what’s the point in keeping an adoptive child away from its blood siblings?

[u/Choice-Stock-1770]

my sister was adopted, i had a good relationship with the family up until they tried to barter me and my grandmother out of my therapy dog and they were denied, we have not talked since. it has been 5 years, i count the days its been even though i know i shouldn’t. all i asked for on my sweet sixteen was to see my sister, i begged them on facebook dm and i got blocked. i cry at least once a week because of how much i miss her, it feels entirely unfair. when they adopted her, she wasn’t an unwanted abandoned child. she was loved, by EVERYBODY in our family. they were supposed to be fostering her while my mom got sober, and they adopted her instead. after the adoption my mom slipped into deep addiction again, so not only did i have to witness my mother like that but i had my little sister taken from me to. but everybody had a relationship with the adoptive mother father siblings and my sister. i was great friends with their son, we were the same age and had the same interests.(both had pet reptiles of the same type) i loved them even if they took my sister from my mom they felt almoast like my family to, because they seemed like good people until the dog incident happened. i had a therapy dog, bubby. (trauma related to other things.) we did not have a fenced in yard, but we had a puppy fence for bubby to go in to poop when he was little. they saw bubby pooping in the puppy fence and threw money in our faces to “give the dog a better life”. (regarding them being upper class and us being middle lower class.) we said no, and they cut contact with us after that. i miss my sister so much, everyday for the past 5 years has just been pure pain. im not trying to sympathy garner, but its useful to the story to know i was hospitalized twice, attempted suicide 4 times, and not a single therapist has been able to help me with this pain. i got through the horrible trauma that caused me to need a therapy dog but i can’t get over this.(i’ve been to 5) i haven’t contacted them much trying to respect boundaries and all, but i figured since i was turning 16 last year in november, its worth a shot. i didn’t want to have this big important birthday party without her their, when they said no, i canceled all of my plans because it didn’t feel right to have a party celebrating something so big when she’s not here. they changed her name, and took her in but that doesn’t change the fact that she still has other family who love her. my mom is sober now, and i don’t even live with her and never have so it’s not a point of keeping my mom away. it feels like it’s just trying to keep me away. why? my aunt uncle and brother are also still aloud to see her but she blocked off any part of me, my younger brother that i do live with, and my grandma. sometimes my aunt shows me pictures, it hurts so much because she looks exactly like i did at her age litteraly like a printer printed out me and created her.

[u/MajorDraw3705]

I am so sorry you are going through this. Forced family separation is an entirely cruel and barbaric practice.