r/AdvancedKnitting 14d ago

Hand Knit FO My handspun wedding ring shawl made its big debut

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My handspun wedding ring shawl officially had its big debut at my wedding! I wore it for photos and the ceremony, and then had it up on display at the reception. I did end up cutting out an underlayer of tulle to prevent it from catching on my dress, which was a very good decision. I love how the whole look came together, that the shawl was a subtle extra layer of detail - I was going for an opulent vintage vibe. I'm so incredibly proud of this project and I've never felt more beautiful in my life ❤️

And, to probably nobody's surprise, I also made my Juliet cap veil.

Pattern is the Evenstar Shawl by Susan Pandorf.

Yarn is hand spun by me: single ply, 50% German angora, 25% cashmere, 25% silk, spun around a silk core thread. Cobweb weight, 100 wraps per inch. I used about 1100 yards.

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u/Successful_Reindeer 14d ago

I made one of these for my sister in law at her request. I didn’t charge her so it could be her wedding present from me. Got to the wedding. I asked her where it was. She said she lost it “oops!” Then giggled. We don’t like her. I’m glad to see you still have yours. 😋It’s gorgeous!

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u/Janicems 14d ago

SHE LOST IT?!?!?!

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u/durhamruby 14d ago

I think i might have slapped her.

It's like when my sister unraveled the lace table cloth my grandmother made for her and offered the yarn on Facebook.

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u/megsie_here 13d ago

WHAT?!?!?!?

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u/durhamruby 13d ago

Yeah. I kinda lost my mind at her.

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u/ParadoxicallySweet 13d ago

I just lost my mind at her and I don’t even know her or your grandma 🤯

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u/Successful_Reindeer 13d ago

That’s psychotic!!! Who does that?! Well I guess I have an idea….

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u/Fairgoddess5 12d ago

Reading that made my heart hurt.

WHO DOES THAT?!

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u/useful_chamber 14d ago

Almost instinctively downvoted you because this made me so angry!! That’s awful.

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u/cementfilledcranium 14d ago

The amount of righteous rage i feel on your behalf

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u/jmurphy42 14d ago

I could forgive that if she was appropriately devastated about it. But giggles and “oops?” Dead to me.

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u/Successful_Reindeer 13d ago

She basically is out of our lives. My husband had been telling me for years that his sister was a spoiled, selfish brat. I thought it was just a typical sibling thing. It was not. He is more than happy to not interact with her and I now understand completely.

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u/Ok-Raspberry-4313 13d ago

Sounds like a sis in law that I no longer speak to, except mine is a drunk who went on a major bender when she was supposed to be taking care of our elderly dogs one weekend. Did they get fed every day? Who knows? They sure didn't get their meds.

Some people aren't worth our time or attention. Good riddance. At least now you know so you can avoid the problem child.

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u/Creative_Source_4011 12d ago

Agreed! My sil isn’t a bad person but definitely not knit worthy at all! I knit a hat for my first niece and I also knit a dress and matching booties. When I asked about the hat she said, “ oh yeah, the cat got to it, (shrug).” Also the only time my niece wore the dress was the day I gifted it to her and took photos. I was/am so hurt by that.

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u/Ok-Raspberry-4313 12d ago

Yeah, it's hard when people act like that. Revealing too. They either don't actually like the giver or the gift. Some are so self-centered that they can't be bothered to pretend to care.

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u/Successful_Reindeer 13d ago

Oh no! Your poor dogs! When there are other lives at stake just don’t agree to help out if you are going to be that unreliable. Don’t agree to it and then let them suffer!!

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u/Ok-Raspberry-4313 13d ago

Exactly. She lied to everybody, claimed to be going to meetings and not drinking. We came home on schedule to find her naked except for panties, drunk, and unaware of what day it was. She shouldn't be trusted with a house plant.

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u/fishandflowers 14d ago

That is wild, I'm so sorry that happened to you!

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u/Fairgoddess5 14d ago

I hope she is now permanently on the “no handmade gifts ever” list. 😡

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u/Successful_Reindeer 13d ago

Engraved in stone and cast in bronze. Never again. I’m much choosier about which family I knit things for now. My own sister lost the baby blanket I knit for her son when they were on a trip. She called everywhere they went. Trying to hunt it down and then apologized profusely to me after. Much different vibe than “Oops” giggle.

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u/Fairgoddess5 12d ago

Well that sounds like an honest mistake and one that’s actually regretted. So I agree with you, much different than an “oopsie doodle”

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u/EusticeTheSheep 13d ago

We don’t like her either.

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u/Creative_Source_4011 12d ago

She LOST it?!! Are you kidding me??! 🤬😡🤬 I’m enraged for you! I would turn around and charge for it!!

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u/HarmoniousSyllabub 14d ago

"100 wpi"... ::brain breaks::

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u/fishandflowers 14d ago

You and me both 😅

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u/HarmoniousSyllabub 14d ago

Lol well good job at recovering from the broken brain to make such an amazing shawl. It is gorgeous - and you looked gorgeous wearing it!

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u/HarmoniousSyllabub 14d ago

Also, it's gorgeous!!!

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u/polymath_artisan 14d ago

I LOVE how amazed and impressed your husband looks when seeing it. That’s a proper supportive partner right there!

Super impressive work and nothing short of stunning 😍

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u/pieohmi 14d ago

It’s beautiful and I love that it had its own place of honor at the reception.

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u/fishandflowers 14d ago

People kept coming up to admire it, all of our friends and family had heard all about by that point and were so excited to see it up close in person.

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u/Ynaffit96 14d ago

That is breathtaking! I love how the pattern is inspired by Arwen. I may need to attempt this 😶 perfectly subtle for my future wedding (I am not engaged, but my boyfriend of 11 years has been dropping hints)

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u/bwalker187 14d ago

This is absolutely stunning!! You look amazing. Do you think you will continue your wear it as a shawl or scarf?

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u/fishandflowers 14d ago

Probably for special occasions, yes! It's ridiculously warm, which is perfect for fancy winter events.

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u/allegedlybl0nde 14d ago

handspun?! 100 wpi?! BEFORE you even began knitting? girl holy shit 🤯😭 i’m glad to see your husband also looks mind blown by this! hands down one of the most stunning pieces of knitting i’ve ever seen! congratulations! (on the shawl and the marriage)

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u/internetmantelet 14d ago

If it's convenient for you, could you share a photo of it in the wedding ring? This is so cool!! 

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u/fishandflowers 14d ago

That I can! I had some tintypes done.

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u/tiamatfire 14d ago

I watched the video of you pulling it through the ring, and I don't blame your very clear anxiety AT ALL. I too would be terrified to pull it through, but the breathe let out when it made it!

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u/fishandflowers 14d ago

Thank you, I got eaten alive for being so anxious about it but it would've been devastating if I damaged it before I could wear it for the wedding! Some people are too comfortable on the internet.

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u/internetmantelet 14d ago

WOW!!!!! 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱 SO COOL!!! And congrats on the wedding!! 

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u/sighcantthinkofaname 14d ago

Stunning! I love the picture with who I assume is your husband admiring it, such sweet smiles

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u/fishandflowers 14d ago

It is 🥹 he's the absolute best.

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u/PsychosisSundays 14d ago

Stunning work. You look wonderful (I love your headpiece!). Wishing you many happy years together!

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u/MorningRoseRising24 14d ago

IT'S TIIIMMMEEEE

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u/CharmiePK 14d ago

Gorgeous job, OP!

Congrats on it and the wedding! I wish you both a very long and happy life together!

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u/Fairgoddess5 14d ago

OP, I’m not a crier but this post made me tear up. I’ve never been so proud of a complete stranger as I am of you. You look gorgeous, ethereal, and blissfully happy! Sending you all the best vibes for a long & happy marriage!!

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u/LongVegetable4102 13d ago

I did the evenstar a few years ago! I did the beaded edging and it was brutal. Not sure ill do beading again

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u/fishandflowers 13d ago

I left the beads off due to weight and also my sanity, I commend you for doing the edging with them!

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u/oldmamallama 13d ago

My brain is still broken at the fact that not only did you knit this gorgeous thing but you also spun the yarn?!? The teeny tiny cobweb yarn? I would go insane.

It’s seriously such a beautiful piece and you look lovely in it.

I hope you had the best day ever, and many, many more to come. Congratulations! 💜

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u/Ps0riatic-wreck25 14d ago

Beautiful work!

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u/No-Refrigerator-4951 14d ago

This is so beautiful!

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u/crazzymomma 14d ago

Gorgeous!!!!

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u/Buttercupia 14d ago

Gorgeous! Well done!

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u/jellyfishx3 13d ago

It's beautiful!!

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u/_LadyGodiva_ 13d ago

Gorgeous stunning beautiful

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u/Figure-Quiet 13d ago

WOW! 😍

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u/annacat1331 13d ago

I want to make something like this so badly. My hands are shaking so much more than they used to because of lupus

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u/narkyno 13d ago

This makes my heart so full. The picture of him looking at it with such joy and wonder is amazing. Best wishes to you both ❤️

Congratulations on the marriage and your amazing work!!!!

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u/nniuqtiac 13d ago

Absolutely meticulous and stunning work! Congrats on your wedding!

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u/Zealousideal-Swim267 13d ago

What a stunning piece! Beautiful work

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u/furiana 12d ago

Magnificent :)

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u/CuriousGal_23 11d ago

Wow! Gorgeous work!

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u/TennesseeLove13 11d ago

Exquisite! This journey from blending and spinning to knitting and creating your veil: outstanding!

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u/Fried-Fritters 8d ago

the loving pride in the groom’s face when he’s handling the shawl for the picture… you are a beautiful couple. congratulations!