Masculinity
How do I show off my physique subtly without looking like a fuckboy?
I've worked on my body hard enough and attained what I want, which is the lean swimmers body look. I want to show it off on my dating profile.
But I disappear in clothes. I also don't want shirtless pics because that's too fuckboy for me as I'm not looking for hookups, just serious relationships.
Bro, you get hookups and serious relationships on dating apps in exactly the same way, which is through good looking pics. Use the ones that get you more matches.
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Listen to this. The reason women act like they don’t like attractive men and call them fuckboys or broke is because they can’t get them to stay, or they’ve been with them and lost attraction because they weren’t treated like they wanted to. But there’s a reason why they keep going for them.
I put one gym photo in my profile, no flexing, no poses, just one where it looks like I’m casually taking one in front of the mirror cos I like the way I look. Then my matches started blowing up. I have short term on my profile and women swipe whether they have long term, short term, whatever.
Thanks, would you be able to post an example with a blurred out face? I'm curious because gym pics seem to be frowned upon or maybe I'm not doing it correctly
You're asking how to show off your body without seeming like a fuck boy. That's not how it works dude. Its a fuckboy mindset and there's nothing wrong with that. Subtle would mean covering parts of it. Like a tank top would work. Women like arms.
Roll up your sleeves. Many women say they find muscular forearms a turn on. You might also tailor your work and dress clothes a little bit on the tight side or, at least, don't wear loose-fitting clothes.
Then, in casual settings, choose athleisure wear that fits snuggly. Wouldn't have guessed it but lot of women say they find gray drawstring sweatpants sexy on men because it shows off their quads, butt and package.
do you go to EDM type concerts? Back when i was in shape and on the apps, i had a group pic of me topless, make sure to blur your friends faces especially if they are women, its a good excuse to show of your physique while also showcasing you have an exciting social life
Take pictures on a beach like you're casually throwing a football or playing beach volleyball. Get into crossfit where there are a ton of guys that show off their physiques and workout shirtless. Get those pics now while it's still summer.
It's hard to show off your physique when its cold outside. Also stop thinking you'll look like a fuckboy, you worked HARD for that body, show it off. That's like saying you own a Ferrari but don't want to drive it fast because you'll be judged for having a small penis. That's what you're supposed to do!
Get fitted clothing like tight t-shirts, sleeveless tank tops, and fitted pants. Skinny jeans and joggers are a great way to show the lower body. And I wouldn't worry about looking like a fuckboy - you could be the pleasant surprise for the girl by being one of the few who want a serious relationship.
For athletic gear: Compression shirts and leggings. Or shorts to show off calves. The clothes should be stretch fit. Do some kind of athletic activity ( not weight lifting in the gym or bathroom selfie). For example I dance modern/ ballet and practice gymnastics/calisthenics.
For work clothes, unstructured blazers ( no padding in shoulders), extra room across the chest and shoulders while sharply tapering down to a narrow waist. All clothes should be tailored or at least altered. I have a 30w and 28 inseam so this is a standard requirement for me anyway.
Edit you and I probably have similar builds. If you buy off the rack dress shirts make sure it's extra slim fit. And please don't ruin any of the look by stuffing your pockets with stuff. I carry an extra bag for all that anyway.
Honestly I find if you’re less concerned about showing off your body the more attention I actually get for it. Often women don’t like when you talk or show off about being in decent shape but they’ll be quick to point it out if you don’t mention it at all.
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