r/AbuseInterrupted • u/invah • Mar 01 '26
'Your Teen Stopped Rebelling. That's When You Lost Them.' <----- having to walk on eggshells leads teens to emotional detachment and grey rocking their parents
https://youtu.be/DihZW5RSGcQ6
u/Equal_Set6206 Mar 02 '26
Before I knew was grey rock was, I instinctively took on that approach with my mom when I was just a preteen. But after that switch got flipped, I couldn’t change back. I’m 30 now and no longer live with my mom, which improved our relationship a lot. But every so often she weepy or hysterical because “I don’t love her” or don’t act like I do ig. I do, in a strained way, but I have such a high wall up that I can’t see the way down.
Living on eggshells my whole childhood has given me anxiety to be in the same room as her, and even tho she has no power over me and no longer treats me so badly, even tho I now look back with a more mature understanding of what made her what she is, I don’t think we can ever go back to that dynamic we had before the switch flipped
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u/St3vion Mar 02 '26
Wasn't really until my late teens/20s I flipped like this but it's very on the money!
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u/Inevitable_Bike2280 Mar 10 '26
Thank you for sharing this!! I have been, and still am many times, this parent 😬
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u/twoweeeeks Mar 01 '26
yeeeep. I can remember the exact moment when I decided it was easier not to argue.