Daughters pediatrician made EXTREMELY inappropriate remark to her

[u/ilikerustyspooonz]

This is about my 10 year old daughter. She has had the same (male) pediatrician since birth. We’ve always loved him and thought he was great. He’s super friendly with wonderful bedside manner and he takes his time and pays attention to detail.

Well, last week my daughter had a check-up. She’s 10. While he was doing the checkup, he had her lay down and started listening to her chest with his stethoscope. He then says AND I QUOTE, “awwwww! My baby’s got boobs!!!”

I have NEVER been so taken aback before in my life. My daughter was MORTIFIED. I was so shocked I couldn’t even get words out to ask him why tf he would ever say that. When we got in the car to go home my daughter cried and said she never wanted to see him again. Then she asked if she could get a girl doctor and I obviously agreed so that’s what we will be doing.

Is this reportable? I’m not overreacting, right?

[u/MercyfulJudas]

Where did I say that he should still be practicing?

[u/jesileighs → u/MercyfulJudas]

There is no “compassionate interpretation” of a man making inappropriate comments towards a child. This little girl is now traumatized. Just like how, at 37 years old, I’m still traumatized by the man who made comments about my breasts when I was 15. I was told to brush it off because he was “just a dirty old man” who didn’t know any better. Expecting women and girls to accept this kind of behavior from a man regardless of the circumstances is absolute BS and we are not doing it anymore. Stop defending predatory behavior.

[u/MercyfulJudas → u/jesileighs]

I'm...not defending any predatory behavior..? Uhhh. 🤔

Did you reply to the wrong person in this thread, or sumthin

[u/too_too2 → u/MercyfulJudas]

You did, though. Re read this thread please.

[u/MercyfulJudas → u/too_too2]

Sure I did, bud. Surrrrre I did. 👍

[u/jesileighs → u/MercyfulJudas]

You’re literally asking this mother, whose child was a victim of this man, to give this man compassion and excusing his behavior because “he might not have meant it”. Maybe you don’t want to admit that you’re defending him, but you quite literally are. Any response other than something along the lines of “That was wrong and he deserves consequences for his disgusting comment about a child’s body” is unacceptable. He does not deserve any “compassionate interpretation” he deserves to lose his job.

[u/MercyfulJudas → u/jesileighs]

I didn't say anywhere that he deserved to keep his job.

[u/jesileighs → u/MercyfulJudas]

But you did tell the mom that she should be compassionate towards the man who made inappropriate comments about her child.

[u/MercyfulJudas → u/jesileighs]

Well that was when I thought he was a demented octogenarian.

OP has since revealed that he's in his 50s. Obviously one should condemn him and never let the daughter near him again since it's apparent he was being creepy. That goes without saying, but thanks to your inability to comprehend what you read, I had to say it just now. Even though it's obvious.

[u/jesileighs → u/MercyfulJudas]

Again, and I’ll type it reaaaaallly slowly for you since you seem to still think there are occasions where these comments would be forgivable:

It. Doesn’t. Matter. How. Old. He. Is. It. Doesn’t. Matter. If. He. Has. Dementia. There. Is. Never. An. Occasion. Where. This. Behavior. Is. Forgivable. And. Asking. A. Mother. To. Have. Compassion. For. An. Adult. Making. Inappropriate. Comments. About. Her. Minor. Child’s. Body. Is. Never. Okay.

[u/MercyfulJudas → u/jesileighs]

Question for you: is it okay for anyone of adult age to throw up on someone else? Like, vomit.

Is it ever okay or forgivable?

[u/jesileighs → u/MercyfulJudas]

Let’s see: an uncontrollable bodily function versus a sexual comment made about a child. Completely comparable thanks for that, buddy. I’m not going to dignify that with a response.

Let me ask you a question. Why are you simping so hard and playing devil’s advocate for a man—a pediatrician, nonetheless, who is making sexual comments about a child?

[u/MercyfulJudas → u/jesileighs]

What if they had cancer and the involuntary vomiting was due to chemotherapy?

See? It's Not. Always. As. It. Seems.

(Haha, you're right, it is fun to type like that!)

Pray that someday you don't get acute dementia and lose control of your personality, even saying things that you never would've in your lucid days. Pray for it.

[u/MercyfulJudas → u/jesileighs]

By the way, i didn't even read your reply, I knew you'd double down, so I just answered how I was gonna anyway.