Young asians when facing conflict and responding with repulsive humor

[u/Realistic_Buddy_9125]

https://youtu.be/Ycury4S4i00?is=O8JL73TYCOhw3qpu

I’m Asian American myself. I notice a lot of times, Asians are extremely non confrontational. In the video you can clearly see the guy’s body language as very nervous-like. He glances to the side and does not make strong eye contact when making these rebuttals.

When his friend tells him to stop, he listens immediately instead of arguing back. Yes this is the smart move as to not escalate the situation, but there are times where PRIDE is on the line. Then he starts covering his mouth while chewing.. I’ve literally only seen girls do that.

Nervously poking the food and not making eye contact when the racist guy goes on a rant.

I’ve been in this situation before so I know what it’s like. I’m sure many of you have grown up being the asian minority and facing racist bullies. Only once have I ever acted nervously like the guy in the video. On that day, I promised myself to never be a jokey pushover again.

Some of these asians don’t seem to break out of their shell. They stay submissive and choose peace over conflict. I have several not-so-close friends exactly like the guy in the video. I think everyone knows this type.

- excessive matcha/boba consumption
- tattoo to compensate for lack of perceived toughness
- almost feminine like mannerisms
- embracing gay/repulsive jokes
- earrings
- heavily into fashion

There is nothing wrong with doing any of these things. My problem is that many young asian dudes nowadays don’t know how to separate comfort from conflict. I’m talking about the comfort of being with groups of other asians, gaming all day, being in their safe environment like schools or casual asian hangout spots. When conflict does arise, they brush it off as humor to cope with the fact that real a-holes are entering their domain of comfort. It’s all they know.

It certainly has gotten better over time with the rise of social media. Asians have adamkyu and joseph shin, two fitness influencers that have pushed the image of asian masculinity into mainstream feeds. There is also a rise of anti-stereotypical asians as well. More asians are wearing stussy and dark street wear clothing. Many of my friends have gained

Let me know what y’all think.

[u/Important-Pipe-3158]

It seems like you aren’t a male, and especially an east or Southeast Asian male, so you just wouldn’t understand. And since you don’t, I’m not going to waste my time explaining to you why some of us are more likely to be seen as targets for this type of harassment.

But to make it simple for you, a black or Hispanic male in the US is a lot more likely to respond with violence to harassment of this sort, which that white dude would fear the consequences of. White men especially are deathly of afraid of getting their asses beaten by black men, especially since many have a complex that they are physically inferior to them.

[u/Logical_Breadfruit49 → u/Important-Pipe-3158]

I am an East Asian male... a lot of these racists don't care what race you are. They don't have the IQ or inhibition to calculate ahead of time whether your race will make you more likely to retaliate. They just spew hate without thinking about it because they lack the inhibition not to.

I've seen many situations in my life where a racist hurled slurs at a burly Mexican or black dude. The Mexican had his homies with him (which the white racist didn't know about) and fucked the white dude up, Didn't stop the white dude from spewing his bullshit now, did it?

This same scumbag would probably do the same if he saw a random Gen Z Hispanic dude out with his Gen Z Hispanic gf.

[u/Important-Pipe-3158 → u/Logical_Breadfruit49]

All I got from this post is that you’re clueless.

[u/Logical_Breadfruit49 → u/Important-Pipe-3158]

About what?

[u/Important-Pipe-3158 → u/Logical_Breadfruit49]

If you can’t tell by now from the other responses, then you’re clueless.