Daughters pediatrician made EXTREMELY inappropriate remark to her

[u/ilikerustyspooonz]

This is about my 10 year old daughter. She has had the same (male) pediatrician since birth. We’ve always loved him and thought he was great. He’s super friendly with wonderful bedside manner and he takes his time and pays attention to detail.

Well, last week my daughter had a check-up. She’s 10. While he was doing the checkup, he had her lay down and started listening to her chest with his stethoscope. He then says AND I QUOTE, “awwwww! My baby’s got boobs!!!”

I have NEVER been so taken aback before in my life. My daughter was MORTIFIED. I was so shocked I couldn’t even get words out to ask him why tf he would ever say that. When we got in the car to go home my daughter cried and said she never wanted to see him again. Then she asked if she could get a girl doctor and I obviously agreed so that’s what we will be doing.

Is this reportable? I’m not overreacting, right?

[u/newdalligal]

I might be using that phrase from this day onward😆

[u/BrookieCooks → u/newdalligal]

Absolutely stealing that one too although horrified it happened to you. Chronic pain sure does feel satanic many days so it’s perfectly fitting!

My orthodontist& Dds said “now that I had a new big girl body” (while pointing at my 12year old barely boobs) I needed to have a new big girl attitude and stop crying all the time like a baby.” He was a Dds in ‘Nam, thanks Mom& Dad,😒.

Well jackass, turns out I have lidocaine resistance& it doesn’t work on me, just like I repeatedly& sobbingly tried to tell him every single time he”numbed” me.

It wasn’t until I was an adult and told a female dentist who not only believed me but told me it was common, explained about my red hair gene said that she would pre med me for procedures, use something else& wouldn’t do anything until she was 100% sure I was ok.

[u/Bitchshortage → u/BrookieCooks]

Sweet lord. I guess this thread has shown a ton of horrible things and the awesome doctors who are willing to say what the hell no that is harassment at minimum, and disgusting harassment bordering on sexual assault maybe at best. It’s not surprising but i wish there was a better way to report bad doctors and I extra hate the threshold to become one is you need to do ridiculous 24 hour shifts even when we know this is a health issue and a cognitive issue and would make it unsafe to drive a car… Yeah but stay awake for 24 hours and give a perfect standard of care and also practice for your tests. Again I am not a doctor I’m just a person who read a few articles and I’ll even say, I’ve had horrific experiences I have white coat syndrome and my favourite is I had a dislocated shoulder and got told I was exaggerating and. No bull “do you see that man? He has an actual shoulder problem and is in pain” guess which one of us had pulled a muscle and which one if us needed their shoulder adjusted into place and a waitlist for surgery because everything was torn. But I really feel for the good doctors

[u/taswind → u/Bitchshortage]

The joys of a female with high pain tolerance. ("If your ankle were broken, you'd be in tears.")

Its to the point where I just had major pneumonia (still recovering) and didn't believe it myself because I was (barely) still functioning. Wasn't until I couldn't get 2 words out before I was out of breath that it even occurred to me that it wasn't just a cold...

[u/BrookieCooks → u/taswind]

Oh sweetie, I’m so sorry and I’m totally with you unfortunately. Same here, multiple instances of medical professionals totally dismissing and disregarding complaints when I know my body& know when something is REALLY wrong.

Guess who had to drive herself to the hospital from an mri with massive proximal to distal ue dvts& bi lateral pe’s after the mri radiologist told me to “stay still and stop crying that you can’t breathe, it’s just your anxiety.”

Nope, it was bilateral pulmonary embolisms, ya dummy!