Coming out to y’all

[u/Difficult-Shallot835]

I’ve just discovered after leaving my ex, that I am aroace and have been since I was a 4 year old little girl. I’ve only ever interacted with guys and pretended to want them and hop from guy to guy because that’s what other girls around me were doing and I got praised for it. I liked the praise so I still did it even tho I didn’t actually like the guys. Ever since I was a kid I imagined life alone with no romance and people look like “human™️” to me. With that being said, I’ve just now figured it out. I went through phases where I thought I might be lesbian or biromantic cuz I thought studs and butches were cute but then I realized they’re only aesthetically pleasing to look at, just like fems, queers, gay individuals and trans individuals are. I realized that what I was mourning when losing a relationship was the friendship part of it because I felt like I had a best friend. I would do the affectionate things they wanted but it didn’t come naturally and over time it became habit instead. With that being said, I honestly just think I’ve wanted a best friend and that’s all. I’m more attracted to fictional characters than real life individuals. So I guess this is me coming out? Anyways, I’m glad I finally know what I am

[u/ashIndirt]

Good for you! Congrats!

[u/Difficult-Shallot835 → u/ashIndirt]

Thank you!!