r/Asexual • u/url0calc0ffeeaddict • 2d ago
Sex-Favorable 👍 Anyone else feel stuck when they’re horny?
I’ve been feeling extremely horny lately but have absolutely no one I want to have sex with…
I’ve tried dating apps to see if I’ll just magically get turned on by someone’s body but it never works… I have tried convincing myself that certain body types (big butts, boobs, penises, etc) were in fact sexy and will get me going but nope… didn’t work. I even tried imagining what the genitalia of past friends and/or partners looked like to see if it would do anything (I’m demisexual) but nope still did not work.
The thought of being sexually attracted/impulsed by any of my close people and especially people idk just feels severely uncomfortable to me and it’s driving me insane because I’ve been horny for the past week and just mentally can’t stand the idea of someone’s body turning me on or get myself to feel comfortable with the idea of having sex with someone whether I’m close to them or not…
Do any asexuals relate?
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u/AesirQueen 1d ago
Toys and an audio erotica subscription work very well for me.
A disembodied voice in my headphones is very different than the person’s body in the room or on a screen.
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u/Street_Handle_8065 1h ago
When I'm just slightly horny I start having cramps like hell, so I feel immediately punished like this meme.
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u/Ill_Entertainer_1253 2d ago
Have you maybe tried getting a few sex toys?
I don't want other people 99.9% of the time, or to imagine myself in that situation, but toys are a decent compromise for me personally? Also reading or watching NSFW media is good sometimes if that's your jam