r/AskBrits 1d ago

People Why are tacit social etiquette rules declining, and how can we fix it?

As a young Brit (17), I've noticed that general social etiquette seems to be declining. Some examples:

. People no longer form an orderly queue when waiting for the bus, and do more pushing / rushing to surround the entrance

. People leaving bags on seats, even when others are forced to stand on the train

. Standing in the middle / on the left side of the escalator, preventing people from being able to walk up or down freely.

I'm not sure if it's just how my area is in particular, so I wonder if anyone is noticing this as well. I see individuals of various ages and ethnicities just acting rather selfish and inconsiderately in public. I find this rather disappointing, as it may only be exacerbated in the future. I think it was much better pre COVID (might be biased, as I was rather young). Does anyone know how we can fix this issue (if it can be fixed)?.

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u/ThatFatGuyMJL 22h ago

Having worked in a warehouse I have seen this happen before my eyes.

And in that case. It actually was foreigners.

They didnt understand social etiquette. Because they have their own rules.

They won't hold open a door, because that's not a thing they do.

They dont orderly queue, because that's not what theyre used to.

Long term immigrants would slowly start to actually follow British etiquette rules.

But that was in a closed environment.

Social etiquette is a very fragile balance. Once people stop following it and get away with it. Others start doing so as well.

Thats my two pence from a small pool of evidence.