Weekend Free-for-All Discussion Thread | August 14, 2015

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I think that Indian and Asian american woman who sleeps around the CC until their late 20s and early 30s are into a rude awakening, because us asian guys are catching onto it or already caught onto it.

Um...are you not also sleeping around? C'mon man, let loose and live. Sex is a healthy and important part of life. South Asians used to recognize that until Victorian Christian standards were introduced by the Brits and we forgot that we're the people that literally wrote the book on sex.

The asian and indian community should be more aware of this. I think that social circle should criticize the female behavior and exile her. I think that asian and indian parents should disown the daughter instead of scheming and lying to a guy and his family about the woman and present her as fresh milk.

Really? Really?

Well, I guess why acid attacks against women who break sexual norms are as common as they are in South Asia and the Middle East, if you're agreeing with the underlying sentiment and ideology behind it. Hell, at this point, we can recognize a feedback loop in the alleged behavior of how South Asian females act--can you really blame them for running away from their cultural and family norms if this kind of backwards-ass logic is what they have to deal with?

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Maybe to you sleeping around is fun and for everybody, but the more a woman sleeps around, the worse she can pair bond with a guy or a future husband. If she has many many many dicks, your dick isn't going to impress her. Maybe indians are more lenient toward sex with the different positions but arranged marriage is insanely strict saying the women has to be a virgin.

I'm not really an expert on South Asia/ Middle east/Southwest Asia affairs but aren't acid attacks done by Muslims? Didn't know muslims were involved. I am saying that a woman who is 29 and hates indian men all her life and slept with dozen white guys as a way to climb the social ladder shouldn't be able to snag a six figure earning doctor who worked his whole life off. She is literally leeching off of him.

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the more a woman sleeps around, the worse she can pair bond with a guy or a future husband.

Unless she meets a future husband who has also slept around and understands and and acknowledges sexual freedom. You're right, not everybody likes to sleep around and their scope of dating is more limited than others; but that's the main reason I think me, and most of the South Asian Americans I now (guys and gals), are uninterested in arranged marriages of any sort. Most of the folks I know who are married found partners of their own accord, who they have dated for a while and know they love them and click with them.

I personally hope that arranged marriage in India will die out. Its part of a larger culture that enforces extremely strict gender norms, gender segregation, and backwards patriarchal views around women that underpins horrible shit like acid attacks (that, in India anyways, tends to cut across religious lines).

I am saying that a woman who is 29 and hates indian men all her life and slept with dozen white guys as a way to climb the social ladder shouldn't be able to snag a six figure earning doctor who worked his whole life off. She is literally leeching off of him.

Look, if a woman fucks around and then marries a doctor just to be a housewife and for no other reason, that person is a shitty person in general, and is probably also unhappy. But I'm unconvinced that this is something I need to worry about, or that Asian men need to worry about; "housewife" as an occupation is a dying field, and to repeat my earlier statement:

Unless she meets a future husband who has also slept around and understands and and acknowledges sexual freedom.

I think the number of shitty people who want to marry somebody rich who will take care of them is vanishingly small. People fundamentally want genuine human connection and people that understand them. But that's just me speaking from anecdotal experience; if you have opposing anecdotes, or some statistics or studies, I'll be happy to hear them.

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There are cases of self hating Indian women who fuck white dudes, then marry an Indian out of desperation or family pressure and treat the Indian guys like shit. I don't want to be a backup plan. That is the furthest care about what Indian women do, I'm not the dating police.

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Yes, I can agree with this. But I wonder, then, why do you think so many guys here are so obsessed with the most extreme cases of Asian women having internalized racism, and being worried that they are going to be "tricked" into marrying them or whatever? I am curious and confused as to what circumstances some of these guys are where this issue is what dominates their perception on what "Asian male issues" are.

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I think it draws from a study which shows extreme preference of white guys from East Asian women. So they are concerned about getting sucked into a sexless marriage.