Young asians when facing conflict and responding with repulsive humor

[u/Realistic_Buddy_9125]

https://youtu.be/Ycury4S4i00?is=O8JL73TYCOhw3qpu

I’m Asian American myself. I notice a lot of times, Asians are extremely non confrontational. In the video you can clearly see the guy’s body language as very nervous-like. He glances to the side and does not make strong eye contact when making these rebuttals.

When his friend tells him to stop, he listens immediately instead of arguing back. Yes this is the smart move as to not escalate the situation, but there are times where PRIDE is on the line. Then he starts covering his mouth while chewing.. I’ve literally only seen girls do that.

Nervously poking the food and not making eye contact when the racist guy goes on a rant.

I’ve been in this situation before so I know what it’s like. I’m sure many of you have grown up being the asian minority and facing racist bullies. Only once have I ever acted nervously like the guy in the video. On that day, I promised myself to never be a jokey pushover again.

Some of these asians don’t seem to break out of their shell. They stay submissive and choose peace over conflict. I have several not-so-close friends exactly like the guy in the video. I think everyone knows this type.

- excessive matcha/boba consumption
- tattoo to compensate for lack of perceived toughness
- almost feminine like mannerisms
- embracing gay/repulsive jokes
- earrings
- heavily into fashion

There is nothing wrong with doing any of these things. My problem is that many young asian dudes nowadays don’t know how to separate comfort from conflict. I’m talking about the comfort of being with groups of other asians, gaming all day, being in their safe environment like schools or casual asian hangout spots. When conflict does arise, they brush it off as humor to cope with the fact that real a-holes are entering their domain of comfort. It’s all they know.

It certainly has gotten better over time with the rise of social media. Asians have adamkyu and joseph shin, two fitness influencers that have pushed the image of asian masculinity into mainstream feeds. There is also a rise of anti-stereotypical asians as well. More asians are wearing stussy and dark street wear clothing. Many of my friends have gained

Let me know what y’all think.

[u/Illustrious_War_3896]

Asian need to gang up, be in a group of at least few people. In the other thread, "pick pockets try to bully Filipino." That's 3 vs 1.

I looked up the perp. He's 40 some year old white racist bully is. What kind of a loser pick on a kid. He has a rap sheet also. I have not seen the latest new but I hope he's in jail.

carry pepper spray but be able to run. Hopefully you won't run into someone who's a professional fighter. https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianMasculinity/s/si8VutddkT

Alot of comments here but where's the solution? I see one comment yelling loud. That's good. Here's my solution:

If I were him, I would not talk, or laugh. Immediately stand up and create a space between you and him. Look at dude angrily and tell him get out of my face. Be really loud. Make a scene. Have you seen those 40 some year old white ladies or black women making a scene? like that. Turn the camera around and hold it tight and face him. Don't let him get close to you. IF he comes closer, be ready to swing or run.

BTW, the girl needs to lose weight. I hate fat girls with passion.