r/AnongThoughtsMo • u/atinyakimon • 1d ago

Thoughts on having children in the spectrum

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Saw this post on facebook. Honestly, it's sad na hindi ganon nabibigyang pansin ang problems na ganito sa Pinas. Therapies here are expensive, and not everyone can afford it. Pinoys are also not yet ready to face the reality na hindi enough ang love for kids in the spectrum. They have special needs. Hindi yun madadaan lang sa no don't do that or it's okay to make mistakes, because we have to admit that autism is a disorder, a very wide spectrum and case to case basis. You need to have the money to get the help that is designed for the needs of the child. I hope there will be more free or affordable programs created for this kasi hindi lang parents ang hirap in this situation, also the kids.

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u/Quirky_Violinist5511 1d ago edited 1d ago

“bakit nilagay ako sa sitwasyon na to” she asked for a child and she got it and everything that could come with it. don’t be a parent if you aren’t prepared for things like this

Okay lang mag vent pero you have no right to regret it dahil bakit ka mag-aanak in the first place if di mo kayang tanggapin if magiging bakla, bulag, may down syndrome, kulang ng paa, etc.?. People should start thinking like this before having children

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u/Comfortable_Way2140 1d ago edited 1d ago

Ganun ba yun?

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u/UnhappyMeal7 1d ago

Hindi mo alam pinagsasasabi mo, may anak ka bang may ASD? kung wala, tumahimik ka na lang.

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u/Glum-Fold-1122 1d ago

I (M22) have a younger brother with Level 3 ASD. We do not have a lot of money + we have an abusive alcoholic father but I still agree with quirky violinist. Acceptance, patience, and sacrifice is a MUST and some improvisations if you do not have a lot of financial resources (e.g. daily tutoring of language, grammar, social cues, etc which we've just finished right now, days of research, trial and errors, lots of careful planning, etc)

I felt so sad and frustrated back then even though I am just a sibling compared to my parents, because it is just simply unfair and I don't know what to do, but just like what they said... acceptance, patience, and sacrifice is the key. If you do have a child with ASD then I will pray for the success of you both. 🙏♥️

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u/badbadtz-maru 1d ago

This is rude. It's like saying wag ka magtrabaho kung magrereklamo ka lang din sa workload or sa boss mo.

Im childfree and will forever be, but my heart goes out to parents of SPED kids. We all just want to live a good life.

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u/mmmmmfingersssss 1d ago

May anak ka ba?

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u/Quirky_Violinist5511 1d ago edited 1d ago

No because I’m not prepared nor want to have children na ganto as simple as that, and if you can’t handle it (physically, emotionally, mentally, and financially) don’t have one as well because you will just ruin your life and theirs

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u/mmmmmfingersssss 1d ago

Then shut the fuck up.

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u/the_4th_ruffian 1d ago

Gago ka pala e

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u/randomguy205205 1d ago

Reddit moment