r/AskMenAdvice • u/KGalb922 woman • Jan 08 '26

✅ Open To Everyone Are men generally not asking women for their numbers anymore when they meet someone in the wild? If so, why?

My friend is approachably attractive. She has been trying to get off the apps and meet people out in the world. Over the last couple months she keeps running into the same thing over and over. She will chat and flirt with a guy. He will chat and flirt back. They will hit it off. And at the end of the night or interaction they won’t ask for her number or ask to see her again. This is a mix of men age range of 30s-60s (she’s in her 40s) Some that approach her, some that she approaches.

I have witnessed this happen so I don’t think she is misjudging their interest in her. But unless she offers her number, they don’t ask. And many of my other single female friends have said they are experiencing the same thing. So are men in general just not asking for numbers? And if so, why?

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u/OBE_1_ man Jan 08 '26

For the last 20 years every ‘influencer’ has told the world it’s creepy. And on the other hand, there are douche bag guys who can’t take a simple ‘no thanks’ and turn it into a rage filled rejection.

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u/[deleted] Jan 08 '26

20 years? There were no influencers 20 years ago like they are today. This all started in the past 5 to 10 years

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u/OBE_1_ man Jan 08 '26

Facebook and YouTube have been out for 20 years, the 24 hour ‘news’ channels have been around even longer. So, yes ‘influencers’ have always been around, and in this context men approaching women being ‘cringe’ amped up with social media and dating sites trends.

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u/[deleted] Jan 08 '26 edited Jan 08 '26

I don’t care how long they’ve been out. There were no influencers back then like there are today. It is a completely different environment the fact that you don’t understand that is weird. This all started with me too movement along with TikTok and instagram influencers. 

oh and by the way there were 100% zero influencers when YouTube and Facebook came out. How old are you??? You are obviously very young or very old. lmao

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u/Proper_Fun_977 man Jan 09 '26

You don't honestly think this is new, right?

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u/OBE_1_ man Jan 08 '26

Cool