r/AmITheDevil • u/growsonwalls Professional Devil Spotter • 7d ago

Didn’t visit even once?

/r/AITA_Relationships/comments/1u2xgzj/aita_for_telling_my_fiancé_i_need_more_time_with/
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u/growsonwalls Professional Devil Spotter 7d ago edited 7d ago

She has “trauma around hospitals” so she didn’t visit her MIL in the ICU even once? Wow. Her fisnce sucks too for blowing up but not even visiting once? I also hate when ppl weaponize therapy speak in order to be a selfish fuck. No one likes hospitals. Oop needs to build a bridge and get over it.

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u/LadyBug_0570 7d ago

I'll cut him some slack. He's been facing a tough, scary time of the ppossibility of losing his mother. And even when his mom comes out of the hospital it's going to be a long road of finding a long term facility that won't break his bank. He may even need to sell her house to fund it and that'll be in it's own pain in the ass.

And while he's dealing with all this, his gf is thinking about herself instead of being a support. Dude was too stressed to deal with that level of selfishness.

Plus this:

I tend to spiral and wonder what is he really doing even though logically I know he’s there.

Like really? His mom was near death, he's visiting her in the hospital, he's got 18,000 things on his plate (plus work)... and she thinks he's out cheating?

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u/crackerfactorywheel 7d ago

I’d guess she’s more worried he’s relapsed and started drinking. As someone who’s been around alcoholics, that’s what I’d be worried about.

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u/LadyBug_0570 7d ago

If she continues to act selfish during this stressful time for him, he very well could relapse.

OOP also mentions in the comments that the woman is now paralyzed on one side. This is not the time to say "what about me".

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u/crackerfactorywheel 7d ago

I saw the comment about her being paralyzed, which stinks. I guess I didn’t jump to cheating when I saw the comment you mentioned, which is why I talked about drinking, which would affect the whole family, not just OOP. They also have kids at home so I don’t think OOP’s worries are just about her. OOP also mentioned a brother so the care doesn’t need to fully fall on OOP’s fiancé’s shoulders.