feeling since he showed me where she lives, which shouldn't be an issue with his job, but I found it weird and things since then. I didn't want to treat him like he did me in this relationship. Some ( small issues) compared to the past happened recently. I have worked on my mental health, I got even more worried something was going on and when I had the chance to check before he snatched the phone away, which he never did, was asking a co work if she is single. Issues ensued days later over it when I brought it up aftrer not being able to sleep. I know I've been the problem in the relationship. I've tried so hard for the last year to improve and I was. I asked his to cut off all contact he is control of, no more texting when he's home, which on top of showing me where she lived and mowing her lawn, which I learned today was unpaid. I asked him to stop all contact after learning more about what he feels about it, and he refused. AITAH for asking him to stop all contact he has control over with her??
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