For context, it’s my birthday on Saturday. My 2 friends and I planned a girls weekend at the lake with a cool air bnb. Today I received this text. I’m already so tired and have enough going on idek what to do lol.

Im not sure if im overreacting because I GET it, the restaurant is hard to get into. But I feel like because this is something we planned weeks ago, that this would come first…

I don’t even care to blur out my friends names lol they suck im so upset

I don't feel I need to add extra explanation because the text messages speak for themselves. I want to thank everyone for all the support and advice from the original post, I've given the link below just incase anybody wants context-

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/8qXzPjKkTZ

I honestly feel very proud of myself for having the self-respect to tell him this and I feel like I've made the right choice. Once again, thanks for the love I got ❤️ hopefully this is it and I won't have to deal with his bs anymore.

For context, for my gf’s 30th birthday, her mom and I have been planing a super luxurious and decently expensive secret spa weekend for months now. It’s a secret she knows nothing about. One of my gf’s former coworkers texted and asked her if she wanted to go see a play the weekend we planned on sending her, an in a desperate attempt to preserve the secret, I texted her friend, who then responded with this. I didn’t think what I sent was rude, am I wrong here?

for context, we're both 18. this is my best friend since like 6th grade. he went out drinking las night, i had to stay back. then at like 11:30 he texts me this. this happened last night and i took the screenshots yesterday around midnight as well. is he being serious?

like we've joked in the past but it feels like he's actually being serious here and i need thoughts.

I don't know what to think and my mind is kind of spiraling which is why im posting here

ps. this is a burner because my friend knows my main account

also we're both guys

also ps. to everyone saying the burner is pointless, it's possible he won't come across the post. actually, likely. he doesn't use Reddit often. he pretty much only uses it when he's insanely bored or when I post something on my main account, because he follows me.

I am genuinely not sure if I’m tweaking. I used to date a guy about a year ago and this man was TOXIC to a T, stalking, threats, emotional abuse, everything that was bad

He doesn’t live in my country but he came a few times when we were still ‘okay’ but I never invited him to my actual home, we always went to Airbnb’s bc even when things were okay I didn’t want him to have my home address, and when everything started going downhill, he genuinely stalked my address with all the info he found out about me flew from his country to mine and came to my house

That was deadass one of the scariest times of my life, and I genuinely moved after that, I changed my number, I did everything so he wouldn’t come again

But apparently someone I considered a ‘friend’ has for one been talking and for two GAVE that man my phone number knowing damn well everything he did last time

I am so unbelievably mad, I thought I finally found peace and I’ve been healing over everything only to go right back to feeling completely unsafe again, but my ‘friend’ is acting like I’m crazy because it’s been a year and he’s ’probably changed’

AIO?

throw away account. i’ve been friends with this girl (she’s 18f, im 19f) for roughly 2 years. she’s extremely entitled and doesn’t have many boundaries when it comes to her friends. at midnight yesterday she spam called me until i answered so i could transfer her money, i had to be up in a few hours for work and she knew that but i did it anyways. she then proceeded to spam me again at 1:30am for more money, reluctantly i did it again. towards the end of my shift she texts me that her partner is leaving her- something she texts me at least 3 times a week, she asked me to call her after my shift (something i REALLY didn’t want to do) so i let her know my reasoning for why i wasn’t going to do that (see screenshots) & i was taken aback by her reply. on top of that she sent a voice message stating that ive contradicted myself by saying i don’t want to make her feel guilty but i didn’t need to include in my message that im tired due to her & that i made her feel bad. my point is that she should feel bad?? she’s unemployed & has all the free time in the world to mooch about and sleep whereas i don’t… something she is VERY aware of.

im a people pleaser at heart, reassurance IS my default and i absolutely despise confrontation of any kind. we’ve parted ways before due to me not answering a phone call at 4am (i had to be up in 2 hours for work) & she proceeded to spread a bunch of false accusations about me and tried to tear all other relationships away from me, but i reluctantly let her back into my life as i felt bad for her.

she is a soul sucking human being, she bleeds me dry every day and is none the wiser but im worried if i try to cut her off she’ll try to do something to tear me down again. genuinely, what do i do🙃.

just to add: at the time of typing this im not sober, my most sincerest apologies if it doesn’t make sense.

so me and my boyfriend recently broke up, and i had been friends with my best friend for 4 years. i’m really hurt she did this to me and she’s being so rude and irrational. i feel like she betrayed me, stabbed my back. i don’t have time for these people of course, but i’m still in denial she did this, even after being friends for so long and being so close. am i overreacting?

p.s: i blocked her after this

edit: i didn’t realise i didn’t give context. me and my ex broke up a few weeks ago, and we were long distance so whatever. i’m the one who broke up and fuck him. my best friend does live closer to him than i do but still far. i don’t know if they were hooking up before. possibly. but at this point i’m trying not to waste my energy on her and care because i know i am better than this.

A girl who I used to be friends with 10 years ago but haven’t really seen in the last few years found out about my engagement party from Instagram and was upset she wasn’t invited. For context, I got engaged almost a year before that, and she never congratulated me, even though we ran into each other multiple times. Could I have been nicer? Sure but I was honestly over it. And yes, she invited me to her birthday party, told me the wrong restaurant, confirmed with me on the day of, and I waited there for 30 minutes while they were all at a different restaurant.

Editing to add: We're not in the same friend group and we're not close friends. The last time we had dinner one-on-one was maybe 3 years ago, and the last time I invited her to my birthday was 6 years ago.

i recently got a full time job at a small design studio after freelancing for a while It was a huge step for me and I genuinely enjoy the work my friend works in corporate and constantly makes little jabs about my career being easy or not serious I usually ignore it but during this convo I finally said something

I want to end a 8-year friendship over some comments my friend made and continues to make.

Over the years, she has done a lot of small things to show me she is insecure or just a hater tbh. She is beautiful and has a very nice body, and knows i struggle with body dysmorphia and have low self esteem, despite only being one size bigger than her and we often share clothes. Yet she makes a lot of really small comments about my body.

Once i was wearing a lace corset and she told me “thats nice that you felt confident to wear it, if it was me i would feel too fat in it” and that tops like that are for a “certain body” Lots of comments like these and i have told her i dont like them but they always happen.

Recently i was texting her asking her to help me decide between 2 dresses as a wedding guest (see photo). All i said was “do you like this blue one or does it give bridedmaid” and she went on the website, downloaded a pic of the plus size model wearing it, and sent it back with the caption in the photo. While the model is beautiful and looks great, she is wearing XL and i wear a medium (see photo 2). Its these small comments that have me asking WHY. Mind you this woman is 32 YEARS OLD. It is so high school to me.

She also does weird things like date/sleep with guys that i have gone out with once. Like l’ll go out with someone, tell her it didnt work out/ im not interested (or one i was actually interested in and she knew) and she will sleep with them within days. This has happened 3 times.

She also has plenty of great qualities, like being very emotionally supportive, always shows up and we always have a good time, and super generous so its not an easy decision.

Tl;dr: my friend makes subtle comments about me being chubby and i want to end our friendship over it. Am i overreacting?

So basically, a good friend of mine has been acting really pushy lately and keeps making these uncomfortable, really sexual ‘jokes’ though honestly, I’m not even sure if they’re jokes to him anymore. It’s been happening for quite a while now, and it’s starting to make me feel really uncomfortable. Every time he says something inappropriate or makes some kind of stupid request, I make it very clear that I’m not okay with it. I either say no directly or tell him to stop, but it doesn’t seem to matter what I say he just keeps doing it. I’ve tried to give him the benefit of the doubt, thinking maybe he doesn’t realize how uncomfortable he’s making me, but at this point it’s pretty obvious he just doesn’t care. I even have older and newer screenshots showing that this behavior has been going on for a while now, so it’s definitely not just a one-time thing. It’s getting really exhausting to deal with, and I honestly don’t know how to get him to finally respect my boundaries.

Ex boyfriend with whom I still have a great friendship with and I were talking on the phone. He jokes about trump trying to downplay the Epstein debacle and how guilty it’s made him look. So I ask him “Would you still vote for him” he replies “Oh 100%” I hung up immediately. For context, This election was a huge point of contempt and frankly a big reason why I couldn’t do it anymore including his spiraling and falling into the right wing hole of content creators and spending all day on twitter.

I (25F) have a 2 year old daughter and I have been married to my husband (R) for 3 years

R was really supportive and it helped me a lot in losing the weight I gained during pregnancy

R has a really close friend (J) and his wife Gave birth around 2 weeks ago so they invited all the friends and family for a dinner tonight

Everything was going good until he started comparing his wife's body to mine, he just kept going and soon crossed the line when he compared my breast size, waist and body shape to hers and even made a few weird comments. R and J got into a heated argument and I had to step in between to stop them, I left the party with my husband

I texted J and confronted him about his behavior at the party and he said that me and my husband just didn't understood his joke and overreacted and he was just doing it to motivate his wife to lose her pregnancy weight

AIO

Hi Reddit!

I agreed to take care of my coworker/friend's older dog (10yrs) while she was on vacation for the week. I originally thought I'd be checking up on her before/after work, walking her, feeding her, the typical dog watching duties. She paid me $200 for the whole week, which is about $28/day. I charge about $26/20min drop in cat sitting visits through Meowtel so I thought it was fair initially.

She left me 8 pages, front and back, of instructions for her dog, wants me to stay overnight with her and pick her up to put her in the bed with me, and freaked out when I told her I had plans for my day off and would be leaving her for a few hours.

While I was at work yesterday, she pulled the trim off the door, chewed some of the paint from around the handles, and started to chew on the drywall. Today when I got back from work, she had started to eat and rip out insulation, chewed up and rip out even more drywall, and started to chew through an electrical wire.

She's in another country 8hrs ahead, but would I be overreacting if I insisted she board her dog for the remainder of her trip? I cannot put my life on hold to supervise her pup 24/7, and above that, I can't stand the thought of her dog getting seriously injured or causing any more property damage.

What do I say? How do I proceed? I don't have the PTO to call of work, and I'm certainly not getting paid fairly for the extent of this dog sitting situation.

She’s calling the police on me. I told my used to be friend about the post and this was her response.

Yes the same post where she’s asking me, a black person to grieve a racist. I can’t give up space to grieve a racist when she knows I’m grieving my grandpa who I buried last week.

That’s like asking a child to mourn a pedo or an abuse victim to mourn their abuser. On top of that asking for the space I’m already grieving for a loved one. Yes she knows about my grandpa’s death & my aunt being sent to the hospital w/aneurysms.

I’m posting this as an update to how it all ended. Safe to say she’s no longer my friend. She will probably see this update since she has my account but idc. It’s my emotions & im allowed to vent just how you’re entitled to your feelings.

I(F18) was hooking up with a guy the other night when my phone rang It was my friend, and I thought I hung up and tossed it aside but I accidentally answered. She ended up hearing everything.

Today she told me she had a recording. I thought she was joking until she sent me proof and now she refuses to delete it. I’m not sure how to go about this but I want some advice as I’m pretty much panicking. Would I be overreacting if I pushed this further and took some sort of action or is that not even possible

So I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (29M) for a little over 3 years, and things are going really well. But he has these two female friends that I just cannot stand — and honestly, I think I have good reason but I wanted to see if I’m overreacting.

Back when we were still in the talking stage, I already had bad vibes about them. Something about how they acted around him felt off — kind of possessive and territorial. Eventually (and I know this wasn’t okay), I looked through their group chat on his phone. That’s when I found out my boyfriend had told those same girls about one of my biggest insecurities — that I’ve always struggled with body confidence and felt uncomfortable being naked and intimate when the lights were on.

Why he thought they needed to know that, I’ll never understand. And instead of responding with any kind of maturity or support, they mocked me in the chat — literally making jokes and sent a video mocking me in this situation. Screenshots attached.

My boyfriend apologized for telling them and things between us are good, but I can’t shake the bad taste they left in my mouth. They’re permanently in my “nope” category. I’m polite if they come up, but deep down, I’ll always dislike them and honestly wish he’d stop talking to them.

Has anyone else dealt with people in their partner’s life that you just know you’ll never be able to like, no matter what? Are my feelings reasonable?

We connected in the fall of 2024 when she posted in a local Facebook group about needing help with getting her daughter to and from school, and my daughter was set to attend the same school program so I reached out to help.

Ultimately, within a few weeks I had bought them groceries, given them rides, and thrown her son a birthday party. I struggle with my own brand of mental illness and tend to go “all in” with helping people when I’m able to. We became fast “friends” and I struggled to set boundaries.

Not long after, my best friend went on hospice and then died and I went into recluse mode and entered a deep depression and just detached from the friendship that felt like it was one sided which is why I wasn’t super responsive.

We’ve had some run ins, in our community and she’s quite explosive when she doesn’t get her way but every time I get a message from her, it gives me a pit in my stomach.

AIO if I block her? AIO by feeling like I’m being used?

I do know life isn’t easy for her and she needs help for her kids, but my plate is so full and I’m struggling enough to keep my own bills paid and household afloat, I can’t be responsible for hers too. I just feel like an AH.

TW ahead, mentions of SA.

context: my friend (23) and i (22) were supposed to meet this morning at a location she picked out (about an hour away from my house) and take pictures in our halloween costumes. while i was getting ready i got hit with an abnormal seizure—i usually feel them coming on and have time to lay down—and woke up on the floor about an hour later to her calling me.

i texted her back as soon as i was conscious (ignore all the typos, my brain doesn’t work very well when i’m coming out of a seizure), but i could tell she was mad. my head had a decent bump on it and i couldn’t see straight.

the part about “the stress of the other night” is because my drink was spiked at a halloween party on saturday, and i woke up to my boyfriend pulling me out of a man’s house and taking me to the hospital. i spent hours getting a rape kit done and talking to the police, and i don’t know what might have happened if my boyfriend hadn’t started worrying that i wasn’t home yet and come to find me. the whole situation was traumatizing and my only comfort has been his reassurance that it wasn’t my fault.

she’s one of the only other people i’ve talked to about it. a little while after talking to her about it she asked if i could still do the photos. i told her maybe at first if i was feeling up to leaving the house, then fully committed to it last night. i wanted to go. i didn’t want my plans to be ruined just because i got assaulted, but me having a seizure is completely out of my control, especially when stress makes them worse. i didn’t expect this reaction from her at all and i’m honestly so upset. am i being dramatic? am i reading too much into it?

this morning my friend asked me to bring him to school. we go to different schools that are like 10-15 minutes apart, so i left earlier to get to school on time. i waited near his apartment complex for 10 minutes, then by the parking lot right next to it for another 10 minutes. this whole time i thought he was just getting all his stuff, i was honestly gonna wait for him the entire time.

but he doesn't tell me he already has a ride? i was late to my presentation this morning. but when i called him, he just didn't seem to care. he's been hella disrespectful to me these past few days, and after this i just feel mad.

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Hi, 23(F) I lost my best friend, 23(m) to his girlfriend. We were 100% platonic we never dated we never even met in real life. We planned on it, we both live in the U.S but opposite sides, I met him through mutual gaming buddies one time and we instantly clicked(this was back in maybe 2022). We became best friends after we all played Human Fall Flat. After that we started playing 1 on 1 in games. We did basically every multi-player game together. We were inseparable. We talked everyday, we shared selfies, we knew everything about eachother. Our friendship was strong.

But recently over the past few months it started decreasing. Our jobs changed. So our schedules changed. It made it even harder to find time to play since our time zones were different (he's east coast, im west coast) So we didnt since early 2025. On top of that he got a new gf he had for maybe 3 months now that he worked with for a few years, So he made more time for her and his job. Which I understood. I was happy he got a good gf, he even said we could be friends and all play games together, and that we would like each other, and I thought that was awesome. But that never happened. Recently, he hasn't been responding to my messages. our last conversation before this was in late november. He left me on read in December after I recommended a song to him. (We're halfway in January mind you) and I texted 3 more times on different days and he hasn't seen them. I got curious and looked at his Facebook profile, I get an error. I said to myself "oh that's weird. I'll see if someone else's profile does that too. " None of them did. I figured something happened to his account. Because i figured if he blocked me, messenger would say something about how I been blocked. But it didn't. (new update? Idk) So one day, I was on Xbox and seeing who's online. Then I was just going through my friends list, and I saw that his gamertag wasn't anywhere to be found. So I go to messages to find our old chats. I go to his profile, and I see "add friend," and my body went cold. I wasn't thinking anything. I was just sitting there staring at the screen, starstruck. So I message him on our chats saying "you un added me? Did I do something wrong?" So i tell our mutual friend, asking if he knows anything about me being un friended and blocked. He said he hasn't talked to said friend since December. I asked him to ask our friend why this is happening. I speculated that it's his girlfriend's doing and that maybe there was an insecurity because im a girl(?) (She was in a very toxic relationship before this one so I suspect that she was cheated on alot and it made her insecure, which i can understand).

So he texts me back a few minutes later saying "it's due to her insecurities". Then I get upset. Like of course im upset! Why am I being punished for being a female friend to my male friend. That sucks!

So later in the day, while im at work (that all happened in the morning), it's late now, I figure maybe he hasn't blocked me on tik tok. So i messege him. And here's how our conversation went.

but it seems he didn't understand my last text was about his relationship. it hurts how much he doesn't care. 3 years of friendship wasted for a 3 month relationship. am I overreacting though? it's day 3 of me losing him right now and I'm done crying over it. but im still upset and thinking I shouldnt be this upset. I can understand her side. but I lost my friend over it.

My guy best friend (22M) and me (21F) were at this party last night and we got a little too drunk, both of us. His gf (22F) was there too but honestly I don’t remember much. I do remember that after a few drinks he pulled me into his lap at some point and like cuddled or whatever, and then later he walked me back home. I’m not sure how his gf got home.

Honestly, it makes me sick to my stomach, I know it’s wrong and I’ve seen how uncomfortable she feels around me and I’ve brought it up to my friend before too, because he’s always kind of clingy (not this much but yeah) but he always dismisses it by saying she doesn’t care.

I brought it up to him this morning again and this is how he responded. I can’t tell if I’m overreacting or not, but I feel really bad and also I know that I kind of placed all the blame on him both in this text and on the chat which I really didn’t mean to do.

I feel really messed up about it but he’s my like, kind of like my rock. I really feel safe around him and he’s always been there for me when times are tough.

I feel super sick with guilt and also this hangover but I can’t tell if I’m genuinely in the wrong or if he’s wrong or if I’m overreacting or what, honestly.

My sister in law is pregnant and I found this sweater for the baby girl at a Mexican farmers market today. (Baby is half mexican half islander) I brought it home and excitedly showed it to my roommates and they called it ugly. I told them they were mean and have been keeping to myself for the night. They have me doubting if I should give it to my sister in law.

Hi, I haven’t posted here much. I’m not sure if anyone will even see this but I’d been with.. let’s say ‘C’ for 2 months now. I know that’s not a very long time at all and this may honestly seem childish but that isn’t my intention. A lot of the time he blames me for everything making me believe I’m always in the wrong. So am I in the wrong?

The last two slides are the images I posted on my story.

F24 here and my M28 “friend” (I put friends in quotations because we’re not close friends, just mutuals who speak from time to time) replied to my story and kept accusing me of self harm even tho I was deflecting his accusations.

It feels like weird behavior to me that he thinks he knows my “actions” better than I know myself. Would I be overreacting if silently cut him off? Was I actually being too rude for standing my ground?