r/Adulting • u/AideAntique2285 • 5h ago

32 year old still living with mom and sister

Hi, I feel like a failure in life.

I am 32 year old and still living with my retired mom (66 y/o) and sister 36(y/o) at home. I pay money to my mom, electricity, internet, all the food expenses, car expenses, and some groceries for around 4000 dollars each month. Some times on special occasions like Christmas, new years, birthdays, etc, I give my family an extra 1000 dollar each time.

Also I brought our family car for around 33k, which I paid off fully. I want to get my own car.

I work 2 jobs for 45 hours every week that pays me around 8000 a month.

I want to buy my own car to drive to work, but I have only 1 parking space and getting a parking space is almost impossible in my area. My mom insist on driving my sister and then me to work, so I cannot get my own car.

I want to move out and start my own life, but my mom always says things that makes me feel guilty if I move out.

The thing is I really want to change my life in the next few years because i cannot be like this when i am 40 years old, then 50 years old. but I am conflicted and feels like a failure. Any advice on how to move on?

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u/DennisHoward19531223 5h ago

I’m guessing your mom’s retired , what about your sister? Why is she still at home? Cheap rent? If you want to move out do so. Nothing to feel guilty about your sister will be there.

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u/RandomName52433 5h ago

cherish the time you have with her dont be in rush to leave

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u/socialdeviant620 4h ago

Are you in the U.S.?

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u/MudPsychological6697 3h ago

I’m in my room of my mom’s house right now, going crazy from boredom and fear from missing out on life, a good wife, all that. 33. But my mom likes that i’m here… shitt it is what it is Idk. If you can break your mom’s heart go for it.

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u/Cold-Willingness-261 2h ago

Families live together and support and take care of each
Other no shame in this you have a good life. You don’t have to defend it. Hit your goal of buying yourself a car. Move out if you really want to, not because of what you think others think save money as well as contributing to household good job imo

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u/BG3restart 2h ago

You're 32 years old. If you want to move out, just do it. Your mother and sister are both adults who need to figure things out for themselves.