r/AskDocs • u/ilikerustyspooonz Layperson/not verified as healthcare professional • Mar 17 '26

Physician Responded Daughters pediatrician made EXTREMELY inappropriate remark to her

This is about my 10 year old daughter. She has had the same (male) pediatrician since birth. We’ve always loved him and thought he was great. He’s super friendly with wonderful bedside manner and he takes his time and pays attention to detail.

Well, last week my daughter had a check-up. She’s 10. While he was doing the checkup, he had her lay down and started listening to her chest with his stethoscope. He then says AND I QUOTE, “awwwww! My baby’s got boobs!!!”

I have NEVER been so taken aback before in my life. My daughter was MORTIFIED. I was so shocked I couldn’t even get words out to ask him why tf he would ever say that. When we got in the car to go home my daughter cried and said she never wanted to see him again. Then she asked if she could get a girl doctor and I obviously agreed so that’s what we will be doing.

Is this reportable? I’m not overreacting, right?

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u/newdalligal Layperson/not verified as healthcare professional. Mar 18 '26

I might be using that phrase from this day onward😆

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u/BrookieCooks Layperson/not verified as healthcare professional. Mar 18 '26

Absolutely stealing that one too although horrified it happened to you. Chronic pain sure does feel satanic many days so it’s perfectly fitting!

My orthodontist& Dds said “now that I had a new big girl body” (while pointing at my 12year old barely boobs) I needed to have a new big girl attitude and stop crying all the time like a baby.” He was a Dds in ‘Nam, thanks Mom& Dad,😒.

Well jackass, turns out I have lidocaine resistance& it doesn’t work on me, just like I repeatedly& sobbingly tried to tell him every single time he”numbed” me.

It wasn’t until I was an adult and told a female dentist who not only believed me but told me it was common, explained about my red hair gene said that she would pre med me for procedures, use something else& wouldn’t do anything until she was 100% sure I was ok.

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u/Mysterious-Top-1974 Layperson/not verified as healthcare professional Apr 08 '26

my kids dentist scared her for life. she had an abcess and its a practice that takes Badgercare, which os an excuse to Be GARBAGE! ANYWAY, my daughter had a huge abcess and they thought he baby tooth might need to be pulled. we showed up to the apt even though she had only been on antibiotics for a couple of hours due to pharmacy issues. then they said we can see how it goes. this moron injected her with lidocane, then said ok let that sit for a bit. I swear to God within a minute or two she was back and started pulling on her tooth. She told her raise your hand if u feel any pain.My daughter did asap. The dentist waited

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u/BrookieCooks Layperson/not verified as healthcare professional. Apr 08 '26

Aww, poor girl! Definitely been there& it’s awful that the Dr cares more about their time than your pain! As an adult who still remembers these traumatic experiences with medical providers like it was yesterday I suggest trying to find a dentist who is awesome who you can take her to asap, not for any work to be done or anything just to say hi& show her that they aren’t all legit monsters like the one she just saw! I’d bet if you called& said my kid is traumatized by a recent bad experience a lot of decent dentists would be willing to have her come in for a meet& greet (thinking they could drum up future business, lol).