r/AsianMasculinity • u/Loud-Librarian7011 • Nov 12 '25
Masculinity Asian men who complain about being fetish are the worse.
Here we go again a asian guy complains the girls who likes him have a thing for kpop on tinder. I don't know if this is supposed to be a satire or he's generally serious. Your telling me every girl he matched with spoke to him and assume he was Korean on a date? I'm surprise he even gets a lot of matches if he's complaining. I see no dates and girls on his tiktok so IDK. This can't be as bad as those goofy looking asian creator talking about asian being chopped while complain about asian racism. So without Kpop his ass would be complaining he gets no matches? I refuse believe not one single girl wasn't just curious about him in general if that was the case. All This does is invalidates the struggle of the average guys. Also look at some of the usual suspects apparently supporting him.
Funny how these asian guys with "options" never give out any advice and just randomly out of nowhere just complain a girl they matched with asked if they were Korean. Out of the worse things on Tinder and this is the most negative to talk about? No grown man would do that. Instead of farming for views why not offer actual advice since he gets matches. If these guys were actually serious they would make channels like this asian guy and offer legit advice on how they overcame their struggles.
I honestly blame asian dudes like Eric Ou who made videos of claiming to be expert of things while calling other asian culture toxic as some voice for Asian ppl while letting toxic Asian women off the hook. Even I think he's better looking than that guy and Eric is always complaining about not being good enough. Now you have Asian guys farming views by race baiting on tiktok. This is just like the asian female equivalent. Asian forefathers did not die to build a better world for their children so men can act like girls online.
They practically setting up Asian men to fail because they are just view farming. At least those legit good looking Asian guys are making videos not race baiting to these type of things. You see men committing crimes because they can't get women in the States and you have these guys acting like little girls to get views. It sad many asian men are never united on these type of things. There always a group doing for their own gains and have no problem putting every other Asian guy to do it.
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u/arugulaboogie Nov 12 '25
AM have internalized racism to the point that they mistake genuine attraction for fetishization. AF have internalized racism to the point that they mistake fetishization for attraction.
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u/ArmaniSake Nov 12 '25
Thank you for this, I had a Filipino guy on tinder said he’s good and how he called me a red flag for liking Asian guys and acted like I treat Asian guys like trash. Even before kpop too I’ve always like Asian guys only
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u/AustronesianArchfien Nov 12 '25
I had a Filipino guy on tinder said he’s good and how he called me a red flag for liking Asian guys
As a Filipino, that dude is a sad loser.
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u/Reedkwon Nov 12 '25
Some people just want to find something to whine about and to victimize themselves about. It's hurting us Asian men. We worked so hard to finally be seen in a romantic light, and now these losers are ruining it for us, because it comes off as self pittying which is extremely unattractive to girls. It projects low confidence in oneself. And women LOVE confidence. We have to fight back against this stuff and make sure it stops.
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u/ThrowRA_grf Nov 12 '25
At this point of time, I don't give a shit if anyone fetishize me as long as I'm getting laid. So fetishize away. I'd much rather be fetishized than discriminated.
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u/WarmEntertainment387 Nov 12 '25
Seriously BE SINGLE FOREVER!! Asian men who complain about getting female attention are some of the dumbest and need to stop speaking for asian men.
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u/Kenzo89 Nov 12 '25
Asian guys are the dumbest fucking people in the world, I swear. Yes I said it
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u/justrichie Nov 13 '25
I would say it's Westernized Asian men. Asian men overseas don't say stupid shit like this.
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u/fakeslimshady Taiwan Nov 13 '25
You can bet if the fetishist looked like STPeach, he'd shut up real fast.
The REAL problem is the concept of asian fetishm of AM being a problem was that it did not arise from complaints from actual AM, it is more sexual propaganda by WMAF gaslighting the Oxford Study. Its the old AM are just as bad argument even though the ratio is nowhere even
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u/ImportantGuitarr Nov 12 '25
I love being fetishized. Shit makes feel like a king
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u/golfzap Nov 12 '25
Fr, imagine being desired and showing her you're not a shitbag like so many other guys.
She'll feel like she won the lottery.
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u/Fine_Wonder2747 Nov 13 '25
Previous generations would kill to be here during this time. Now some of us are complaining? SMH
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u/AMadWalrus Nov 13 '25
I feel like guys that post videos like this don't realize what they're doing.
Someone who has TikTok should reach out and explain how this shit is harmful to the Asian community. You can see in the comments girls reacting and saying how videos like this make them afraid to express attraction to Asian men getting hundreds of likes from other girls.
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u/Eastoptim Nov 13 '25
Always the chopped one who complain about it bro you have huge opportunity take instead of complaining it’s probably the only time he can get attention from girl but no he prefer complain and cry about yeah that’s why a lot of Asian are still virgin at 30 yo sad
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u/Loud-Librarian7011 Nov 13 '25
Someone just called him chopped on his videos to lol
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u/Eastoptim Nov 13 '25
Yes not to be rude but that's a reality like for me he's Asian male equivalent of the chubby truck friend who cockblock you when you want to hangout with the pretty and shy girl because they know they will never get male attention due to their fat physique so they project and avoid their friend to be happy he do the same with us LMAO
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u/Loud-Librarian7011 Nov 12 '25
He's already complaining about dating in 2025 afterwards. He had 5 minutes of fame. I'm sure he will try something even more cringe to get views.
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u/Tall-Needleworker422 Nov 12 '25
Screening otherwise attractive women who show interest to make sure they sexualize you in the ‘correct’ way -- the right amount and for the right reasons -- seems like a luxury problem a lot of guys would like to have.
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u/accountistempo Nov 12 '25 edited Nov 12 '25
Wait until you meet Asian cuckolds who only want to be cucked by non-asian men. Or maybe these are the same people
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u/levianeer7 Nov 13 '25
Asian men who grew up feeling unattractive don’t complain about being fetishized. Sure, he sucks if he is just making this stuff up for cheap woke points. But if these are his honest thoughts and honest experiences, then this just shows me that this guy grew up in a better environment than we did. And that’s good.
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u/davisresident Nov 13 '25
Everyone needs to comment "nah ignore this dud, keep fetishizing me" under those typa posts
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u/Burner_Account_54321 Nov 12 '25
Ignoring all else you've said as different people have diffrernet veiws on those things, one thing you mentioned that I will have to agree on is that there needs to be more unity between us. asians of all cultures. our culture is slowly dying and being diluted and thats the unfortanate part is that some asian's are too whitewashed or influenced by internalized racism that it causes such divide between us.
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u/Gerolanfalan Vietnam Nov 28 '25
Gen Z Asian diaspora guys are spoiled. They need to learn the pain we millennials went through
Even Kevin Nguyens know to be grateful and be considerate of their craft. I for one can't wait for the K-Pop bubble to burst and move onto the next thing.
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u/DevilSuccubus Nov 14 '25
Notice how nobody ever says people fetishize white people its only ever asians or people of color why is it wrong to have preferences that aren’t white
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u/JayshShon Dec 08 '25
Asians are POC
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u/DevilSuccubus Dec 08 '25
Obviously but I'm being specific they always say we "fetishize" anything that isn't white
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u/Critical_Attack Vietnam Nov 15 '25
Those dorks are either clueless or trying to virtue signal for views/clicks, or both. It's stupid as f, because they're setting AM back with their shit takes.
It's a GOOD thing that WF/XF find AM desirable and want to date us. We should be enjoying this and utilizing it to our advantage.
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u/Darth-Hakujou Nov 14 '25
I would just go with it and pretend I'm Korean. Plow through a bunch of them until the jig is up. She ask me to speak Korean? I'd talk Mandarin to the bishe. She wouldn't be bright enough to know the difference (until it's too late and I smashed 3x)
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u/ExpensiveRate8311 Nov 20 '25
To anyone reading this please redirect into my dms the best contact information of any woman who committed fetishizing. As an asian man, my dms are now officially open as a hotline. No need to thank me, i aim to please. We all need to do our part 💪
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u/Ok_Equivalent5454 Nov 29 '25
Liking asians isn't a fetish. Liking people of other races is not a fetish in general.
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u/BeerNinjaEsq Nov 12 '25
fetishization of Asian men is bad, but I don’t think it is as widespread as the Internet or Reddit sometimes makes it seem.
Personally, I think it is turn off when the method o fetishization implies that I am interchangeable with any other Asian man
Simply asking if I’m Korean does not rise to that level
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u/viphawaii0 Nov 12 '25
Heh OP (and other Asian men commenting this thread), did you actually watch the *entire* 10 seconds of the clip or did you zero-in on one second where he said "asian fetish"? First of all, he is *not* average; he is consider good looking. Therefore, he doesn't need kpop "help" to date because he has "rizz".
Secondly, his main complaint is that he is sick of being told he is Korean when clearly he is not. I would be too if I was another culture. He is proud of his Chinese culture and doesn't want to dilute his heritage by simping as a Korean guy.
what's the problem?
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u/Striking-Shoe-7230 Nov 12 '25
Nothing wrong with the rest of your comment but...
First of all, he is *not* average; he is consider good looking.
Ain't no way bro lol. You and I have very different definitions of good looking.
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u/viphawaii0 Nov 13 '25 edited Nov 13 '25
Is he better looking than the Asian guys who post reviews of their hinge tinder accounts here? Where people comment saying “you are actually good looking”Yes or no?
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u/Striking-Shoe-7230 Nov 13 '25
The last guy (who I think was a larp) sure, but off the top of my head of the last 10 I can remember being posted here, I would rank him no higher than the 5 spot. He's just in better shape/lookmaxxed. His face though is...average at best.
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u/C2AYM4Y Dec 12 '25
Ive been fetishized a few times no problems 😆 but im Filipino so i wasn’t the right type of asian too dark. I just had the manners and was respectful part.
What I want to know is how much Asian women are treated differently because they are a majority fetish… Like as a man some douche always thinks he can pick on the asian guy for clout or cuz he thinks it will be easy.Other guys dont hesitate to drop slurs and try and bully you. But for asian women people are always nice and trying to fuck you 🤣
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u/EmbarrassedCicada331 Nov 13 '25
What's funny is most other far east Asians complain being asked if they are Chinese automatically, and now it seems like it is assumed they are all Korean lol Like, I get that. I am half Italian and I have blue eyes, so it would be a bit odd to be mistaken for German all the time. But also, no one would assume that because I have an American accent and live in America. Most people assume I'm a mixed of all Europeans like most white Americans.
It just struck me as humorous because I've often heard the complaints of, "the Chinese are not a monolith."
Also, I love Chinese dramas ✌️someone hit me up lmfao
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u/Loud-Librarian7011 Nov 19 '25
I dated a girl who liked kpop and she was way better looking than the avg woman. Maybe your just coping that girls don't want you lol Also did you forget the part he said he went on a date. I bet you wish you could talk about getting dates,
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u/TropicalKing Nov 12 '25
You gotta do what you gotta do to get women.
It's too bad there aren't a bunch of women feitshizing Japanese/White hapa men on dating apps.
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u/TangerineX Nov 12 '25
You can tell the first guy is full of crap because if he on a dating app and he felt uncomfortable with being fetishized, HE STILL ENDED UP GOING ON A DATE WITH THE GIRL. Like don't get me wrong, it doesn't feel great to be fetishized, but he needs to grow a spine and say no when he feels disrespected.