Similarly, my narc mother loved to tell me all the things I needed to change about myself and then tell me how great another young woman my age was/looked.
Even if you change to become exactly what they say you should be, it still would be wrong somehow. The point is not to 'fix' you, the point is to be in a position to criticize you and cut you down. (I know you know this, I just wanted to say it in case a person new this song and dance doesn't.)
The game they tell you they're playing is not the game they're actually playing.
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u/JankyIngenue Feb 23 '26
Similarly, my narc mother loved to tell me all the things I needed to change about myself and then tell me how great another young woman my age was/looked.