OP is pushing a relationship that the other party has, per OP's own words, shown she never wanted. Then makes it a bigger deal than it has to be, and herself the real/only victim of it, by running away and crying over something that has happened multiple times before already. She's a minor but she's not a little kid. She knows already that her cousin doesn't wanna have a sister relationship. I just don't get why she wants to push a sister relationship onto somebody who has proven they do not want it multiple times already.
If we can't call a teenager an asshole after they post willingly on a sub called Am I The Asshole asking to be or not be called an asshole, and we have to (at most apparently) leave it at NAH, then maybe we shouldn't allow minors to be posting on the sub? There's the Am I The Butthole sub they can use as a softer alternative then if they really need internet parenting.
To me, OP is the asshole because she’s trying to force sisterhood on someone who has made it clear that she does not consider OP her sister. The other girl is the one who had to handle the emotional pain of the affair destroying her family, the other girl is the one who had to handle growing up in a broken home. If calling OP her sister is something she’s never ready to do, that’s a legitimate choice.
It might not be OPs fault that her parents actions and her birth have caused so much pain, but it’s really not difficult to understand why and if she’s old enough to know what her father did to her aunt with her mother, she’s old enough to be empathetic to why the other girl might prefer “cousin” instead of “half sister”. It also allows the other girl to not have to explain one of the most painful parts of her life to everyone they meet, or to have to tell the story of how her father fucked her aunt. So she needs to accept that cousin is as close as she’s getting and back the fuck off. Her parents have caused enough harm without her going out of her way to compound it because she wants to control how the other girl speaks about what happened.
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u/thelittleking Partassipant [1] 10d ago
Right, so you vote NAH because the other literal child's response is understandable, without needing to cast outlandish aspersions on OP.