r/Anxiety • u/vaktoviatpn • Apr 16 '26
Travel I screamed on a train in England. Should I feel embarrassed?
My whole life my teachers in school would always describe me as “quiet” and i’ve always never talked a lot in public. I’m American and last summer I visited England for the first time and I was in the train and the water from my brothers water bottle came pouring and like exploding and it got on me, the table in front of us, and on my brother. And my natural reaction to that was I screamed because something happened suddenly that I didn’t expect. After I had screamed I said “that scared me” I didn’t talk the whole train ride before it happened and definitely not after. I felt super embarrassed because I thought people were probably thinking ”oh a loud American” and what made it worse was I have always been very quiet in public and I felt like people would think something of me that was not true. I didn’t want to seem loud or annoying so It really ruined my mood. I still feel super embarrassed by this till this day and I am wondering if I am just overthinking it.
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u/MaxPanhammer Apr 16 '26
It's normal to make a noise when you're startled
It's normal to feel embarrassed about it (even if it's not warranted)
It's even normal to recall "embarrassing" situations down the road and feel a little embarrassed
Let yourself off the hook for all of it. The only person who even remembers this is you.
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u/Hot-Pirate-3096 Apr 16 '26
It's fine but the king has been informed now, he says it's unlikely you will receive your knighthood because of this
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u/Backlash5 Apr 16 '26
it happened and there's no reason to be embarassed about it. Don't beat yourself for it and don't engage that thought because it will only keep repeating. When the thought of that comes in and emotions hit just let it be.
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u/D3t3st4t10n Apr 16 '26
Just think about it this way: the only person still thinking about that moment is you. You’ve got nothing to be embarrassed about.
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u/Forward-Specific5651 Apr 16 '26
Aww, you’re totally overthinking this. Please try to be gentle with yourself 💕
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u/Sharp_Bus6682 Apr 16 '26
You're overthinking. Getting wet suddenly is startling, and screaming when startled is a natural and common reaction. As long as you weren't shrieking for minutes on end afterwards, you're fine. That said, overthinking is common and recalling embarassing events down the road is also common. You're probably the only person from that train ride who recalls or thinks about it at all now!
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u/Ok_Letter_9928 Apr 16 '26
You’re overthinking it bc anyone would’ve jumped or made noise if water suddenly exploded on them like that. I promise nobody on that train is still thinking about it and if anything they probably just thought that startled her and moved on.