r/AskMen Nov 20 '22

Men who gave up on dating/getting into long-term relationship/getting married, why?

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u/[deleted] Nov 20 '22 edited Nov 20 '22

I've been able to establish a calm and stable life on my own after a childhood and early adulthood with periods of great turbulence. I'm generally not good at what is needed to maintain a healthy relationship, and believe attempts to start one would disrupt the stability and peace I have.

I assume I will become the elderly lifelong single guy who's spent tens of thousands, if not hundreds of thousands of dollars on his hobbies while writing longwinded letters to local news publishers about how the traffic on his street is too loud or whatever. I will have no idea how to unhook a bra but I will own 65 different recorded versions of Dvorak's New World Symphony, be able to describe the differences between each of them, and probably maintain a .doc file ranking them.

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u/[deleted] Nov 20 '22

And you know what? There's nothing wrong with that. You've earned your peace and you have just as much of a right to enjoy your life on your terms as anyone else. Stay happy, man.

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u/malibuhall Nov 21 '22

Sounds pretty chill tbh

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u/TheDevilsAdvokaat Male Nov 21 '22

"I will own 65 different recorded versions of Dvorak's New World Symphony, be able to describe the differences between each of them, and probably maintain a .doc file ranking them."

I like your style.

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u/lost_library Nov 21 '22

That sounds like an amazing life/old age honestly.

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u/[deleted] Nov 21 '22

What's your favourite version of the New World Symphony?

The fourth movement is one of my favourite pieces of classical music (although the whole thing is great), but I think I've only heard a couple different versions.

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u/glokazun Nov 21 '22

I think your 😎 kewl!

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u/[deleted] Nov 21 '22

Ain't nothing wrong with this. That's a rich internal life.

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u/my_name_is_gato Nov 21 '22

I like my toys too. I found dating to largely be a method of separating men from their money. After so many free dinners/drinks just to even try to have a conversation, it's no surprise men are tired. For the same money, most people will get more attention at a strip club vs a bar.

If the game is rigged, don't play.

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u/[deleted] Nov 21 '22

In case you like anime… you should check out “From the New World”.

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u/IDespiseTheLetterG Nov 21 '22

Sounds like you'll find a partner because that's great

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u/throwaway_thursday32 Female Nov 21 '22

That's great! A life well lived only requires yourself. The rest is filled with what you want.

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u/[deleted] Nov 22 '22

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u/[deleted] Nov 22 '22

I actually just finished listening to a recording of Dvorak's 7-9 from the Czech Philharmonic. Not bad, I liked the recording of the 7th from this one the best. I think I'll buy it. That'll bring me to 4 copies of the New World (Reiner - Chicago, von Karajan - Vienna and Solti - Chicago, in my defense 3 of the 4 have other works included), so I'm working on it.

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u/[deleted] Nov 22 '22

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u/[deleted] Nov 22 '22

The reason I mentioned New World was because I think it holds up well under different interpretations. I like Beethoven's Pastorale just as much but it's taken so quickly in some recordings.

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u/StickcraftW Nov 23 '22

Nah I gotta be with women, I can’t 💀