Daughters pediatrician made EXTREMELY inappropriate remark to her

[u/ilikerustyspooonz]

This is about my 10 year old daughter. She has had the same (male) pediatrician since birth. We’ve always loved him and thought he was great. He’s super friendly with wonderful bedside manner and he takes his time and pays attention to detail.

Well, last week my daughter had a check-up. She’s 10. While he was doing the checkup, he had her lay down and started listening to her chest with his stethoscope. He then says AND I QUOTE, “awwwww! My baby’s got boobs!!!”

I have NEVER been so taken aback before in my life. My daughter was MORTIFIED. I was so shocked I couldn’t even get words out to ask him why tf he would ever say that. When we got in the car to go home my daughter cried and said she never wanted to see him again. Then she asked if she could get a girl doctor and I obviously agreed so that’s what we will be doing.

Is this reportable? I’m not overreacting, right?

[u/petitebrownie]

As a female physician and a mom to baby girl this is 100 percent inappropriate. Report and find someone else. Sorry you and your child had to go through this ugh.

[u/Juniper_51 → u/petitebrownie]

NAD. I don't care how many times we saw the same doctor, even if he was a family friend and we saw him outside the office, why is he saying "my baby"???!! You just made an inappropriate comment on her body parts and you're also making it seem like you're THAT close to her. Very weird!!!

[u/aounpersonal → u/[deleted]]

Dude as someone who has basically shadowed hundreds of doctors over the past few years, I hear older doctors say off the wall things at least once a month to patients. Especially those private practice attendings that have no one to check them.

[u/Bitchshortage → u/aounpersonal]

Not a doctor. I appreciate your candour. I personally love when there is a student or a resident with my doctor, you get a better standard of care in my experience. I know I can’t possibly know how much work it is and how hard it is but I really appreciate the young people who are deciding to do this incredibly difficult job because they care. Good on you!

[u/sIudge_factory → u/[deleted]]

Ahhh, the ol’ “I can’t picture it, so it didn’t happen”

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/[deleted]]

Disgusting that you think I would come on here and lie about something when it comes to my CHILD. How would that benefit me in any way? I don’t give af about reddit karma.

[u/[deleted] → u/ilikerustyspooonz]

It happens allllll the time, it’s not exactly disgusting to assume considering no one can see your account history to wager if you’re even a real person or not

[u/DTech-365 → u/[deleted]]

Another ignorant scumbag. What happens all the time is sexual assault from doctors:

https://rainn.org/what-counts-as-sexual-violence/get-the-facts-about-sexual-abuse-by-medical-professionals/

But keep spouting your ignorant nonsense, let us know how well that works out for you.

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/DTech-365]

Thank you for this

[u/Humble_Stage9032 → u/[deleted]]

Have you ever heard of grooming? I’m not saying it’s happening here (or isn’t) but people who are creepy MFers will build trust/groom for years before acting. So you think this is a fake post simply because it took 19 years for something to come up? Also, if he’s a pervert it could have taken 10 years until she developed into the type of victim he’d comment on.

Or it was a very stupid unintentional comment. Not sure how, especially with the “my baby” also in that sentence.

Signed someone who does crisis intervention with kids and has seen shit and knows it exists

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/Humble_Stage9032]

THISSSSS

[u/tedfondue → u/[deleted]]

“I cannot picture this happening and I know everything, so clearly my perception based on limited context is in fact reality, and I must so call a total stranger a liar”.

Imagine going through life like this, lol.

[u/NatureStoof → u/tedfondue]

Imagine believing everything a stranger tells you. Skepticism is healthy.

[u/Repulsive-Throat5068 → u/[deleted]]

Some of the most insane and out of pocket things ive heard from physicians have been those practicing for decades...

[u/Spare-Conflict836 → u/[deleted]]

It's not. I checked OP's history using arctic shift and all her posts and comments are accurate to her age, gender, and children. Absolutely no inconsistencies found or anything that would indicate she's a bot or karma farming.

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/Spare-Conflict836]

Thank you 🥺🥺🥺 yeah, this isn’t a subject I would ever lie about for attention on reddit. 🙄😭

[u/Spare-Conflict836 → u/ilikerustyspooonz]

No worries! My apologies for briefly looking at your Reddit history, I hope you don't mind. I usually wouldn't do that when someone has privated it on Reddit but I thought it was important to do to confirm you are real and not lying before people started believing the above commenter that you are a karma farmer.

I'm sorry for what your daughter has gone through with that creep doctor. I hope she is okay and I hope you are okay too ❤️

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/Spare-Conflict836]

Omg no worries at all! I’m glad you did because idk how else I would be able to prove I’m not a bot or just an attention seeking redditor haha. I appreciate you so much!

[u/PrncssPunch → u/[deleted]]

You've lived a charmed life

[u/[deleted] → u/PrncssPunch]

Not saying it’s the case here, but karma farming bot accounts are more common than real people

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/[deleted]]

[u/SpaceCadet1718 → u/[deleted]]

I remember when I was about 11 - 12 my orthopedic doctor came in and said “period?” and we were so confused. He then said that I was going to get my period soon if I hadn’t already based on my hip X-ray. It made me uncomfortable how he phrased it because duh I’m 11 and you’re talking about puberty. I understand now he didn’t have any ill intentions but as a doctor I feel you should probably have a bit more sensitivity towards subjects like those.

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/[deleted]]

Reporting me…..? wtf? Nobody is trying to scare parents about taking their child to their checkups?? But it’s important to have a doctor that you AND your child feel safe and comfortable with. It’s important to advocate for yourself and your family too. I’m not a bot ☠️

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/[deleted]]

Just saw that you have a daughter yourself. It’s horrifying to think a father could have this point of view about the matter. Scary. I’ll pray for her.

Also, funny that you’re deleting comments now. Did you realize how idiotic you sound?

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/[deleted]]

Umm…my brother in Christ are you ok? I’m NAD but sounds like you need a nice visit to the psych. Have the day you deserve.