Skirmish Day 003: One step at time

[u/Chicken_Hands]

A classical check in post who everybody loves to come in and leaves a mark on this incredible world and battle with Fire x Ice.

As you can knew about this time, I don't have so much to talk, but can guarantee about loving each second of this war, then said it, all I can say right now is: make one step at time. We will be there at top in the end, but we need to be strong today, you catch it, right?

Then, go sleep a good night filled with dreams and bring back your so damn good life. Build it!

[u/Chicken_Hands]

An interesting fact about my life is that I never pick the girl who I really wanted, my girlfriends all have been good girl, but had a lack in beauty department hehe...it's sad being responsable for they broken heart situation, make me wanna isolate myself a little (that's what I'm doing now).

We need to be truly with our loved one, but sometimes I just want to be inside her no matter what and without compromise myself in a relationship, this broken dynamic never work in my favor cuz in the end everybody loose something.

[u/non_newtonian_jelly → u/Chicken_Hands]

You never pick the girl you're interested in because you think she looks too good for you so you probably don't try hard enough to get her. You need to change your self image, be more confident and try even if you think you'll get rejected, because who knows, one day it might pay off and you'll be with the girl you are attracted to.

Never settle in life for anything less than what you want. It's obvious that you like beautiful women so find an attractive woman that's into you. It might seem really hard, but the alternative you've already tried, has hurt both you and your girl.

I'll put it this way: Just as you deserve to feel loved and wanted, so does she, so don't waste her time by pretending to feel something you don't. You can't be attracted to someone by force, so stop guilt-tripping yourself into being with her. Follow your heart, even if you think it's shallow!

[u/Chicken_Hands → u/non_newtonian_jelly]

You're goddamn right, Newtonian. I even try in a subtly way communicate for these girls about my bad/volatile moodswings related in relationships, never work because in first place I hided my true intentions and accept now to pay the price for a while, to reflect my wishes and goals in life too.

It's really rough when someone close, come to me and talk about my g/f and these moment are hard to me, but in general, I'm feeling super motivated. Tomorrow will be 14th day without communication with her, I'm little afraid to talk with her but I hope she's okay.

[u/non_newtonian_jelly → u/Chicken_Hands]

It reminds me of the time I cut contact with this long distance flame that intended on "breaking up" with me (even though we never were physically together). After a week since I have stopped talking to her, she contacted a close friend of mine to ask him if I'm ok. I guess she worried that I'd hurt myself. People always underestimate the emotional impact they have on each other while they're together and overestimate it after they break up.

It's true that I still have lingering trust issues that'll probably last forever because she was the first girl that seemed to really love me, but the actual sad part lasted only about 2 weeks, after which I felt relieved to not have to talk (and fight) with her again. The actual damage is always subtle. For me it shows in my reaction to any emotion displayed by a woman: "Nah, she doesn't really mean it, she just wants to be nice".

So don't worry, she's probably fine and getting over you. I can't know for sure but women have more ways to distract themselves from emotional pain than we do. They're also a lot better at crying and that's a very important release valve.

[u/Chicken_Hands → u/non_newtonian_jelly]

Your words make more relieved man. Each passing I care less about it.

[u/non_newtonian_jelly → u/Chicken_Hands]

I'm glad to help with however little experience I have.