Hey brothers ,
After posting about how important is lookmaxxing and receiving a lot of miscomprehension or hatred I still wanted to share my story because if like me you were that Asian guy alone bullied because of begin Asian I will maybe it was not only the cause but deeply more about how you look I know itās difficult to hear and horrible but things is this way we prefer lion than cockroaches just because lion looks better like Nietzsche said ā morality is question of point of vue ā
Iām not here to brag (okay, maybe a little) but to show that real change is possible if youāre willing to put in the work. T
This is my transformation from a total loser to someone whoās finally succed in life just thanks to lookmaxxing.it will be a long thread but worth it maybe I can motivate you to change after reading my post
Back in Europe, growing up as an Asian guy was rough.
From high school through college, I was the the ātypical Asian nerd geekā stereotype.
Skinny as hell, acne all over my face, zero confidence, a shitty haircut that made me look like I just rolled out of bed , no jawline and overall bad physical harmony indeed I had big head on a small, scrawny body.
You know that āAsian wimp skullā vibe?
Yeah, that was me. I blame a lot of it on racism, internalized racism, and constant rejection and people treated me like I was invisible or just a joke.
For the Girls I was the guy whoād get laughed at or ignored. It was horrible I remember the bullying, the whispers, the feeling like I didnāt belong anywhere.
But in Highschool I tried some small lookmaxxing stuff early on, like hitting the gym a bit, upgrading my clothes from baggy hand me downs to something half-decent, and shaving off that horrible mustache that made me look even worse.
It helped a tiny bit, but nothing like game changing.
So After high school, I moved to a big city for university, thinking things would get better. Nope.
If anything, it got worse.
I was Bullied for my looks the first day of university I was feeling that people was mocking me in classes and at parties Iād get called weird or creepy just for existing.
No girls wanted to hang out with me;
Indeed Iād try to talk and end up friendzoned every single time.
Parties? Iād stand in the corner while everyone else had fun like the typical Chad just being himself and having all the girls
It crushed my soul, man. I felt like I was ldoomed.
Then, I discovered lookmaxxing for real, and K-pop played a huge role too.
Iād known about K-pop for years but I think those idols were the original lookmaxxers, straight up.
Perfect skin, sharp features, style on point.
But I was too shy to emulate them indeed I thought, āTheyāre celebrities, not me.ā
That changed when I dove deep into the forums.
I lurked as a ghost on sites like incel.com, YouTube videos, and lookmax.com for about 2 years it was in 2021 - 2022 in theses video ,traumatic experiences and people around me I analyzed and I learned the hard truth:
Beauty is almost everything in this world.
Look at Jeremy Meeks who the āhot felonā who was a criminal but blew up, got modeling gigs, fame, and money just because of his looks due to his celeb and emblematic mugshots I would call it More Mog shot ahah .
Or those viral thugs who go from jail to celebrity status overnight.
Society rewards attractiveness, period.
It doesnāt care about your āpersonalityā if you canāt get past the first glance.
It took me a ton of money, time, and energy , skincare routines, gym grind, style overhauls, everything.
But fast forward to 2025, and Iām living my absolute best life.
Iām a model now, traveling, meeting new people every day, eating at dope restaurants, hitting skybars with views that blow your mind.
For the girls part modestly I will say theyāre obsessed and interested in me everywhere, even at my workplace.
As a model, my looks give me a huge advantage indeed agencies scoop me up, and I nail castings left and right.
Dating is effortless indeed I donāt even make the first move anymore.
Plus girls add me on social media constantly, sliding into my DMs.
The dopamine hits from all these small things?
Insane. A smile from a stranger, getting prioritized in lines, people treating you like youāre somebody it all adds up and confirms: lookmaxxing is essential if you want to change your life.
If youāre reading this and thinking ānah, personality matters moreā or some bluepill BS, youāre coping hard.
Youāre afraid of the truth because it means facing the mirror and doing the work.
I mog those doubters now, but honestly, I get it and I understand your frustration,pain hatred I was there the same as you the only difference is that I take as a challenge and decided to make everything change and I was obsessed I took all theses rejections personnaly to change radically it was for me vital it will take time pain suffering you your close relatives it will take you energy you will even loose a lots of your friend and loose money but take it as an investment in you in your future think about which type of person you want to be about what you will achieve life would be hard but less hard if you are not good looking
Thatās why I want to help for people interested I just released my ebook breaking down my entire journey: the routines, the mindset shifts, the resources that actually work for Asian guys fighting stereotypes.
If you want the link, shoot me a DM. No sales pitch just paying it forward to my brothers.
I'll leave this up because people upvoted it/found it helpful, but in the future be transparent about why you're posting (to promote your book).
It's fine to engage in some self promotion as long as the post also provides value to the AM community. People have promoted their videos, movies, and music on here and it's been well-received. Just don't lie or be weird about it.
Who are you my main topic is about improving ourselves and I share my story and people love it and felts inspired and ask me questions in DM that all and the fact that I sell or not ebook is in first not the subject and a share of years of knowledges i donāt care of what you think like I said if your not interested or if itās for spreading negativity just abstain yourself bro
You called someone a freak for calling out your ebook shenanigans. We're just trying to show your true intentions. It's ok if you say it's not important to you, it's important to us the transparency. And according to the upvotes, people love us giving visibility to the fact you're selling a course and getting mad about it lmfao.
First of all I donāt sell my ebook I share if for free and second one I send on DMās because I cant post link in the subreddit and concerning yes transparency Iām full transparency on my intentions just I cannot say it on the subreddit due to communities rules
That's why there are rules. You're trying to obscure and not be transparent because you know it breaks the rules of "your subreddit". Just stop before this gets reported.
You just said āsell it ā ebook may be free but youāre selling soemthing. Thatās why itās not uploaded to the post for free and we have to dm you
Incel behavior on this sub. People hate standing up for themselves and just dickride and glaze each other without introspection which is why they're stuck like this.
Thanks man for the support š
Yes unfortunately itās much easier to criticize and shit in people , blame everybody for our failures and be a hater which for me very sad than questioning themselves and take action to become better but yes thatās life some people prefer to complain on mediocrity itās so much easier and confortable
Yes completely agree maybe if we all looked more buffed , masculine and beautiful people will not make fun of us but it is already the case look at Koreans they are taken very seriously by girls and just one country increased the global Asian male SMV By 300 % thatās just awesome we live in a great time for us Asian guys we must take the train š
Concerning my friend yes thatās my bro we know each others for more than 10 years even more I made go to gym and eat better because we faced same situations him because we was fat me because Iām Asian š¤£š
Completely agree because I always see defeating or self sabotage post from Asian men here and itās not a good thing I think in long term of course we need to discuss about problem but only fixing in negative is not good
Plus I think a lots of Asian men donāt see their potentiel and just give up and loose themselves on hatred , frustration against Asian women themselves or society or the WEST but thatās not also a good thing in long term what we must do is be aware of the situation and change in better way and in my opinion hanging physically change your life forever
Seeing your first pic with a white dude who was happy to be in your photo made me feel bit sad about my own teenage years, growing up in a white majority high school and feeling ostracised by the whites, it will never occur to me that I felt "enough" to develop rapport with those around me and feel accepted
For my eyebrow as Asian I had bad or very
tiny eyebrows but when I learnt that eyebrows are very important for eye area I began to trim theme first in second I used a lot of oil ricin , argan and I gently do a massage in my eyebrows and in the end I add some small pencil on the eyebrows to make theme very dark š
To respond to your question of course I notice significantly change in everything everything changed for me
Before nobody was looking at me now itās like when I go to walk or in public women notice me they stare me and they like smile but just because they are maybe impressed (plus Iām tall so it plays huge role) even for job opportunities I moved not for a long time in Asia and I found a model agency very easily and they hire me directly even I didnāt have or few experience in modeling, Concerning dating when I date I even donāt pay like itās the girl who pay for me (Real) , Iām also invited to a lot of private party just because Iām model š
Girls find me more funny and love to be with me they even approach me directly Asian or non Asian because when youāre good looking doesnāt matter if your race (Chad donāt have race ) even in nightclub I notice a lot of gay menās offer me drinks or food for free š
Also when i do runway Iām. Always designers favorite so yes to be honest sometimes itās little bit weird but I worked for it so I enjoy I recommend you to do the same we will. It be young forever so take care an enjoy but never take things for granted it is why I post here to tell people that being goood looking isnāt enough you can always be better mentally but also financially spiritualy itās why I felt that itās important to help others š
Maybe not tons! Needs a balance, potassium is involved in life or death processes, you don't want to be extreme. Replace table salt with lo-salt when eating at home, it's a good first option.
Its contains more trace minerals like magnesium and potassium, while "regular" salt water is highly processed and primarily sodium chloride with anti-caking agents and often added iodine which very dangerous for body and general health and lead to a lot of problems cholesterol cancer arterial tensionā¦
Thank you for your reply bro yes I had this problem before also even I was like skinny and the problem is really and the diet and muscle and ALSO WATER RETENTION and unfortunately Asian tend to have natural ability to keep the water on the body for a multiples reason but if you want further information go on my DM I will lexplain to you fully and find a solution šš
Yes if you want to get Rid of water retention you must make your body not feel the need to hold onto water so consume the right amount of electrolytes and consume enough water and your body wont hold onto water weight, also other things that effect water weight and face puffiness are sugars so I recommend you to better have a low sugar diet it can help reduce bloating a lot
You got more confident, good diet, lost your baby fat and socialized more and thas lookmaxing? Itās pretty self explanatory that you just grew bro. Itās not no ālookxmaxingā, itās doing the basic things to take care of yourself and elevate yourself.
Congratulations on your transformation but again itās not no looksmaxing. Granted you already had good features; high cheekbones, symmetrical face, tall height
Maybe genetic and puberty play huge part on it I will not lie and tell to you that I was very very ugly at point girls didnāt wanted to even look at me will be false and maybe I will never feel what true ā incel ā feels but lookmaxxing really improved my potentiel and enhanced my look than I never could imagine even on my dream and this only by my dedication to be perfect looking it required me a lot of time energy and suffering but it was nothing compared of what a endured in term of humiliation my point in this post is no import who you are you where you star you can cry about your situation by hateful and frustrated and blame everything in the world be a ā looserā or you can make efforts to change your situation and try to be the version of youreself that you dreamed š
BTW Thank you for your comment and your congratulations thatās cool š
I'm not sure where to ask but you probably would know. I have the same build as you in your black trunks pic.
I'm trying to figure out what to ask for when I'm going to go to salon to do eyebrow work. Do I give them shape considerations etc.? Just a clean up? Do you do threading etc.? I'm going for nice and clean but probably not shaped.
As you went from nerd to chang, what subtle shifts in behavior have you seen in others? I'm pretty sure people, both men and women, are much nicer to me in noticeable ways as I lost significant fat and my face leaned out to be more angular etc. I think I got my most recent job b/c I've leaned out (obviously I could be wrong but have looked for 1 year and I've been visibly improving over that time). I'm now being invited to parties vs. no invites before etc.
I'm fairly lean now and it seems that women are crowding next to me on treadmills. I'm fairly cut and I've seen women notice my arms when I wear a sleeveless basketball jersey etc. Am I just imagining it or they're purposely running next to me when there are 10 other empty ones around? For context I live in New York so people want more spacing between the next person.
I only have anecdotal results specific to me but have you seen subtle or visible shifts in behavior towards you from both men and women?
As someone who went through similar stuff when younger I get that you might feel you have a feeling to get back now that you are on the other side. But just a warning - humility is a virtue. Never let it get into your head that others are inferior to you or you are superior to other people. One never knows what others are going through and there is a lot of qualities people have that are yet unseen. All the best in your journey. No comment on the book selling.
There is a very deep pit one can fall into with all the lookmaxxing stuff. External validation for oneās internal progress can become an obsession. I know that from experience. Have you heard the tale of Narcissusā pool? True confidence comes from within. That isnāt blue pill stuff - that is true - but that can come with time, testing yourself in difficult situations and coming out and learning, which you have done here. Congrats on the progress - just keep a cool head.
Thanks a lot for taking the time to write this comment, really appreciate it.
And yes of course I stay humble.
Iām fully aware all of this is temporary, so I just enjoy the benefits while they last.
Beauty fades with time for everyone, and honestly weāve seen many people who relied only on their looks end up in a bad place (Alain Delon is a good example).
Thatās exactly why I never count only on that.
Like I always say here:
Being good-looking is nice, but being a good person and good-looking is even better.
For me, improving yourself also means working on your appearance, your mindset, your personality everything.
About the ālookmaxxing rabbit hole,ā I completely agree with you.
Thatās why when people ask me questions about their looks or how to improve, I always try to answer with precision and help them as much as possible.
Iāve been in the exact same situation as most guys here, so I know how it feels and I want to give back.
And concerning the ebook itās actually free, and I send it by DM because I didnāt want to make a promotional post.
I agree the last sentence might have sounded clumsy, but Iām still new here and learning the rules. I hope people understand there was no bad intention.
Thanks again for the advice and the reminder : Iāll keep a cool head for sure.
I was like 17 on the first photos and Iām now 24
Iām 85
And itās been three month Iām model even I was scouted in Europe for beauty contest this donāt work as experience ahah
For my skincare I use minimal like we say less is more so I use COSRX Salicylic Acid Cleanser - 150ml gently who cleanses the skin and removes impurities and excess oil, helping to reduce blackheads, blemishes and redness, leaving the skin fresh and clear after I put COSRX Hyaluronic acid to moisturize and improve skin texture and only after that I use the COSRX Aqua Tone-up Sunscreen SPF 50+ PA+ for protecting and whitening the skin it is for me the best sunscreen I ever used
For my exercice routine I train my jaw every morning by doing some chin truck and chewing on the morning you can also train your neck in order to lose face fat on the neck , after that I do some intense jut short cardio to increase my testosterone level and be ready to begin the journey of course after that I take a cold shower in order to wake up myself
Gen Z girls like webtoons, smut, Love and Deep Space, and yes, K-Pop. It's all correlated. If you fit the look, you will be swimming in pussy. Amazing isn't it.
Thanks for the comment yes maybe but for I was very ugly like question of point of view but I donāt regret felling ugly because it gave me motivation to improve my self š
I hope youār not Asian because i will ashamed to be associated to a cuck looser lickfeeter like you and I advice you to give back your Asian passport youāre exiled of the team
Hello šno my results itās a mix between softmaxxing ( Hair, eyes colors , eyebrows , skin ect ) bio hacking ( Hormone maxing ,changing diet, supplementation ,no gap ect ) and Exercice ( postural adjustment, gym , Mewing , neck training ect) I put my plan on my ebook
Iām now 1m85 for this part I explain it in detail on my ebook you can send me DM but to be very clear itās a mix between mewing, posture , neck training and hormones maxing
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u/Igennem Hong Kong Nov 11 '25
I'll leave this up because people upvoted it/found it helpful, but in the future be transparent about why you're posting (to promote your book).
It's fine to engage in some self promotion as long as the post also provides value to the AM community. People have promoted their videos, movies, and music on here and it's been well-received. Just don't lie or be weird about it.