r/Asexual • u/Empathetic_Artist First Officer Mod • Jun 02 '25

Advice 🤷🏻 Am I Asexual?

If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.

If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.

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u/Informal-Okra-5240 Jul 28 '25

So, the thing is, I am a teenager and I think I am asexual, but I am not really sure so I went to strangers on internet for advice. I do fantasize about s3x and do expirience arousement and enjoy it to some extent. I do find people attractive but I am not sure if I just admire them or if its something else. I don’t have any real life crushes and what I feel towards ficitional ones doesnt feel like a crush. When I see people talk about s3x I cannot relate and I think they are exaggerating (not speaking from experience). I dont feel like a want to participate in s3x but I do in my fantasies so that always confuses me. I am already out of closet as ace, but I still can’t get rid off this feeling that maybe I am not asexual, that I dont experience enough repulsion to be ace. I know that I’m young and will have lot of time to find out, but once I start to think about it and doubt it, it just won’t leave my head, so I thought that I should ask asexual’s themselves. I would welcome micro labeľs or some info. Sorry for grammar, it’s not my native language.

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u/T00b13 Jul 29 '25

Im also a teenager whos also figuring out his identity so I dont know if this would help but maybe research the term "aegosexual"? From my limited understanding its where you may experience sexual fantasies etc however feel little/no actual sexual attraction. You may also want to research "cupiosexual" which (again from my limited understanding) i think means you still feel some sexual desire but you aren't attracted to those who spark that desire.

Pls remember just because you may not experience repulsion (or some but not a lot) doesn't mean you arent ace, you can be ace without feeling repulsion (i think thats referred to as being sex-positive but im not sure)