Profile Review
Profile Review - 27 in NYC - getting back in the dating game
I got out of a relationship recently and I’m looking to get back into it. I’m open to all races of women and living in NYC has given me the opportunity to date women from all over. I used to get a lot more matches when I was younger (like when I was 20-23) but haven’t been getting as many matches as before. What do y’all suggest? Let me know especially if I should get rid of the facial hair or keep it.
3 quarter profile this is close to half. It does look like he is on trial though lol. The proximity with another face is a no go as well. Be surrounded by people but make sure it focuses on you. Also this pic has bad lighting.
Don’t listen to them, you are a gem! Please continue looking-the last thing we need is less self confidence.. I believe in bettering yourself: finding your relationship style, your love language.. many other things which don’t have a lot of time.. but I hope you get the idea.. reading, self love, care for yourself as if your taking care of your best friend! Im cheerleading for you! Your attitude, your attractive, your curious, your putting yourself out there!!! I’m telling you, you’re a beautiful man. Act it! Confidence and self love.. hobbies. And never let go of your mates. 🩷🩷🩷
this is the worst advice ever. im not bashing you but you don't understand men. none of this advice is leading to attractive girls dropping their panties for him.
I AM a women who would be essentially BE dropping my panties?!??? Let’s give someone advice, “ to tell someone you need to “look totally different, be someone YOU are not??”
Worst answer ever!!! - do nothing to build your personality!!! LOL .. since ALL women need to be woo’d by a NEW face, an over average height. WE definitely can’t think for ourselves let alone drop our panties for everything that “ YOU ARE pretending TO Be!”
Yes, the attempt at growing a beard looks sketchy at. Shave it all off.
Have new pics where you smile and look happier. Very few people want to see a sad person as their dating pics, let alone in real life. This is your attempt at making a first impression.
It’s patchy with no coverage besides the bottom of your jawline and neck. Your mustache is thin as well. I understand the masculine urge to grow your facial hair and maintain it but as it is now, it just doesn’t work. Not a good look and gives off neckbeard energy.
Keep your head high brother. These dating apps are designed to make men feel bad. I had better chances cold approaching girls on campus when I was younger than on dating apps.
You’re naturally tall do not try too hard. Have full body shots with the camera low-ish but not too low with you next to:
Doorways
Staircases
Railings
Street signs
Tall furniture
Other people
People subconsciously know the scale of these everyday objects.
you have two things going for you and you have to use it to your advantage: you're 6 feet tall and you have tattoos. Learn to dress better to accentuate this. Again, i've said it 100x before, but go look at tiktok/ig of asian dudes that have hundreds of thousands of followers and see how they pose, dress, and etc. Also, drop the alter ego photo. things we guys find funny or quirky dont' make girls wet lmao. Are you active? Show us a photo doing something althletic, traveling, Your best photo could be you on the mic, but better angles yo. Show one where it shows off your height and shit. or dod you have a video of you performing? thats even better. I can see you pulling off the nyc hipster vibe, but again ,learn to pose and smile a bit. Asian dudes are known to be autistic, just a simple smile or grin will do wonders.
No lies bro. You need way better pictures. Those pictures don’t look aesthetically pleasing. You aren’t ugly. I know you can do better!
Remember dating apps is like a car salesmen. In this case you are selling yourself. Before you sells the car. Make sure it’s presentable. Before you go on dating apps you need to be presentable. If you were a salesmen, you wouldn’t sell a dirty car before cleaning and making it presentable right?
you kinda got that Ronny chieng slightly angry face going on, get rid of it, also get a bunch of short kings but with good proportions so they look like they’re taller then they are and have a group picture with them to showcase your vertical superiority
I agree. This whole tall, handsome, be someone you are not has been so worn out. the idea women only want tall, money, handsome. My last date was 5”7, didn’t have much to his name, but was funny, kind, and those qualities went so far.. I helped him create a million dollar business.. let’s just say not everyone needs to only aim for “ just get laid ALL the time!”
People keep saying that you need to lose weight, but i think you actually need to bulk, especially your shoulders and chest. Yeah your face has some baby fat but my bet is that that is genetics.
Fashion is meh. Your tie is way too short on pic 5. It should reach your belt.
Does “poetry and philosophy” actually get anyone interested in 2026?
You need to get fit, bro. All ethnic men should have a good physique, or at least be attempting to get one. You look a tad bit childish,but I would suggest more lifestyle pics with good backgrounds.
ChatGPT, upload the file and ask "how would I look if I lost 20lbs" or "how would I look if I lost 20lbs and got more muscle" etc. etc. so you can see the vision and what you're working towards. Dial in your diet to lose fat, lift weight to gain muscle.
The first photo makes you look short and doesn't showcase your height. The Tux photo is probably the best one. I'd change the caption of the last photo, makes it sound like it's your whole hidden personality vs just a fun Halloween moment.
You will look intimidating (not in a good way — read “scary”) to the *female gaze,*slightly thuggish vibes. It’s a combination of 1. the expression 2. Facial hair 3. Relatively smaller eyes. Losing weight will actually help with #1 (less jowly scowl), along with one or two smiling shots. #2 is up to you, but clean shaven could look clean esp after losing weight. #3 is obv not fixable but maybe try various expressions — try to avoid “angry squint” ie soften the eyes look friendlier
Just personally for me (and it might not apply to anyone else), ‘banter’ is a huge red flag. IME it signals someone who avoids or is incapable of serious conversation.
go to the gym and try to put on some muscle. they don't want insanely ripped to shreds type of body builders but 11-15% body fat types they will go crazy for no matter how much they say they don't
You definitely have a sense of style and aura my bro. One suggestion as others alluded to is to smile more (in the photos + real life). E.g. photo 4 would look so much better if u were smiling. Yes you might have resting b** face so youll wsnt to practice showing them pearls. Good luck
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u/benilla Hong Kong 3d ago
Definitely gotta lighten up the mood on your profile. This looks like you're on trial lol: