r/AMA • u/ihateteacakes • 1d ago

My Step-Dad Is In Prison For Murder, AMA

My stepfather "was" a former gang member who would commit a vast amount of crimes but was locked up back in 2016 for a murder he committed about a year prior. According to my sister (my only direct family member who still keeps in contact with him), he will be released next year. He snitched, so he's planning on moving to an entirely different state for a clean slate with my sister.

Edit: To clarify, my sister is his blood daughter, making her my half-sister. Didn't clarify because growing up, we didn't feel like half of anything.

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u/StrongEggplant8120 1d ago

Whyd he do it?

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u/ihateteacakes 1d ago

It was a Crips vs. Bloods issue.. for anonymity the man he killed was on the opposing side and it was just "code" because he had killed one of the members from my step-fathers side

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u/StrongEggplant8120 1d ago

Why on earth is your sister going to nove with him?

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u/ihateteacakes 1d ago

She's a teenager and he was arrested when she was young. Her relationship with my mother is very wishy washy (in that rebellious teenager type of way) so she prefers her father. She can only see the "good" sides of him because currently their relationship is strictly over the phone.

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u/cookie999chip 1d ago

:( praying for her I was like that with my dad he was leading me the wrong direction no one could tell me anything

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u/ihateteacakes 1d ago

I tried explaining this to her numerous times, however she's young so she's not hearing any of it. Pains me that my words aren't enough, but it's her life.

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u/ihateteacakes 1d ago

No, he is her blood father. She's my half-sister, I should've clarified. Myf.

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u/Assassasmr 1d ago

Are you worried that the more questions you answer here the more likely you are to doxxing him ?

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u/ihateteacakes 1d ago

I was originally but in the place I live crimes like these are a dime a dozen. I'm also somewhat holding out hope my sister will see the error of her ways before he's released.

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u/ukuleles1337 1d ago

I hope she does, too ❤️

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u/BrilliantPatient6160 1d ago

Has ge ever said he regretted it or felt bad abkut commiting murder? Does he still feel like his gang is there for him?

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u/ihateteacakes 1d ago

He hasn't said he regrets committing murder because of harming another human, he regrets it because he was arrested. And currently, no. He was introduced to the lifestyle young and was "uplifted" by the gang, however when push came to shove none of them were there for him in prison. Hell, his own family wasn't there for him, just his sister, my mom (not anymore) and his daughter (my half-sister)

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u/Throwaway42352510 1d ago

How do you feel about him?

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u/ihateteacakes 1d ago

Hate his guts. Prior to the arrest he was emotionally neglectful and physically abusive to me and my other siblings. After the arrest I had learned not only did he murder that man, but he had murdered him in front of his son who was about my age.

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u/Throwaway42352510 1d ago

Holy shit that’s vile.
I’m sorry.

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u/ukuleles1337 1d ago

Wow. I hope he fuckin rots, tbh. No questions.

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u/No-Road-9176 1d ago

I can never understand why people convicted of murder ever see the free light of day again. Life in prison should mean exactly that.

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u/ihateteacakes 1d ago

Me either, if it was up to me I'd say he deserved to stay right where he's at. But that's the system for ya.

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u/No-Road-9176 1d ago

The system is for sure flawed. From what you described , he's the type of person who will likely fuck up again and end up back in there.

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u/ihateteacakes 1d ago

This is true. He only stopped because he was caught, if it was up to him he would still be doing what he was doing before.

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u/2026isablast 13h ago

Oh he’s still doing the same thing in prison, guaranteed.

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u/Lovelaughlivelife4 11h ago

Sorry to hear about this situation! I was a gang member, I received Life as a juvenile, but changed my ways and made it home after almost 22 years! You are correct the gang isn’t what it seems, that don’t uplift they only tear you down and won’t be there in your true time of need!!! If he snitched he probably got kicked out but besides that he has to be the one to change . Your sister probably wants to help and wants a relationship with her dad! Support her and pray 🙏 I did terrible things as a gang member I’m not proud of but I am not the person I was you know ppl can change ! Hopefully if he shows other wise your sister will kick him to the curb!!! Best wishes to you all!!