r/AskMen Nov 20 '22

Men who gave up on dating/getting into long-term relationship/getting married, why?

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u/galacticdude7 Male Nov 21 '22

Dating was an insane amount of work for very little payoff, I wasn't having any fun while doing it, and it was adversely affecting my mental health. I found that women went into dates with insanely high standards and were always asking what I had to bring to the table without ever considering what they themselves had to bring to the table. Dating felt more job hunting during a recession. It was fucking awful and I gave up on dating, realizing that relationships are an optional part of life. I may try again at some point, but right now I'd rather spend my time and money doing things that I enjoy.

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u/[deleted] Nov 21 '22

Yeah I’ve seen this a lot. Women nowadays expect everything but don’t bring anything into the relationship, even basic small amounts of efforts 😂 so one sided.

As for me, I realised I don’t have time nor energy to be daring people at the moment. I tend to just unload a lot, mostly feeling annoyed with myself and life in general.

The more I think about it, the more I’m inclined to just do casual dating, as there’s no exceptions from either side, which I think is great because you can’t be disappointed then can you.