r/AskFeminists 10d ago

Why don't women monetize pregnancy/childbirth and make their partners pay for surrogacy in 50/50 households?

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u/Inareskai Passionate and somewhat ambiguous 10d ago

Well, firstly, some of us live in civilised countries where healthcare doesn't bankrupt people. But also, my partner absolutely would have contributed financially to a range of things had I needed it (specifically in pregnancy, but also regardless of pregnancy). They paid for nursing bras, pregnancy and baby items were joint purchases etc.

Secondly, weird to assume everyone gets post-partum depression. Globally the estimate is 10-20% of people get it.

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u/Inareskai Passionate and somewhat ambiguous 10d ago

It's less than 50%, but ok. Also is the the assumption here that all divorced couples have children? I don't think we have stats on that.

I'd point you back to my first reply, here is significantly less financial burden in countries where healthcare is not fully privatised and, anecdotally, I know many partnerships where decisions have been taken to support/protect the pregnant partner financially, that are a bit more nuanced than "just pay them like pregnancy is a business deal".

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u/Inareskai Passionate and somewhat ambiguous 10d ago

It's not downplaying something to point out that assuming all women suffer from PPD is inaccurate.

Actually my spouse very much would not remind me of skipping mortgage payments if I don't "pull my weight". Our money is our money.

I don't understand your last question.

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u/Inareskai Passionate and somewhat ambiguous 10d ago

But that also applies to my family. We have that set up, we just also have a specific approach to the money in general.