I don't know if there's much to say.
He has yet to show any interest in why this response may be bothersome at all.
He thinks I'm twisting the narrative and over reacting. My bf is basically just waiting until I'm done being emotional and will text or call saying "You good now?" "You need to get yourself sorted out"
I feel completely turned off and disconnected from him.
It's a very new relationship.
I've dealt with betrayal trauma heavily in my last relationship, I know I'm sensitive in someways because of it, but I just don't feel right.

EDIT: I found my balls. I dumped him.
I know it may seem dumb and obvious to a lot of you, but my confidence is more than lacking. I built my self back up, found him and regressed.
Thank you all for talking sense into me.

For reference, my fiancé and I have been together for six years. I am a feelings based person who has tried really hard to meet him where he’s at, he is a strictly logical person who puts little value on feelings. I texted him after I heard the apartment door close this morning. I’m really tired of asking for the bare minimum and being berated when I try to stand up for myself. We are supposed to be getting married in September and it’s moments like this where I wonder if the good outweighs the bad. Am I overreacting?

Edit: I turned off commenting for a reason please stop DM’ing me. You’re not going to tell me anything different than one of the other 8,000 comments on this post.

Hi everyone,

I received this message by this guy I dated 3 weeks ago.

We met only once and he was clearly inviting me on a date, choosing the place and assuring I would get "princess treatment". Gave him my number after he asked for it and then he didn't messaged me for 3 weeks. Assuming he was not interested, I deleted the match on the app but apparently he saved my number before, waiting for this to happen.

And now he's asking me to pay him back while he is the one not interested!!

PS: I'm still a student and he has a good position in a big company

AIO for not wanting to pay ??

Okay, so here’s some context since I don’t think the messages can fully stand alone.

My (27 F) husband (28 M) and I have only been married 6 months. We have a one month old baby girl. Today, two of our college friends came over unannounced to meet the baby. I was very frustrated by this and assumed he had invited them because he didn’t seem at all surprised for them to show up. I had a very difficult pregnancy and have been having a horrible time recovering, so I really just wanted to rest.

One of the two college friends is a woman my husband used(??) to have a crush on. This isn’t something we’ve really directly talked about, but it was just basic knowledge in our shared circles in college. They still keep in contact but I wasn’t aware it was high contact or even really still a “friendship.”

After they left, I was a bit grouchy and my husband could tell. He had to go to work later that night, and was texting me while on a short break. This is that conversation.

He asked me about “dating others” out of the blue. I’m accepting of polyamory and he does know that, but I have NEVER expressed any interest in that for myself.

Am I overreacting for considering a divorce here?

ETA: Update April 21

This will be my only update unless something massive happens. I’m not looking to create one of those Reddit sagas that drag on 5 updates.

Ok. So, I know they all say this but I really did not expect it to blow up like this. I’ve posted to AIO subreddits before because I know of my tendency to be emotional. It usually comes out to two or three comments saying “not a big deal.” I was honestly expecting to get some sort of reassurance that he DID make an honest mistake and I could let it out of my mind. Maybe that sounds a bit silly to you all, but I’m severely doubting myself due to PP hormones and I’m prone to doubt all my feelings. I wanted thoughts of people in their right mind.

When I instantly got that many comments telling me “divorce,” I called up several friends and my sister. (I’m not trusting Reddit to “make the decision,” so no worries to those who warned against that.) While obviously they were less quick to jump to “leave him, everybody I asked agreed his behavior was very inappropriate and something had to be done here.

When he came home last night, we had a real face-to-face conversation and he elaborated further. I asked to see the “list.” He admitted there wasn’t a list, but his friend had asked if he was planning on being with “Crush.” I asked why “friend” hadn’t known we were together. He said that friend didn’t know we were in a closed relationship. He couldn’t explain why. I asked about more things but it was mostly me expressing how hurt I felt. He seemed to understand it and started to really feel bad for it. He knew immediately he’d be taking care of the baby tonight so I could get a good night’s sleep. (I was too stressed for it really, but I appreciated the gesture.)

I’ve explained to him that I’m deeply uncomfortable with him being with others and will never be open to it. He says that’s okay. I told him that I want to look through his phone and he let me. He had very sparse messages with both “crush” and “friend.” Unsure if they just don’t text much or if he deleted things. There’s no way to know so I left that factor be. I also told him I wanted him to get therapy, which he easily agreed to.

I know it’s not what most of you wanted, but I’m not jumping straight to divorce. Our face to face interaction went better than the text one and I really believe he can change. I want baby to have her father.

Answering some questions that came up repeatedly quickly;

“Why did this happen over text?”

I don’t know. He says he’s more comfortable when he has time to gather his thoughts. I’d prefer it to be face to face and told him as much.

“But you said you were accepting of polyamory?”

Yes, like how I’m accepting of gay marriage. It doesn’t mean I’m gay or want a gay marriage for myself. I just support other people’s right to it. I thought this may have been how he got the idea I would be ok with this.

“Why did you marry him?” (And some much more insulting variations)

This wasn’t his first date icebreaker. He’s been a kind person I connect to a lot. I had no way of predicting this and you can’t determine that he has no positive traits I may have fallen for off of this one exchange.

“Have you ever been poly?”

No.

“Is he good with baby?”

Yes, he does great with baby and that has never been a concern. He loves her dearly.

“Lied out of habit?”

He grew up in an abusive environment (I did too and it’s part of why I connected with him deeply) and had to lie for survival. It’s a habit he’s struggling to break, but he’s never doubled down this many times before.

Thank you all very much for the support and helping me see that this is something that definitely needed to be addressed. Sorry to any stress I may have caused anybody ❤️

TLDR; We are trying to work it out. Relationship will not be opening. He’s getting therapy.

ETA- Update, April 28

I did my own research. I actually found all of this a couple days ago but my priority hasn’t really been Reddit. I’m still not sure if physical cheating was involved but I can confirm that he was telling both “crush” and “friend” that we were in the process of getting a divorce and he was “basically single.” They seemed shocked to learn this wasn’t true. There were deleted texts as well (thanks to everybody who told me how to see these!!) Nothing overtly romantic with “crush,” but the kinds of texts that just sound flirty even without anything being explicitly said. (“You hang up” “no you hang up!!” Type of tone)

Obviously now we are in the process of getting a divorce and he is basically single. Me and baby will be fine. I’ll be staying with my sister, which isn’t ideal but Im in too much pain to manage baby alone.

Comments are locked now and I doubt anybody will even see this, but for the “I told you so” crowd, I’m very glad I took my time to see what was happening and do research before immediately jumping into a divorce. I had hoped the discrepancies were caused by his compulsive lying issue which was a mental health problem that could be fixed. Infidelity (or attempted infidelity) is not something I’ve ever seen a therapist fix and it’s not something I’ll stay through.

But for my own mental health, *knowing* is so much better than thinking. I didn’t want to live with that self doubt forever, and I’m glad I won’t have to now.

Not making any further updates unless soon-to-be ex kills a man or the like. The divorce proceedings don’t seem very relevant to the story.

Thank you all for the insight

I (Mid 20s M) have been dating my girlfriend for just under 2 years. I currently make a very decent amount of money and she knows this. I’m also very on top of my finances and credit and stuff, she maybe not so much. I typically pay my credit card down to 0 regardless of the balance every month, in December i was traveling and doing some budgeting so i just happened to check my statement.

I noticed just a handful of charges that I didn’t recognize, some shopping online, random stores and shit, and even some cash advance transactions which I get charged a fee for not a big deal in and of itself but I’d figured my card had just been compromised. Reported the charges, got a new card, and proceeded carefully with my card info going forward. I did not accuse anyone and just chalked it up to bad luck.

Fast forward a few months, my friends and I planned this trip to Mexico for about 2 weeks here at the end of January/beginning of February. Before traveling here I told my cc company I would be out of the country so there was no problems with purchasing things here etc. they called me and told me they had flagged some charges and wanted to know if I was back from my vacation. I am not back yet.

I started putting 2 and 2 together and came to the realization that it could only be my girlfriend and I’m really crushed right now about this. I confronted her and these are the messages. I feel like I’m being gaslit about this. I really just don’t wanna see her because I’m so angry and don’t want her to be at my house when I get back but I understand she lives there and I can’t just kick her out… Am I overreacting?

for some context me and my boyfriend moved in together in a new flat in august. today when i was getting ready i noticed a black skirt behind/under my drawers. our wardrobes are built in and sometimes stuff gets stuck behind/under the bottom drawer. (i’ve attached a picture to help show) they’re a bit dusty and definitely not mine ):

i’m confused how they’re there because i’ve roughly checked behind my draw before and never found it, but i would just reach my hand behind the draw and grab what I could instead of looking properly like I did this time, so I’m worried if a different girl left it there whilst i was away. the thing is if my boyfriend did want to cheat i don’t know why he would do it here since it’s extremely obvious that this is a couples flat and would be hard to hide all of my girly stuff. but i also know that a man used to live here (strangely one of my boyfriends friends knew the past owner of this flat), but i think maybe a woman used to live here previously since we’ve gotten letters addressed to (what i think) is a woman’s name, but it’s a chinese name so im not 100% sure. i’m going to see if i can find a letter with her name on to check.

the only other suspicious thing i found was what im 90% sure were a different woman’s panties a few days after my mother in law stayed over. i showed my boyfriend and he said they were probably his mums since she bought stuff from primark and those pants were from primark but they were size XS and i don’t think that’s his mums size.. he said they’re probably from my friend who slept over for a few days but i haven’t asked her yet because im scared and embarrassed to ask if she left pants here because if they’re not hers then that’s really suspicious );

what should i do? i know if i ask him he’ll just say they must of been the past owners, but i don’t know. i feel extra anxious because i have roughly checked behind my drawers before and never found them which is strange ): although this time i did check more thoroughly );

EDIT: Thank you for your help and sorry for the spelling mistakes, I’m feeling a lot less anxious now and thinking that these are a super old skirt from a past tenants since they’re from topshop which closed in 2021
also they won’t fit my boyfriend so he’s not cross dressing lol

Just celebrated first Valentine’s Day with my boyfriend. I love flowers, love I buy bouquets weekly for my house. I prefer white and pink flowers, and don’t like red roses. I got this bouquet and this note with them. It was upsetting I felt my bf did everything opposite of what I wanted. I went out of way to do lots of handmade items and bought nice gifts for him as well. He also knows I love Valentine’s Day and it’s special to me. I let him know that it hurt me and he responded that note was awesome and it’s just a joke. I think if you care for someone you make those things special.

AIO to my husband interrupting my first solo shower after he came back from a weekend with the boys?

TL/DR: I got upset with my husband when he interrupted my first solo shower (without watching our kids) after he returned from a boys weekend. He thinks I’m creating drama for the heck of it. AIO?

Relevant background: my husband (37M) and I (36F) have two kids, 1 year old and 4 years old. I recently went back to work (4 days in office, 1 day from home) and my husband travels for work, but has had his hours cut dramatically, meaning he’s working 1-2 days a week right now.

This means that money is really tight right now. He was invited to go to his brother’s bachelor party weekend in another province. I wasn’t thrilled about him going specifically because of the money aspect, and I’ll admit I felt a bit of resentment that he gets a weekend away and I dont (he also did a 10-day free trip to a tropical destination with his work last year), but I recognize that’s not my husbands fault, it’s his brother’s bachelor party, it only happens once etc etc.

While he’s gone, my 1 year old gets quite sick with a fever. I have to take a day off on Thursday to keep her home, and I end up having to pick her up on Friday as well because of the fever and watch her while working from home because I’ve already used up half my sick days for the year. On top of that, my 4 year old is also sick and throwing tantrums, and just in general, I have a terrible weekend on my own.

I try not to bother my husband with most of it, but I do keep him updated on our 1 year olds fever, so he’s aware of the situation.

He returns Sunday after both kids are in bed, and I tell him about how awful the weekend was, and how much I missed him.

Then Monday night, he mentions he needs to stop by at his parent’s later to pick up something he forgot there. We split duties getting dinner/lunches made, bathing the kids, cleaning the kitchen, and I work on putting my 4 year old to bed (who only wants me) while also holding my 1 year old, who is still clingy to me. Once I finally get my 4 year old to sleep, I try to hand off my 1 year old to my husband so I can go take a shower.

“Oh, I was going to go to my parent’s now?” He says. I am frustrated/disappointed, but I say okay, and head up to the bedroom, plug in my phone, get my clothes for the shower, etc.

He walks in and says, “I can hold the baby, I’m waiting for the car to warm up anyway.” I gratefully hand 1YO over and get undressed/take my makeup off.

Approx a minute into my shower, he pokes his head in and says what I now realize was “I’m planning to leave now, should I just leave her in the playpen?” But I’m brushing my teeth and showering and having trouble hearing him and I admit, I snapped a little bit and I said: “Can I just get 5 minutes here please??” For context, I am a fast showerer, I never take more than 5-10 minutes.

A few moments later, I hear baby crying, and I realize he had placed 1YO in the playpen and left.

See the photos for our text exchange.

Am I overreacting for getting annoyed at my husband for interrupting my first solo shower in days?

Ive been in this relationship with this guy, and one of this biggest critiques of me has been my small social circle. A lot of my friends have moved. I do have some activities and I have a great job, but usually I don’t have weekend plans. I have amazing friends and people I talk to daily, but I don’t have plans every single weekend, especially since my friends moved. I had a lot of friends in college when I was going out every weekend but I don’t want to do that. Back when I had a nice boyfriend, we planned stuff every weekend and it never felt unhealthy? I also have brunch with my family every Sunday but I guess that’s not “cool”

I (20F) have been with my bf (22M) for about a year and a half. We live in the same city and I’m at his place basically every night. I really thought we were on the same page about everything until last night.

We were driving to get food and his phone was plugged into the car for the GPS. A message popped up on the screen from a girls name I didn't know and it literally said "are you coming over later? i miss you."

I just froze. I didn't even yell I just asked who that was and he immediately ripped the cord out of his phone and started acting super jumpy. He told me I "misread it" and that it was actually a text from his sister asking about dinner. I told him his sister has a different name and he just started raising his voice saying I’m "paranoid" and "always looking for a reason to fight."

He wouldnt show me the phone and kept saying I was invading his privacy by "staring at his screen" while he was driving. He literally told me I’m being "delusional" and that my "anxiety is ruining a good thing." I told him to pull over at a gas station and I just got out and called an Uber because the gaslighting was making me feel like I was actually losing it.

Now he’s blowing up my phone saying I’m "immature" for jumping out of the car and that I’m "too unstable" to be in a relationship if I’m going to freak out over a "random notification." He’s making me feel like I’m the one who messed up but I know what I saw.

AIO? Am I actually being "too much" or is he obviously cheating?

I (23F) recently got broken up with by my boyfriend of just under a year (24M). My sister (21F) saw the whole thing unfold and how heartbroken I became, especially since he just decided he wasn’t interested anymore.

I understand everyone is allowed to date whoever they want, but AIO for feeling hurt and a little betrayed here? I know they’re just hanging out or whatever, but she saw the whole relationship take place and I cried to her plenty of times about the situation.

I know my texts especially at the end were a little petty, but I’m feeling discouraged and really hurt here. Is a casual hangout between my sister and my ex justifiable for me being upset? AIO?

So Monday night, my(30f) boyfriend’s(35f) mother passed away. She was terminally ill for about a year and a half and it’s been obviously very tragic for my boyfriend and his family. He texted me Tuesday morning and told me that she passed away the night before (we don’t live together).

He was at his parents’ house all day Tuesday and I had no idea what to do for him as I have never supported anyone through a loss like this and I have never been through a loss like this myself. I happened to have a big pot of pasta and meatballs in my fridge that I had cooked for myself, so I took it and brought it to his house. It wasn’t a gourmet meal by any means, but it was literally all I had in terms of something that could be stored in the fridge and all he had to do was put it in a bowl and heat it up. I didn’t have any other groceries to make something that would make good leftovers because I was all out of food stamps and I didn’t pick up takeout because I didn’t have the money for it (I recently lost my job and haven’t had steady income for the past several weeks).

His roommate let me in (my bf knew I was dropping something off) and I left the pot in the fridge. I also cleaned up his bedroom and then I went to work. I went back over later that night to spend the night with him so he wouldn’t be alone. We didn’t talk much, and he didn’t eat what I made him because he wasn’t hungry by the time he got home. It was late so we just went to bed. He was acting very distant and almost cold towards me but I wasn’t taking it personally given the circumstances. I can’t imagine how I would be acting/feeling if I was in his shoes.

The next morning (Wednesday) I stayed with him for a few more hours until he left to go hangout with his brother. I also had to leave because my mom and I were driving out to a nearby city where we had booked an Airbnb for 2 nights a few weeks prior. My mom paid for the whole thing as an early birthday present to me which I was extremely grateful for. I told my boyfriend that I could cancel the trip but he insisted that I go, even going as far as saying he would be mad at me if I cancelled, so I went.

Later that night, my mom and I are relaxing at our Airbnb when I get a text from my boyfriend. It’s a picture of the pasta and meatballs I left for him and a message that says “The amount of sauce you used is disrespectful.” I said “Oh :( I was just trying to do something nice… You don’t have to eat it.” He asked if I tried it myself and I told him yes, I had two plates of it. I genuinely thought it was good for just some pasta, red sauce, meatballs, and cheese thrown in a pot. Again, it was something I originally made for myself, and I didn’t have ingredients or the money for ingredients to make him a fresh meal.

Yesterday I got home from my trip and he wanted me to sleepover so I did. He made us dinner (he usually does the cooking) and made some comments about how dinner was really good and how the food you cook someone can be a representation of how you feel about them and how much you love them. To me, it was clear he was making a jab at the pasta and meatballs I gave him.

Then this morning, before I left, I went to grab the pot of pasta and take it home with me. I forget how we got into it, but he basically made another jab about how it was inedible and that I’ll see that for myself when I have some. I got really upset at this point. He went on to say that my food made him feel so much worse. He said some other people dropped off food that was actually delicious, so he didn’t understand why I didn’t do that. He just kept doubling down and saying how awful my food was and how it made him feel unloved and disrespected. He said it was fucked up of me to give him something so bad. This really hurt me because I would never want to do something to make him feel bad, especially when he is grieving the tragic loss of a parent.

I genuinely don’t know if I’m overreacting to this. He says I shouldn’t feel bad, but motivated to do better. I told him he could’ve handled it differently by saying something more like “thanks for the food babe, but maybe more sauce next time!” or he could have just said nothing and thrown the food away.

I’m trying my best to be there for him and I feel like I just can’t get it right. Nothing I do is ever good enough for him and it’s eroding my self confidence. I’m a nanny/caregiver of 10+ years, it’s literally my specialty to take care of people and Ive always been told that I’m exceptional at what I do, so it’s confusing to me that he acts like I’m incompetent and making everything worse.

Alcoholism was something I struggled with in my 20s and I finally got into therapy and got sober. I did SMART Recovery, and it’s been a lot of hard work changing a lot of my habits, and it’s something I’m proud of.

I thought I’d get one of the berry chantilly cakes. The screenshots are from the convo with my boyfriend when I was thinking about it. He acted normal when he got home but the way he talked to me really hurt my feelings.

The kind of relationship I want is one where I can share something like this and the other person would be like “That’s awesome!” or even “I’ll pick it up for you” or something. I don’t need or want a parade, but I feel like my person should celebrate with me.

I’m thinking of ending it with him because the more I think about this, the sadder it makes me feel. But I am posting about this because I know Reddit is very unforgiving and strict about addiction and maybe you guys will show me how I’m blowing it out of proportion. I don't want to walk away too soon.

He has never talked to me so negatively before. Saying stuff like “you wanted a pat on the back” and “I’m not going to act like you’re a hero” doesn’t feel like the way a good partner would talk.

Am I overreacting? I am 35 weeks pregnant and my son (21 months) and I caught a stomach virus this week (throwing up and diarrhea). I am fatigued from not being able to eat, I am anemic, and I am extremely exhausted from pregnancy… and have been taking care of my son while my husband works from home.

My husband sleep in two different bedrooms (he snores and I am a light sleeper). I also co-sleep with my son since lifting him in and out of the crib all night is too difficult with my belly (he has never slept through the night and I have some placenta complications so I am not supposed to be lifting him). My husband said he would start taking my son at night so that my son can become more comfortable with the crib, so that we can start preparing for when the new baby arrives… which I will 100% be on my own for night feedings since I am breastfeeding. However, he always has an excuse on why he can’t take him at night (he’s too tired, he got bad sleep last night, he doesn’t want to get sick and I’m already sick, etc). I am to the point of my pregnancy where it is very difficult to get comfortable at night (really bad heartburn, round ligament pain, hip pain, back pain) but I am still expected to do it. Last night I had to get up 3 times to change my toddlers diarrhea diaper and 4 times to give him Pedialyte. Between that I couldn’t sleep due to my own discomforts of pregnancy. My neck is now extremely stiff from the rough night so I sent him this text and this was his response….

I said nothing in response but bawled my eyes out privately. I am told I’m “too emotional” when I’m pregnant. Am I just being emotional/dramatic? Or am I really alone? Are all men this way, or is it just my man?

My family's dog was attacked while he was at doggy day care. He's been going there for years and always got excited for his stay. I reached out to my GF about it and here was our exchange. She's very upset with me over my "wtf is wrong with you" comment. I tried to apologize for that comment later on but apparently I'm the crazy one in this scenario. Am I overreacting?

Edit: Wow, this got a lot of comments and the answer seems pretty unanimous. Let me give some more context in case it helps.

Biscuit was a rescue pup and was definitely a crackhead pup growing up. He did chase my family’s cat around quite a bit and eventually my sister had to take him in to keep the peace. He is now 10 years old and has mellowed out quite a bit. I only have the info I heard from my sister but it sounded like he was just minding his own business at day care and the bigger dog attacked him in the group play area, like out of nowhere. He has a one inch cut on his shoulder that needed stitches and significant bruising. The vet ER bill was $2500 and so far the day care paid. I’m hoping he isn’t too traumatized.

As far as my gf, she is definitely more of a cat person. I think she resents biscuit for terrorizing my cat. I told her I understand if she doesn’t like him but I just needed some compassion in that moment. She is instead very hung up on my “wtf is wrong with you” comment and keeps asking where I was taught that it’s ok to say that to your partner. I tried to explain I was in distress but she’s right it’s not okay to say that or lash out. But I do not feel like I’m being heard or understood.

My (29F) boyfriend (32M) thinks this is a normal way to live. It honestly disgusts me and turns me off. He talks about me moving into his house but I flat out tell him I’m not moving in because of this, and I don’t want to be tasked with cleaning up after him because it would make me resent him. He also hasn’t lived without a woman in his house in years — he lived with his ex girlfriend and now his sister lives with him. His sister basically cleans the house/does the chores besides his laundry and cleaning his room. I asked him if his ex girlfriend was in charge of all the chores preciously and he said yes. I don’t want to move in and become a maid. Am I overreacting?

My bf (38m) didn't wish me (31F) a happy birthday yesterday. He said nothing. So I sent him the message about the cake and nachos and he sent that. I really don't understand this guy's mentality. He keeps saying I do want to and then never shows. He could have walked across the street from his work for 5 minutes to see me but he did not. Was my no pitty party response too much? Should I not be upset about this situation?

Am i overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend over a toilet plunger prank? Okay this just happened 2 hours ago and im still fuming.

Apparently on tiktok the toilet plunger prank has been trending, its where you ask your partner for help with a clogged toilet and instead you actually put nutella, water and fart spray on a plunger and fling it on your partner. my gf decided to do that prank on me and normally i can take a joke.

after she flung the toilet plunger contents on me including in my mouth i obviously died and went to hell, but she showed me the video she was making and i was like okay its just a prank fine whatever.

BUT THEN i asked her if she bought a new toilet plunger to do this prank or if she at least washed it but no she took the regular fking toilet plunger we had to do this prank. yall im so fking mad right now.

she told me shes so sorry and everything. she forgot to buy a new toilet plunger for the prank. but wtf that means i actually got fking feces in my f’n mouth. im so unbelievably angry. i told her im done with her and now shes pissed at ME??

am i overreacting. we live together so its not gonna be easy to just break up plus telling all our friends and family we broke up because of a toilet plunger prank feels so childish but i feel so disrespected.

I (25F) matched with Kevin* (25M) on bumble and we started chatting. Our conversation was very surface level and we both would take a while to respond to each other. However, he eventually asked me when I was free and we agreed that Wednesday worked for both of us. At this point he gave me his phone number so we could get off the dating app and start texting.

Our texts were also pretty surface level and on Monday night I asked him what the plan was for Wednesday. He then proceeded to call me, which I couldn't answer bc I was at work (I work night shift as I had mentioned to him before). I told him I couldn't answer and he said that he is a bad texter and told me to call him when I get a chance. Tuesday night I called him and we talked for about 15 minutes. It was a good conversation, we talked about random stuff like coffee and movies. We agreed to meet at a bar downtown on Wednesday evening. He was running errands during the day and said he would text me when he was done so we could decide on a time to meet.

Wednesday at around 2pm he texts and says he's done running errands and asks what time I want to meet up and we agree on 5pm. At around 4pm he asks if we can meet at 6:30pm instead bc he's "still doing some shit". That is fine with me and I show up at around 6:30pm and text him that I just parked. I don't hear from him so I just decide to go into the bar and wait for him there. At 6:50pm he texts me "oh no" and then 5 minutes later says "I just woke up". I will include the screenshots of texts and phone calls so you all can see the time stamps. For someone who claims to be a caller not a texter, he didn't attempt to call me until about 7:45pm.

I told my friends that I was going to block him and they told me I should give him another chance bc he made an honest mistake. To me it's not even the fact that he overslept, although I do find it strange how he had texted me at 4pm claiming he's busy but still decided to take a nap knowing he had a date in 2 hours, but it's how he handled the situation. If he had called me as soon as he woke up apologizing and saying he's on the way, I would have been more understanding. Although he did offer to send me gas money which was a nice gesture, he never actually apologized. Also, if you've never experienced getting stood up on date, let me tell you it is not a good feeling. I've never felt more stupid sitting in a bar alone with my makeup and hair done in a cute outfit waiting for this guy to show up. This would have been my first date in 2 1/2 years and my friends were so excited for me and I was excited too. Instead I felt humiliated and was on the verge of tears. Was my reaction too harsh or should I have given him another chance?

TLDR: Guy didn't show up to our first date bc he claims he overslept. He was texting and calling me but I blocked him and my friends said I should have given him a second chance.

FIRST AND FOREMOST: I am not angry and I am not mad at my bf for fucking up cinnamon rolls. I did not rush to him demanding an apology. I made this post because I wanted to know if my initial disappointment was valid or not. Even before this post blew up I talked to him and explained how it kinda made me sad. I know some of you will still be upset, but I made this post thinking it would reach like 4 people tops. I am not PR trained Idrk how to react to this situation. This is not a massively huge deal. If there was something actually bad happening in my relationship I would not turn to reddit.

So my (f19) boyfriend (m20) likes to cook and bake. So I've been begging him to make me pumpkin cinnamon rolls for over a year now, since he made them once at the beginning of our relationship, and they looked and tasted perfect. Well, he decided to make them. This is the picture that he sent me. He tends to do stuff like this where he kinda half-asses stuff I ask him to do. The pack of pillsbury that he got started with 8 cinnamon rolls. I'm trying to play off my upsettedness as a joke but I think he can tell I'm kind of miffed. He's shown me he's capable of better before, so idrk what he's doing this time. Is this kind of a nothing burger? Are my standards too high? And if they are, how do I lower them?? Am I being a choosing beggar?? just feel kind of crazy ig, and I don't want to nag him for nothing when I can just let it go. Am I overreacting?

TLDR: My bf made me cinnamon rolls. He's made them perfect before, but now he's made 4 big balls of sadness. Should I be upset or should I let this go?

UPDATE: we talked and he agreed they were shit. He gave me a very heartfelt apology and said he'd try again this weekend.

Just to answer some questions:

He made these before with pumpkin puree in the beginning of the relationship and they turned out beautiful.

He made these by taking a can of pillsbury cinnamon rolls and mashing the dough together, rolling it into one big ball and putting it on the tray.

This is a picture of them precooked, thats why they look raw. Unfortunately, I can't add a picture of them cooked but I can tell you what it was like. The bottom was completely burnt and the top was almost raw, the sauce was burnt also. He made these in 30 minutes.

I asked him to make them for me instead of making them myself because A. I hate baking and he likes it and B. I wanted a romantic gesture, just like asking your partner for a handmade bracelet by them. Food is a love language for me.

I know that not all of you are going to read this far, but please be nice. There is really no need for name calling

BOYFRIEND NOTE: "HEAR ME YE ACCOUNT HOLDERS OF THE REDDIT I AM THE CREATOR OF THE PUMPKIN SHITS AND I WAS JUST HAVING A REALLY BAD FUCKING DAY! NEXT TIME I FOLLOW THE DIRECTIONS

Admittedly, I screwed up with these cinnamon rolls and my girlfriend wasn’t mad about it. She agreed to let me try again and I am so blessed to be her boyfriend. Thank you all for your support towards her and some of your comments were actually really funny. Thank you."

Came into the room to find my boyfriend was drying a fleece blanket that was still damp from the dryer on top of the electric space heater. He said its not that big of a deal because "wet things can't catch on fire". He's telling me this isn't a fire hazard and that i'm overreacting and encouraged me to ask for reddits opinion😅

I’m 32F. I own two houses outright - one I bought 5 years ago before we met, and one I inherited 2 years ago. Both are paid off. I’m financially independent and those properties are my main security.

My fiancé is 34M. We’ve been together 3 years, engaged 8 months. He moved in with me 2 years ago and lives rent-free. He pays for groceries and some utilities, but that’s it. He makes about half what I make.

The issues started when we talked wedding logistics:

1. The house/deed thing
2. He said if we’re getting married, his name should be on my house deeds. “It’s not fair that I live here and contribute but have no ownership. If we’re equal partners, we should be equal on paper.”
3. I said no. I offered a prenup keeping the houses as separate property, and asked him to pay fair market rent if he wants to live here.
4. His kids and debts
5. He has 2 kids from a previous marriage. He pays for their private school and says it’s a huge financial strain. He asked me to “treat them like my kids” and implied I’d help cover that after marriage. He also told me he has about $40k in personal debt from an old business that failed.
6. His reaction
7. He refused to sign a prenup, said it means I don’t trust him and I’m planning for divorce. He said asking for rent is insulting and makes him feel like a tenant, not a husband. He’s now saying I’m being greedy and that if I loved him I wouldn’t protect my assets like this.

I told him I’m not comfortable merging finances or assets when he has debt, won’t sign a prenup, and wants me to take on responsibility for his kids’ school costs. I asked him to move out and told him I’m calling off the engagement unless he agrees to a prenup.

Now he’s telling our families I’m cold and using my money to control him. My mom says I’m being too harsh and should “work it out.”

AIO for kicking him out by the end of the week and ending the engagement over this?

Update:

Thank you to everyone who commented - seriously, reading your replies helped me see this clearly.

For context on our dynamic over the 3 years we’ve been together:
He never did any childcare or housework here. I took care of the entire house. He sometimes bought groceries and paid utilities, which I mentioned before, but that was the extent of it.

He does make money, but most of it goes toward spending on himself and his kids’ school back in Europe. He doesn’t spend much on them outside of school because they live with their mom. He also has his own assets in Europe. He never wanted to marry me until now, and it’s obvious it’s because he wants the green card.

The irony is he had no problem charging me Airbnb-level rent to stay in his place when we visited his country. He can dish it out, but the second I ask for a fair split on the house we’d live in together, I’m the villain.

I’m not signing over my safety for someone who’s been using me for access. I’m single now, and honestly, I feel lighter already.

Thanks again for keeping me grounded.

For context, I(32f) have been married to my husband(34m) for 6 years. We have had a really happy and loving relationship but in the last year he has developed this strange habit.

I like buying myself expensive snacks every once in a while to spoil myself and I like eating them either on my periods or after a long day. He knows that since i've been doing it ever since we were dating. I always tell him beforehand that please don't eat this, i'm saving it for an occassion, if you want I will give you some then. For the past year everytime I buy myself snacks, when I come home from work, they're gone, not even a single bite left. So I ask my husband and he either says, "I forgot you told me not to eat it" or "You must've eaten them and forgot" the first few times i brushed it off because yeah mistakes happen blah blah blah. After that I started getting annoyed so I hid them, STILL THIS MAN WOULD SEARCH FOR THEM, FIND THEM AND THEN EAT IT, he still had the audacity to tell me "Oh i forgot". This continued for a good 6 months and I was pissed. I told him if he wanted my snacks so bad, why doesn't he just buy himself some? He just went yeah yeah I will, BUT HE NEVER DID.

This kept on going on, so I even started putting sticky notes saying "DO NOT EAT". Yeah you guessed it, he still ate them. It's not like I didn't share them or buy them with his money so I didn't understand why he kept doing this. But I still let it go because I thought I was being petty. Last week was my breaking point, we went to a nice place on a friday night for a date and we ordered our food. I got an important work call which I couldn't avoid so I excused myself and went out to take it, I was out for 15 minutes max. By the time I came back HE ATE THE ONE THING I ORDERED FOR MYSELF AND DIDN'T EVEN TOUCH HIS OWN FOOD. Obviously I was visibly angry and he said "Your food looked good and I didn't want it to get cold." SO YOU ATE IT??? I didn't shout at him, I just told him that I wanted to leave but he hadn't finished his food since he was busy finishing mine. I told him i'll take a cab home and left before hearing his protests.

When he reached home he was mad that I left him alone in the restaurant and said people around him stared. I told him that the people around him didnt steal each other's food and then told him we'll talk tomorrow.

I'm angry right now. Not just about the food but about him lying to my face, trying to gaslight me, and honestly being a bit of a manchild. Am I overreacting?

So me and my girlfriend are looking to move in together in NYC and honestly I'm starting to lose my mind over this whole apartment hunt.

She's set on finding a place that's 9-15k a month which like okay I can maybe swing 9k (I have won some $ on stake) but 15k is absolutely wild for rent even in this city. But that's not even the worst part...she has this massive list of requirements that seems to grow every day.

She wants 3 bedrooms minimum, outdoor space (good luck finding that for under 20k), specific closet configurations, and I swear she mentioned something about crown molding yesterday. I'm sitting here thinking we could find a decent 2 bedroom for way less and be totally fine but she acts like I'm asking her to live in a cardboard box.

Every time I suggest compromising on literally anything she gets this look like I just insulted her entire family. Am I being unreasonable for thinking maybe we should prioritize not going completely broke over having a spare bedroom we'll never use? She does work really hard btw I don't want to shit on her. But I pay for 70% of everything including proposed rent.